We FINALLY don't care what trolls think | We love our 40s

Vogue & Amber

The episode opens with Amber celebrating her 41st birthday, reflecting on how turning 40 brings unshakable confidence and resilience against public criticism about body image. The conversation shifts to personal

Key takeaways

• Amber celebrates turning 41, noting that entering your forties brings unshakable confidence and resilience against public criticism.
• Vogue shares birthday plans at Grasso restaurant in London followed by drinks at the Devonshire pub in Soho.

Main topics

• Aging & confidence
• Birthday celebrations & London plans

Notable quotes

"When you get to your 40s or in your 30s, late 30s, you kind of get to a point where you're like, you know what? No, I like this is the way I am."

Conclusion

The episode offers a relatable mix of personal milestones, lighthearte

Transcript preview

Speaker 1 (0:00) you Speaker 1 (0:02) This is a global production. I Speaker 2 (0:04) look back at pictures and like, I remember once being photographed in St. Barts and when it really got to me and I would have been in my 30s and everyone was saying that like I was overweight and like all things and I wasn't. But when you have 500 people saying something like that, you kind of... believe it. When you get to your 40s or in your 30s, late 30s, you kind of get to a point where you're like, you know what, no, I like, this is the way I am, this is my face, this is my body and you kind of get a sense of like more confidence about yourself and you're just like, I'm happy with the way I am, I'm happy with my life and like no one can get you. I think Speaker 3 (0:40) you become Speaker 2 (0:40) wiser and then also you inevitably Speaker 3 (0:42) build up a resilience the older that you get. So that's our philosophical thought for the week and a big happy birthday to my big sis. Speaker 2 (0:49) to your little sis. Speaker 3 (0:55) A big happy birthday to my Speaker 2 (0:56) big sister. Speaker 2 (0:58) To her, a big sister in the sense that I'm larger than her, but much, Speaker 3 (1:04) much. I'm probably a lot more mature. Speaker 2 (1:05) A lot more Speaker 3 (1:06) mature. Speaker 2 (1:07) What's on the agenda for your birthday? Well, I woke up this morning because the kids, because I'm basically going off for the day. So I was like, they'll be really upset if they don't get to do cake. So we got up and I sent them off to school with a full cupcake each in their tummies. You'll be Speaker 3 (1:24) thrilled with that. Well, I just Speaker 2 (1:27) thought, you know what? Not my problem. They have to have cake for a birthday or they just lose their mind. Do you remember Otto when it was his birthday? I got him this Minion cake. Now, it was amazing. It was so cool. And he basically, I took him to like a play centre with all his friends and he basically sat at the table looking at his cake the whole time and I couldn't get him to go and play. I was like, you can come back to the cake and he just sat there in front of it just staring at it, waiting. Speaker 2 (1:56) Someone said to me that you're really, like, turning 41 is really depressing because, like, 40 is such a big age. But, like, I honestly think with every birthday, I'm like, at least I'm not dead. Like, that's the alternative. I Speaker 3 (2:10) love turning 40. I love turning 40. I just think entering that decade, I don't know, there is something monumental about it. And, yeah, I'm loving it. Yeah, Speaker 2 (2:22) but Speaker 3 (2:22) you're like... Speaker 2 (2:23) I think when you're 40, you're a grown up. It's only when you get to 40. So anyone below 40, girls, you're not. Speaker 3 (2:28) That's not what I took from it, OK? We're grown ups now. I took something more philosophical in the fact that like you're finally, finally at a stage in your life because obviously, well, I know for me, I was super awkward in my teens, probably equally awkward in my 20s as I was finding Speaker 2 (2:44) myself, you know, Speaker 3 (2:45) in Speaker 2 (2:45) terms of that inclination that I have in Speaker 3 (2:47) life toward the ladies. Speaker 3 (2:50) I was only thinking about that yesterday. It's kind of sad that I didn't come out to my kind of like late 20s, you'd have to say at this stage. I knew when I was Speaker 2 (2:59) 16. What, that you weren't? No, that you were a gay lord, that you were a gay lord. Speaker 3 (3:05) Yeah, I knew. And then 30s, I don't know, I think 30s. 30s are for mistakes. Speaker 2 (3:16) I Speaker 3 (3:16) think 30s are. Speaker 3 (3:19) 20s are for messing 30s are for kind of building your career and still Speaker 2 (3:22) messing a bit and then 40s it's just like Speaker 3 (3:24) I feel like you're fully Speaker 2 (3:25) cop on Speaker 3 (3:25) to yourself not even just cop on to yourself I feel like you're fully confident and like it is the era because I know always and even mom says it to me now when I don't want to wear certain things because I have I have so I have This is so weird. But I have breast tissue that goes into, that's gone into my armpit and I have kind of chubby armpits. So I say I have other vaginas. I call them my vagina arms. So I won't wear any like sleeveless tops and stuff like that. My Speaker 2 (3:52) mum's like, well, Speaker 3 (3:52) wait, you're Speaker 2 (3:53) older. You regret not doing that, Speaker 3 (3:54) you know? I don't know. In your photos, your Speaker 2 (3:57) vagina arms are genuinely down. That's because they're never out. Yeah, but I've seen them and they're not like, everybody has that. Probably me less because I just don't have boobs. Speaker 3 (4:07) Well, I was told I'm never getting rid of it. So that's life. Even if I do special exercises, it is what it is. It's breast tissue. It's not as if you can lose weight off your breasts. So anyway, we are where we are. Well, I can't. Embrace Speaker 2 (4:18) it. Speaker 2 (4:20) Feeding a child. Feeding a child. I do think, though, I agree with you. I was working in Birmingham last night at this lovely event. And you know when you go somewhere and I was sad I didn't go earlier because like they were just all so nice and so lovely to be around and like good fun. And we went to it was a big event. They're having this beauty event over the weekend. If you live in Ben, I know you won't see this. You'll have missed it. Anyway. I was in, I was doing a Birmingham. I love, I love that accent. I was doing an event there. We were talking Speaker 3 (4:52) about, Birmingham have a monorail in the airport. Speaker 2 (4:56) How do you know that? I've been on it. Speaker 3 (4:59) I've flown into Speaker 2 (5:00) Birmingham before. Yeah, so Speaker 3 (5:02) have I. So sorry, carry on about your beauty event. Speaker 2 (5:04) So no, because I was, we were talking about what beauty means to you and stuff and like, where, like, are you confident? And I was like, I don't think that you're that confident in your, in your. certainly not in your teens, but I think even in your twenties. And I remember I used to still, even in my thirties, I used to get really upset about people because obviously a lot of people comment on pictures of me, particularly if it's in a bikini and people used to call me. Like I look back at pictures and like, I remember once being photographed in St. Barthes and when it really got to me and it would have been in my thirties and everyone was saying that like I was overweight and like all things. And I wasn't, but... when you have 500 people saying something like that, you kind of believe it. And I was looking back at the pictures, it popped up on my phone. And I was like, it's just so insane to think that you can let people get inside your head like that. Because I had abs. Like I was not, I would have been, but I remember feeling so. like gross about myself. And I think when you get to your 40s or in your 30s, late 30s, you kind of get to a point where you're like, you know what? No, I like this is the way I am. This is my face. This is my body. And you kind of get a sense of like more confidence about yourself. And you're just like, I'm happy with the way I am. I'm happy with my life. And like no one can get you. Speaker 3 (6:18) I think you become wiser and then also you inevitably build up a resilience the older that you get. Do you know what I mean? Because you learn about the world and the ways of the world. And yeah. So Speaker 2 (6:28) that's our Speaker 3 (6:28) philosophical thought for the week. And a big happy birthday to my big sis. Speaker 2 (6:32) To your little sis. I'm going out today. So I'm going out with Hadley, Alice, Briley, who looks after my socials. Because people that you work with, girls, don't worry, we'll go out together one time too. All the girls in the pod I'm talking to. Speaker 3 (6:46) Poor Alice, who I call Abby. But we've been Speaker 2 (6:49) planning this since I got pregnant. And we were like, right, we have this day. We're going to go out. What are you doing? Well, we were meant to go out tomorrow. And then I was like, hang on a second. I'll definitely end up having drinks on my birthday. And I don't have drinks two days in a row. So I was like, let's switch it to Friday. So we are, we're going to a restaurant called Grasso. If I hear Spencer. mentioned the mozzarella sticks again. I said, Svenny, that's not really my vibe. Oh, it will be. I was like, it's more. And he was like, well, Amber. And I was like, yes, so it's more Amber's vibe. Actually, Speaker 3 (7:18) I wouldn't. I wouldn't. I watch those videos online of people, you know, they do the cheese tree. I can't remember where it's from. Chili's or something like that. Speaker 2 (7:25) No, so we're going to this restaurant called Grasso. I've never been. It's like pizza, pasta, nice cocktails and stuff. And then, do you know where we're going after? The Devonshire. Have you guys heard of that? Speaker 3 (7:34) Is it Devonshire Speaker 2 (7:35) or Devonshire? Devonshire. Well, we would say Shire, but they all say Shire here. So we're going to Devonshire. I need to Speaker 3 (7:41) go there. Speaker 2 (7:42) Yeah. Ryan Toverty bought me once. I love Ryan. I love Ryan. I know. And so then we're going to the Devonshire after for drinks. And it's like it's it's I've been it's great crack. It's an Irish pub. It's in Soho. And it's like it's kind of famous for its Guinness, but it's also famous. Speaker 3 (7:59) That's my territory Speaker 2 (8:00) now, Speaker 3 (8:00) Soho. You'd Speaker 2 (8:01) be Speaker 3 (8:01) going to Freedom Bar for a little boogie afterwards. That's the gay bar downstairs. They have a pole, a dancing pole. Speaker 2 (8:07) I've been to GAY and everything and you know... That's closed. Is it? Speaker 3 (8:12) Yeah, that's closed. I think I went in for a drink. That was pretty full on there with the neon lights, the flashing lights, everything like that. They should have some warnings when you go in there. But that's closed for ages, yeah. Well, I went Speaker 2 (8:22) there years ago when I was living in London, when I was doing my acting course. Speaker 2 (8:28) And I went swimming in the fountain after, like in Soho. And I woke up the next day and the smell off my clothes, off my hair. I would say that's as bad as Speaker 3 (8:39) swimming in the Thames or the Lille. Like Speaker 2 (8:41) you'd have to go get an injection in case you caught something from rats. They call it the Thames, by the way, not the Thames. Speaker 3 (8:47) Listen, this, that, these and those. That's what mom used to always say to us. Speaker 2 (8:52) Yeah, I would say I got a disease off that for sure. So that's what's wrong with me. Something went into the old brain. Speaker 3 (8:59) So Speaker 2 (9:00) that's what you're doing this weekend. But how has your Speaker 3 (9:02) week been? I went back on Lorraine. Oh yeah. Which was lovely. She Speaker 2 (9:08) is so funny. Some of the stuff that she says and I'm like, I never go back on air and I'm like. Speaker 3 (9:16) She's got such a thick accent as well. Yeah, Speaker 2 (9:19) but she's got a really good sense of humor and she'll do a little, like she'll just have a little jab at something and then you're back on air and she's like, hello. And I'm like dying in the corner trying not to laugh. And I went back to Lorraine. I've just been doing little bits of Bob's work. I've had a very relaxed week. I have to say I'm still kind of in like maternity mode. I'm not like. overstretching myself. I'm doing loads of walks. I go walking on my own. I've run out of people to call. Everyone's in work during the times that I'm Speaker 3 (9:47) calling. I tell you, my phone isn't ringing off the hook. That's for sure. Speaker 2 (9:50) I have ringing you and you're like, I'll ring you back. And I'm like, oh. And then the people that I did ring were like, I'll ring you back. And by the time they rang me back, I was doing something else. So, back to calling the same people next week. But it's been really nice. The weather's amazing over here. I love when it's like this. It's a nice time before it gets into the lashing rain and stuff like that. Oh, wait. Gina was over at the weekend last weekend. That's what I was going to talk about. Oh, how was that? It was lovely. Gina's great crack. It was lovely to have extra help as well because Jane came home too. I was like, wow, this feels like being a mother of one because they all just want to hang out with her, the two of them. Otto's obsessed with Gina. but would like try and wind her up no end. But like he's, I'd say Gina's also number one, but like he'll have like... Speaker 3 (10:39) Gina, Gina, Gina. Speaker 2 (10:41) I only once, yeah, I only once Gina. And yeah, it was, it was a really, really fun weekend. And I made them, me, Alzo, Jane and