284: Serving Justice ft. Monet X Change

Two Hot Takes

In this episode of Two Hot Takes, host Morgan is joined by drag superstar Monet X Change to discuss Reddit stories centered around personal

Key takeaways

• Setting clear boundaries is essential for protecting your energy and well-being, especially during vulnerable times like pregnancy.

Main topics

• Setting boundaries in relationships
• Self-care during pregnancy and high-stress periods

Notable quotes

"You're not the asshole for making him eat his food elsewhere aside from our bedroom."

Conclusion

Monet X Change emphasizes that serving justice to oneself means enforcing personal

Transcript preview

Speaker 4 (0:04) The Speaker 3 (0:05) city moves fast, but your vibe, that's different. Sharper, smoother, more alive. Speaker 4 (0:15) The new Speaker 3 (0:20) Honda City isn't just made to drive, it's made to feel. The new Honda City, all new vibe. Speaker 2 (0:29) Okay, we're rolling. All Speaker 3 (0:30) right. Your Speaker 2 (0:31) mic looks good. Yes. You know how to operate that bad boy. Speaker 5 (0:33) You Speaker 2 (0:34) know, we have a really interesting connection. What? Speaker 5 (0:36) So you Speaker 2 (0:37) were the star on Hulu's Dragstravaganza. Yeah, yeah. Huluween. Speaker 5 (0:42) Huluween. Huluween. Dragstravaganza, Huluween. Speaker 2 (0:46) So my husband did all the music for that. Oh. Speaker 5 (0:49) He Speaker 2 (0:49) did like the scoring. I think Speaker 5 (0:51) I went to your house to record then. Was it your house? I Speaker 2 (0:54) don't know if you went. There was a couple different artists that did songs, but he did all the scoring, kind of sound effects stuff. And then the American Slasher song was his. Oh, Speaker 5 (1:05) dope. Speaker 2 (1:06) And you were on that. But you were incredible in that. That was back in 2022. Speaker 5 (1:10) I know. It feels like it was so long ago, but I guess four years is not. It really was not that long. No. We were hoping we were going to get a, it'll be an annual. Speaker 2 (1:19) I would love that. Speaker 5 (1:20) Thing, but you know, Hulu had other plans. Maybe Speaker 2 (1:22) they'll bring it back. Speaker 5 (1:23) Maybe. Thanks to this. Hulu, Hulu, where Speaker 2 (1:26) you at? You know, we've got some dragstravaganza fans. Yeah, Speaker 5 (1:29) that would be dope. No, it was such a fun project. It was great. I love that show. Speaker 2 (1:32) Yeah, but I'm just, I'm so impressed because I feel like, what can't you do? Speaker 5 (1:37) At this point. Make eggs properly. Speaker 2 (1:41) What is your go-to? Scrambled? Speaker 5 (1:42) Well, no, I like an omelet because scrambled, I never get it right. And my grandmother used to make eggs and she used to. Put like a little milk in them. And Speaker 2 (1:50) I Speaker 5 (1:50) was like, I don't Speaker 2 (1:50) know. Speaker 5 (1:50) And it was like the perfect egg. Speaker 2 (1:52) Yeah. And Speaker 5 (1:52) I just, I don't have it fluffy. And I just don't have what it takes. Then I get sucked into all these TikToks with people making Japanese eggs. Speaker 2 (1:59) Oh. Speaker 5 (2:00) Japanese eggs are like a whole, it's like a whole thing. That's new for me. I'm on egg talk currently. I'd Speaker 2 (2:05) like to get over there. Oh my God, I'm going Speaker 5 (2:06) to destroy this egg. It's fine. I don't know my own strength. Speaker 2 (2:10) We're all full of chaos here. Like my main goal is just to like. Provide chaos so you leave the room feeling better about your life. Okay, good. Speaker 5 (2:19) Okay, good. Yeah. Because Speaker 2 (2:21) you're on tour right now. Speaker 5 (2:22) I went to right now, High Heels, Bad Knees, around the United States. I did a bunch of dates in the spring, winter. Now we're doing some in the fall, summer. Going to Australia. Oh, Down Under. Down Under. Yeah. It was Keith and Kim. I'm doing that. And yeah, it's all really great. I really love doing stand-up. Stand-up is my thing. I enjoy it. It's so liberating just being yourself on stage, having the audience in the palm of your hand for your next bit, your next joke. I love it. Speaker 2 (2:51) Your crowd work is incredible. Thank Speaker 5 (2:52) you. Speaker 2 (2:53) Like, absolutely incredible. I'm just like, oh, and you get such juicy, juicy little stories. You Speaker 5 (2:59) never know what's weird stories are lurking out there. No, Speaker 2 (3:03) it's really good. But for those that aren't familiar with our icon over here, today we are joined by Monet X Change. Woo! Drag race winner, Miss Congeniality. Yes. You, I'm just like, you're classic opera trained DJ. Yeah. Again, you're very well-rounded, and I think you've just gone through a lot of experiences in life. I watched your Chelsea Handler episode, like the mushrooms. And then I watched your Z-Way and you went through like a big foot surgery. I did. Speaker 5 (3:35) It's called FFS, foot feminization surgery. Speaker 2 (3:37) But you like, you cut tendons. Speaker 5 (3:39) Oh yeah, they cut tendons. I didn't know the tendons were going to be cut until I was in the moment. And you're awake for that surgery. No, Speaker 2 (3:45) no, no. Speaker 5 (3:45) So you hear the tendons cut. I don't know if anyone listening has ever cut a tendon before. It's very crunchy. They're like cartilage. You just hear their. It was intense. It was intense. Speaker 2 (3:58) That's not going to top anything I have today, so shit. But I think you'll knock these stories out of the park. So the theme I've got is kind of like strict program. Speaker 5 (4:09) Okay, strict program? Speaker 2 (4:10) Yeah, these people are kind of on strict programs, or maybe they need to be on a stricter one. That's Speaker 5 (4:15) what Speaker 2 (4:15) you're saying. It's kind of like this new slang thing. I've watched a lot of Love Island. Speaker 5 (4:18) I'm watching a lot of Love Island right now. U Speaker 2 (4:21) .K. Speaker 5 (4:21) or U.S.? I finished season eight of America. Okay. Speaker 2 (4:23) I Speaker 5 (4:24) went back and watched season seven retroactively. Speaker 2 (4:26) Okay. Have you Speaker 5 (4:27) ever seen season seven of America? Speaker 2 (4:29) No. Speaker 5 (4:30) Wait, was Speaker 2 (4:31) that one with Maya Papaya? Speaker 5 (4:32) Yes. Yes, Speaker 2 (4:33) I watched that. Speaker 5 (4:34) With Huda? Speaker 2 (4:35) Yeah. Speaker 5 (4:36) The crash out of the century? Speaker 2 (4:38) Yeah. But Speaker 5 (4:39) it's like crazy that like when it came to, I just watched a reunion two nights ago. And I guess in real time, she had the most following. She was like so beloved by the fan base. And I was like, she was a nut job in the villa. People loved her. Did you watch it in real time? I did. Okay, yeah. People, did you love her? Speaker 2 (4:58) I was confused. A little. I thought she was fine. Just, you know, maybe shouldn't have been working through things very publicly on Love Island. Yeah. Speaker 5 (5:07) But Speaker 2 (5:08) this season of UK, so good. Is it? So Speaker 5 (5:11) good. Speaker 2 (5:11) I gotta Speaker 5 (5:12) watch UK. Where do you watch it? Speaker 2 (5:14) I've been watching it on Disney Plus. Okay, I'll Speaker 5 (5:16) watch it. Yeah, it's going to be good. Speaker 2 (5:18) But okay, let's see what you think of these ones. Speaker 5 (5:20) Now, let me say something. I love Reddit, but I'm on like gory Reddit. Like a lot of like fights. Speaker 2 (5:26) You and Bob both. Oh yeah, Speaker 5 (5:28) I love fights on Reddit. But I don't go, like he likes like the knockout. Yeah. Like I'm not, when it gets that far, I move on. Speaker 2 (5:37) He shared a subreddit with me that I was like, I never want to be back there. Speaker 5 (5:42) Yeah, no, no, no. Speaker 2 (5:42) I Speaker 5 (5:42) don't. That's too far. I like it when it's just a nice little schoolyard fight or like a little bar fight between two macho bros. Like, hey, you look at my girlfriend, man. You look at my girlfriend. Apologize, man. Apologize. A little punch. A little want to. Yeah. When it gets like. Speaker 2 (5:59) Then you're out. Then Speaker 5 (5:59) I'm out. Speaker 2 (6:00) Okay. Speaker 5 (6:00) Yeah, no, no, no. Speaker 2 (6:01) That's good for us all to know. Speaker 5 (6:02) Okay, good. Speaker 2 (6:04) Okay, let's dive in. Okay. Speaker 2 (6:40) Okay, so up first. Okay. I have three rapid fire stories that are just going to really ease us into it. Make sure you're prepared for everything else I have. Okay. So up first for us here, coming from Amma the Asshole, titled, Amma the Asshole for saying no to a bedroom brat. Speaker 5 (6:59) Ooh, a bedroom brat. So does this mean something sexual? Some, like saying no because you wanted some like little like, Speaker 2 (7:08) little. Speaker 2 (7:12) bedroom bunny that Speaker 5 (7:13) wants to be taken care of. Yeah, that's what I'm getting. Speaker 2 (7:17) Okay. So I'm eight months pregnant and my husband made a brat. It's supposed to be brought for a nighttime snack at 930 p.m. Speaker 5 (7:28) Like a bratwurst. Uh-huh. Oh, my God. Okay. He Speaker 2 (7:32) brought it up to our room where I'm currently laying, trying to get comfy, which is hard. So I'm a little more cranky than usual. The smell was way too much for me. So I told him to take it downstairs. He was mad and said he was tired and just wanted to eat in bed with his delicious bedroom brat. Oh Speaker 5 (7:50) my God. Speaker 2 (7:51) I'm exhausted from working all day and then switching to mom mode for our two kiddos under four. I don't want to smell meat all night long and want as peaceful a bedroom as possible. Am I the asshole for making him eat his food elsewhere aside from our bedroom? Speaker 5 (8:07) No, you're not the asshole. First of all, you are carrying this, man. You are. eight months pregnant. You're going to pop any moment. You think about delivering the babies out. You know what I mean? And I, you know, I, shocker, I've never been pregnant. No? Speaker 1 (8:20) I Speaker 5 (8:21) never have. Okay. Not for lack of trying. And if I was Speaker 2 (8:27) pregnant Speaker 5 (8:28) and I've heard that like senses are so heightened, like things smell crazy. So like I can imagine you're uncomfortable. You have this alien growing inside of you, literally sucking up all the nutrients out of your body. I know. You can't get comfortable. And the last thing you want to do is smell a kielbasa bratwurst, winderwurst, wunderbag in your bedroom. Speaker 2 (8:53) No, what kind of bun too? Because a pretzel bun, those kind of stink. Oh Speaker 5 (8:56) my God. Yeah, just sit, eat it downstairs. No. Eat it downstairs. Come Speaker 2 (8:59) on. I'm a Betty. I'm a bed eater too. I love a bed snack. I do Speaker 5 (9:03) too. I do too. I don't think you're doing it when your partner is eight months pregnant. No. You know what I mean? I'm like, chill downstairs with the Bratwurst kielbasa. Have it downstairs. And also. It's Speaker 2 (9:11) done in 45 seconds. Also, when you come back Speaker 5 (9:13) upstairs, brush your teeth. Because I don't want to smell it on your breath. Linger and try to pillow talk to me and I smell your sausage. Not the good sausage. You know what I mean? Speaker 2 (9:21) Yeah. Well, that's what the comments get into, right? Yeah. So the comments are like, not the asshole. Also, this was not the story I was expecting from the title. Speaker 5 (9:28) Yeah. Speaker 2 (9:29) And someone says, there's only one kind of sausage I want in bed and it's not grilled. It's Speaker 5 (9:33) not grilled. No. Speaker 2 (9:36) There's another one here. Raised my kink expectations for nothing. Speaker 5 (9:40) Ooh. Raised my kink expectations. I think that, you know what it's giving? Speaker 5 (9:48) you know you match with someone and you're like you know it's been a date or two if you're you know if you're a regular decent human if you're if you're for something it's been an hour or two and you think you're gonna have an experience and then the moment comes and it is nothing like what you expected you built up all this expectation for a bad experience i know Speaker 2 (10:09) there's another comment here from someone they go his delicious bedroom brat is how she ended up in her condition to begin with. Speaker 5 (10:18) The Speaker 2 (10:19) comments, they're good. The Speaker 5 (10:20) comments always, people in the comments are so funny. They're Speaker 2 (10:23) so funny. They're so Speaker 5 (10:24) funny. I Speaker 2 (10:25) love it. Speaker 5 (10:26) Yeah. Okay, Speaker 2 (10:26) next one for us here. This is coming from r slash traumatize them back, a subreddit where people kind of tell these like almost petty revenge stories. Speaker 5 (10:34) Traumatize them back, okay. Speaker 2 (10:35) Today, a lady told me off for not seeing she needed help. So I took out my prosthetic eye. Speaker 5 (10:43) Honestly, work. Speaker 2 (10:44) Oh, Speaker 5 (10:45) you think you got me? I got you, bitch. It's like that scene from Hercules. The oracle is passing the eyes. Speaker 2 (10:54) So the story goes on to say, I was waiting to pick up a prescription a day when I heard some shuffling beside me. For context, I'm blind on my left side. I lost vision in my left eye from glaucoma and eventually had the eye removed. So unless something is directly in my line of sight, I genuinely might not see it. When I finally turned around, I saw an older lady struggling to pick something up, so I offered to help her. She snapped at me and said not to bother, because if I actually wanted to help, I would have been more proactive. I told her I was sorry, but I'm legally blind, and I would have helped sooner had I seen her. She then hit me with, People nowadays want to self-diagnose everything to avoid responsibility. So, I had it. I took out my prosthetic eye, held it up, and told her, you can diagnose it yourself if you're so uncertain. Speaker 5 (11:47) Yes. Not a Speaker 2 (11:48) word from her after that. Good. Speaker 5 (11:50) Honestly, you know, I gotta be honest. The whole thing of respecting your elders, I'm like, I don't care who you are. Respect is always earned. And if I... I have a disability and I am going out of my way to help you. And I'm met with a vitriol of venom and vilosity. No. Ooh. Vilosity. Oh, gay. Speaker 2 (12:15) And Speaker 5 (12:15) I'm like, yeah, like that reaction is so crazy. Like, why would you jump to the negative when I was trying to help? Sorry, it Speaker 2 (12:23) wasn't. Speaker 5 (12:24) Yeah, as fast as you wanted it, Lois. You still Speaker 2 (12:26) got offered help. Yeah. That way people watch me struggle in the store and I don't get any help. Exactly. Speaker 5 (12:31) Daily. Yeah, that's crazy. Speaker 2 (12:34) Daily, no. Speaker 5 (12:35) What a crazy reaction. I Speaker 2 (12:37) know. I mean, honestly. It was justified what you did. Speaker 5 (12:39) Yeah. It sounds like some East Coast behavior. This was definitely like Boston or New York or something. Speaker 2 (12:44) All Speaker 5 (12:45) people over there are mad. They Speaker 2 (12:46) definitely are. You're also, God, you're pulling out big words. Like I watched Scott Evans episode with you, Houseguest. Yeah. And you pulled out another word with him. And it was like, Speaker 1 (12:56) like Speaker 2 (12:57) beluga. It was like, and he's just like, okay, I'm going to need a dictionary. I'm like, Speaker 4 (13:02) you're getting Speaker 2 (13:04) smart. Speaker 2 (13:07) Okay, let's get in to the thick of it now. That was just our warm-up here. That was the Speaker 5 (13:11) warm-up? Speaker 2 (13:12) That was our warm-up. Yeah. It's going to be fine. Okay. It's going to be absolutely fine. Okay. You got this, okay? This is coming from r slash relationships. It is titled, My boyfriend of three years refused to pull over while driving, pissed himself, and then kind of blamed me for it. Speaker 5 (13:33) Okay, as someone who has a very weak bladder and I drink a lot of water, I know a thing or two about emergency pee. Speaker 5 (13:42) situations okay Speaker 2 (13:42) that's why Speaker 5 (13:43) i'm driving to the city driving into the city with a friend from new jersey to manhattan and we were on we were on the turnpike and i had to pee so bad so like i'm like i'm like i'm like i don't Speaker 3 (13:55) want Speaker 5 (13:55) to have to pee like i have to pee he's like what you gonna do i was like so i was like it's like found the nearest exit and but it was like rush hour so the line was like so long so like on the turnpike exit like six rows of cars we're like 17 back from the thing, I just get out the car and like leave the car running and like run all the way to the, to like the shoulder to just pee on the shoulder. I just had to in the middle of traffic. It was like insane. I had to go though. Speaker 2 (14:20) So Speaker 5 (14:21) it might be this person's fault. Speaker 2 (14:22) Okay. Speaker 5 (14:23) Let's see. Speaker 2 (14:24) Let's see what you think. Speaker 5 (14:24) Yeah. My Speaker 2 (14:25) boyfriend, 27 male and I, 28 female have been dating for three years. We were driving down the back roads for an hour and near the beginning of our journey, he said he needed to piss. Okay. I asked him at least four or five times if he wanted to pull over since he was driving and he refused. We were almost home with a gas station in sight. He said he couldn't make it any longer and pissed his pants. It was a very awkward ride home the rest of the way, 10 minutes. I didn't mention it and I helped him clean it up while he showered and put on some fresh shorts. He then tried to leave my house to return to his own after he got out. I asked why, and he said that it was because of him peeing itself. And it happened because I was mad at him over something that he had said before we left from our destination. Not really relevant to the problem. He said he wanted to go home to discuss it and that he didn't want to pull over so he could get out of the car quicker. I didn't really understand his explanation in this, but I haven't pushed. Reddit, I have a hard time dealing with this. On one hand, I know bodily functions sometimes cannot be controlled, but he was in full control of the car and himself and refused to pull over. Then he kind of shifted the blame to me. I've had a hard time looking at him the same way. I mean, he is a grown man. Why is he pissing himself? I feel terrible for feeling this way, but he never acted embarrassed or anything. Just kind of got defensive. I asked him if this has ever happened before. And he insisted that it hasn't. Am I overreacting to what happened? I feel like I might be. Speaker 5 (16:04) I feel like there's overreacting happening on both sides. Number one, I think that he is ridiculous for being mad at her. Like, you are a grown man. You are in control of your body. Like, I think he was probably trying to be like, no, no, I can hold it. I don't need to pull over. Like, I can hold it. So there's that there. And I also think that she is maybe. Taking it a little too personal too. Like I think, you know, sometimes guys try to be so macho. You got to like kind of calm down and be like, like, and it's, I hate that sometimes women have to do this for men, but kind of help him sort through his emotions. He's clearly projecting his feeling of insecurity and upset that he pissed himself in front of her. Speaker 2 (16:40) I mean, I'd be very embarrassed, insecure. Well, Speaker 5 (16:43) you know, I pissed myself on Drag Race. What? Yes, girl, let me tell you. That was not Speaker 2 (16:48) in the highlight clips, and I watched an hour and a half of them. What? No, it's a Speaker 5 (16:52) secret moment no one knew happened. It was on the Pondy Alarm episode. My first time I was in the bottom when I did the Pondy Alarm lip sync, and I had to be so bad. And the judging. that you see on TV, like it's like what, 10 minutes? In real life, it's about two hours. Oh Speaker 2 (17:07) my God. So I Speaker 5 (17:09) was sitting there and I was the first one to get critiqued and I had to pee so bad. I was like, oh, I had to pee, I had to pee. I was like, I can hold it, I can hold it. They got to like the fourth Speaker 3 (17:15) girl and I was like, which is like an hour and a half and I was like, I can't hold it. So like in the middle of a room critiquing whatever girl, I was like, Speaker 5 (17:20) hey, I'm sorry everyone. Like all the cameras, all production. I was like, I really have to go to the bathroom. And then I turn upstage and start walking up the stage and just start peeing myself in my costume on stage. I'm leaving a snail trail of urine up the stage. I go to the bathroom, change my tights, come back. And when I walk back on stage, RuPaul stands up and gives me a standing ovation. But I did. So I know. Oh my God. Speaker 2 (17:48) So you can really relate to him in a way. Yes, Speaker 5 (17:50) I can really relate. So there's a lot of emotions. You're like, you're mad at yourself, but you try to pass the blame on someone else. So I think she's like, hey, babe. I know this was upsetting for you. Yeah. I know that you don't want to pitch yourself in front of me, but we've been together for four years. I've seen you do worse. Get over it. That is true. They have been together Speaker 2 (18:07) quite some time. You know what I Speaker 5 (18:09) mean? Like, come on. If you can't pitch in front of your partner, how can you pitch in front of anyone else? I know. Speaker 2 (18:14) I know. That is very true. Speaker 5 (18:17) Yeah. I was the guy that tried to... like get me to piss on him in like a situation. That's Speaker 2 (18:22) a big thing. It Speaker 5 (18:23) was a lot. Yeah. And I was like, I feel like you should advertise this before I show up. Yeah. I shouldn't be met with this request. Speaker 2 (18:30) Yeah. No, golden showers should definitely be right Speaker 5 (18:33) in Speaker 2 (18:33) advance. Notice. Speaker 5 (18:35) Dude, Speaker 2 (18:36) there's like a crazy thing going on with golden showers lately. Like. Did you? This is so. Speaker 5 (18:42) There's a crazy thing going on with Golden Shower. Speaker 2 (18:44) No, there really is. Like, have you ever heard of Bonnie Blue? Speaker 5 (18:46) No, who's Bonnie Blue? You Speaker 2 (18:48) don't want to know. Speaker 5 (18:49) Now I have to know about Bonnie Blue. You don't want to know. Speaker 2 (18:51) She is an OnlyFans creator. She might have been kicked off the platform even. Speaker 5 (18:56) But Speaker 2 (18:56) she did this challenge to like have sex with a thousand guys in a day. Oh, Speaker 5 (18:59) I saw Speaker 2 (18:59) that Speaker 5 (19:00) one. I heard about that one. Well, Speaker 2 (19:01) she's now pregnant. And she's having. Speaker 5 (19:03) I just don't Speaker 2 (19:03) know who it is. Well, she's having a baby shower where everyone just come and piss on her. Speaker 5 (19:08) While she's pregnant? Speaker 2 (19:10) Feels like CPS should be called already. Speaker 5 (19:13) Yeah. Preemptively. Like. Oh, God. Speaker 2 (19:17) Yeah. Speaker 5 (19:18) Does she know what the dad is? Speaker 2 (19:19) I don't know. I'm not in her lore that much. I just see the horror from people on news. Yeah, news shows being like, Bonnie Blue is doing a baby shower. The Speaker 5 (19:28) baby shower is diabolical. That's insane behavior. Speaker 2 (19:33) Bad. Speaker 5 (19:34) So then Speaker 2 (19:34) when you look at this, you're like, this isn't that bad. It's not Speaker 5 (19:37) that bad, girl. Not Speaker 2 (19:38) that Speaker 5 (19:38) bad. Speaker 2 (19:39) The top comment, you're not overreacting. He pissed himself instead of pulling over for a minute. He was fully in control of his body and his car the entire time. His actions are a result of his own decisions and have nothing to do with you. I'd have trouble respecting him ever again after hearing him blame me for his decision to piss his pants. It's like a toddler yelling, look what you made me do. Speaker 5 (20:03) Literally. And Speaker 2 (20:04) that is something that's so interesting about this. He was the one driving the car. I know. So why not just pull over? Speaker 5 (20:12) Yeah. Because also, if you don't pull over, what are you even showing? How does that make you look or feel more? It seems like a weird thing to like, you were driving the bus, babe. Pull over. That's why I'm like, Speaker 2 (20:26) why are you? And to blame her, I pissed myself because we got in a fight before we left and we had an hour drive and I was just trying to get home. I wanted to piss in my toilet, in my toilet only. I'm Speaker 5 (20:37) like, what? Speaker 2 (20:38) So you piss yourself? Speaker 5 (20:40) You piss yourself is crazy. Speaker 2 (20:41) I like, I'm just like, for what? Speaker 5 (20:44) It is not, it's not worth anything. Yeah. Silly. No, Speaker 2 (20:47) someone else in the comments shares another story from Reddit about someone's boyfriend shitting himself while driving. Speaker 5 (20:54) Shitting? Yeah, Speaker 2 (20:55) so up that ante. It's a big, big deal, I guess. But I wouldn't say overreacting, but I guess. How do you want to proceed forward? Do you want to coddle him a little? I Speaker 5 (21:07) wouldn't coddle him. I'm not into coddling anything. No? I'm not even children. Speaker 2 (21:11) Okay. Speaker 5 (21:11) No one deserves to be coddled. Not Speaker 2 (21:14) even kids. Not even Speaker 5 (21:15) kids. Yeah, I would have to call him out. I would be like this. Because also, I think that this behavior would be indicative of things later to come. Yeah. If this is how you're behaving over something that you were in control of, that you did to yourself. What is the next thing going to be? I Speaker 2 (21:31) know. That's Speaker 5 (21:32) a Speaker 2 (21:32) really good point because like you've already gone so far as to piss yourself to prove a point to me. Speaker 5 (21:36) Yeah. Speaker 2 (21:36) What comes next? Speaker 5 (21:38) You're going to piss on me to prove the point? Speaker 2 (21:39) Come in my heel. Speaker 5 (21:41) Like, hello. What's Speaker 2 (21:42) going on? Yeah, Speaker 5 (21:43) no. Speaker 2 (21:43) OP does respond and says to that person, though, like him acting like a toddler is what it felt like. I was like, why did you do that? And he was like, because you were mad at me. I was so confused because I don't see how the two correlate. Speaker 5 (21:55) I don't see either. I don't get it. No, Speaker 2 (21:58) and then OP even says, I'm having a really hard time feeling sexually attracted to him since all of this. Speaker 5 (22:02) Okay, I can talk to this. When guys, when your partner starts doing things, not even sexually, or it could be the prettiest, buffest, whatever your thing is and your partner is hot, things like that turn me off so bad and I get so unattracted. I don't even want to think. The thought of having sex with you repulses me because I hate other behavior that you do. Speaker 2 (22:22) How do you get over an ick? Do you have any advice for that? Because this could be kind of... an ick for Speaker 5 (22:27) her. Speaker 2 (22:27) 100%. And that seems like that's what you're kind of describing. Yeah. Speaker 5 (22:29) And I can't. I can't. When the ick is there, it's there. I can't get over it. But I am also a Pisces, so I am a... When? February 19th. Speaker 2 (22:40) Oh, March 4th. Speaker 5 (22:41) March 4th? Yeah. Look at us! Speaker 5 (22:44) So I am a suffering silencer. Like, I would have the ick and I would suffer and I would just, like, go along with it, go along with it. Until it's too much. I just, like, all right. Pop off. And then Speaker 2 (22:55) you're, like, done. Speaker 5 (22:55) Done. For sure. Speaker 2 (22:57) Yeah. We do get an update on this. Speaker 5 (22:59) Okay. The Speaker 2 (23:00) update comes almost 20 days later. So she comes back and she's like, here's how it went down. Speaker 5 (23:06) Okay. I'm ready for it. Speaker 2 (23:09) If you can't see the original post, try Googling it. That thread blew up way more than I thought it would. I had originally posted it before, six months ago, when the incident originally happened, and I didn't get any response. So I truly thought I was underreacting and kind of swallowed my concerns. But over time, they kept creeping up, and I started noticing more and more that everything was my fault in his life, so I decided to repost again. This post really affirmed what I knew, but didn't want to accept for whatever reason. that the relationship had to end. Speaker 1 (23:41) The Speaker 2 (23:41) thread made me think a lot about my life and what our life together would look like. All I could think about was this, him pissing himself, happening again in the future. I thought about us having kids and how he would deal with them. I thought about having to make tough decisions with him. I thought about making tough financial decisions. I thought about having to go through tough life events, like losing a parent. I realized that I would always be