Turning 37, Crashouts & Red Flags

The Southern Tea

Lindsie and Hunter reflect on turning 37, share childhood birthday memories involving Fear Factor parties and McDonald's PlayPlaces, discuss

Key takeaways

• Time perception accelerates after age 30, making milestones feel sudden.
• Childhood birthday parties can be overwhelming; private gift unwrapping is preferred by adults.

Main topics

• Birthday reflections and childhood memories
• Co-parenting challenges with a week-on, week-off schedule

Notable quotes

"I literally went up to my mom and asked her to make everyone leave."

Conclusion

Lindsie and Hunter emphasize the importance of emotional honesty in pa

Transcript preview

Speaker 3 (0:01) I'm Lindsay Chrisley, a Southern girl, a proud boy mom, and someone figuring it out one day at a time. Join me each week as we dive into honest conversations about motherhood, relationships, family, personal growth, and everything in between. Expect real talk, genuine laughter, thoughtful perspectives, and conversations that remind us we're all learning as we go. Because at the end of the day, the best conversations are the ones that we have together. Speaker 4 (0:28) Good morning and welcome back to another episode of The Southern Tea. It is a Wednesday evening for us. Wait, is it Wednesday? Yes. Yeah, it's a Wednesday evening for us and we are recording, what, a week in advance? A week Speaker 5 (0:44) ahead. The Speaker 4 (0:45) first time that we've done this probably since we started recording together. Speaker 5 (0:50) Correct. And Speaker 4 (0:50) I feel like... Well, we actually figured it out. Speaker 5 (0:54) Accomplished. Right? Yeah. Speaker 4 (0:56) So for anybody who's listening, if you do not follow the video episodes on Patreon, you can do that. The full video episodes are uploaded every single week on Patreon at patreon.com slash CW slash Lindsay Chrisley. And we wanted to do a fun little giveaway for the people who are watching the video episodes and are subscribed to Patreon. There are some guidelines for the giveaway. So it's going to be a fall vibe giveaway. And here's how you're going to enter. You're going to follow the Southern Tea on TikTok and Instagram. Follow me on TikTok and make sure you're following me on Instagram. You have to be a Patreon subscriber. Any of the tiers on Patreon count. So if you don't pay for the highest tier, it doesn't matter. You can be one of the lowest tiers that are on there. How many tiers are on there? I think only two. Two or three tiers. And then you'll fill out the Google form that's linked in the podcast description to officially enter. And then the giveaway will close September 28th at 12 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. So make sure you guys get your entry in before then. The Google form is in the description. So you guys can go enter and good luck. Speaker 3 (2:14) This is also going to be my birthday week when this airs. It is. I think that's so crazy. Speaker 4 (2:20) I can't believe that I have roamed this earth for almost 37 years. It's Speaker 5 (2:25) wild. Isn't that Speaker 4 (2:26) crazy? It's Speaker 5 (2:27) crazy that I'm rapidly approaching it. Speaker 4 (2:28) Wait, when? You're not rapidly. Speaker 5 (2:31) Yeah, rapidly. I Speaker 4 (2:34) don't know. I feel like I just turned 30 and then I blinked and seven years passed. You know what I mean? That's how Speaker 5 (2:41) it feels. I swear to God, when you hit a certain age, time just flies. Speaker 4 (2:45) It's so crazy. So this will come out probably a couple of days before my birthday. But I used to get so wrapped up looking. And I don't know if this was just when I was in high school and college. But I would get so wrapped up at looking at the calendar on what day that my birthday fell on to see if it's going to be a goodie or if it's going to be a bore. It Speaker 5 (3:05) comes out the day before your birthday. Speaker 4 (3:07) So September 16th. is when you guys will be hearing this. But overall, do you like celebrating birthdays or not really? Not Speaker 5 (3:15) really. Speaker 4 (3:15) I do. Speaker 5 (3:16) I've never been a big birthday person, but it's like a nice dinner. Speaker 4 (3:21) My parents were so good to us, like growing up, celebrating our birthdays. We always got to pick our favorite meal, like whatever Julie cooked. We got to select the meal at home and then we would do like a cake or ice cream or, you know, whatever. Sometimes I think we would like go out to dinner, but I think most of the time she cooked our favorite meal Speaker 3 (3:43) and Speaker 4 (3:44) just did gifts and like family stuff. Wasn't really like huge parties other than, you know, like milestone birthdays, like sweet 16 and stuff like that. But for my birthday meal, I always pick stuffed shells. Speaker 5 (3:56) Like a manicotti? Speaker 4 (3:58) Yeah. I love manicotti. I Speaker 5 (4:01) love Italian food. Speaker 4 (4:02) Me too. If that was the last thing that you could eat, like if you were on death row, would you choose Italian dishes only? Speaker 5 (4:11) No. Speaker 4 (4:12) What would you pick? Speaker 5 (4:13) Probably a steak and lobster. With a side of like lasagna. I mean, go all out if Speaker 4 (4:17) it's your last meal, you know? I just think it's so crazy. I'm like, why do we fixate on like what our last meal would be if we were on death row? Like, what does it matter at that point? You know? It Speaker 5 (4:26) doesn't. Bring me a Slim Fast. Speaker 4 (4:28) It's so crazy. Slim Fast is crazy. I do enjoy celebrating my birthday, but when I was growing up, I absolutely hated if my friends would text me like the midnight text, you know, to try to be the first person to get to me. I'm like, but it's not my birthday. And like, literally now you just ruined it. Like I need, I need to go to bed and wake up and now it's my birthday. You know what I mean? Yeah. Speaker 5 (4:54) That first full day. Speaker 4 (4:55) Um, but yeah, I, I love celebrating birthdays, but it, it's not, I really don't ever do anything big. It's normally like a steakhouse and like get dressed up, cute, go to dinner. Speaker 5 (5:08) That's what we're planning on doing. Speaker 4 (5:09) I didn't know that's what we were planning on doing. Yeah, Speaker 5 (5:11) we talked about this. Oh, Speaker 4 (5:12) I Speaker 5 (5:13) don't Speaker 4 (5:13) remember. I Speaker 5 (5:14) think I'm actually going to be in town. I was supposed to be out of town, but I think I'm going to be in town for it. Oh, Speaker 4 (5:19) yeah. I forgot that you were going to be out of town and we were trying to bamboozle how we were going to do it. I remember this conversation now. Yeah. Do you feel like when you were a kid growing up that you loved birthdays more than you do now? Speaker 5 (5:31) So one year we had a Fear Factor themed party. And there were like 12 kids who came. Kids were eating sardines and had to like jump on trampolines. I know my dad was demented. But so by the time we got to gifts and like birthday cake, I literally went up to my mom and asked her to make everyone leave. Oh my God. Because I was so overstimulated at the amount of people in my home. I was like. Speaker 4 (5:56) Can you please leave? I also absolutely hate opening gifts in front of people. Speaker 5 (6:01) Oh, I don't do it. Speaker 4 (6:02) Like it's the worst thing. I don't know at what point of our adult life that it became like socially acceptable to bring gifts to parties. And it was like, you never opened gifts, but I used to do like these huge Speaker 3 (6:17) birthday parties for Jackson and I would like plan them for so long and just, Speaker 4 (6:22) you know, ridiculous, but it made for the cutest photos. He always had such a good time, but I never let him open gifts at the party because I just think it's kind of tacky. It Speaker 5 (6:32) is tacky. Plus, like, what if you don't have a good reaction? I Speaker 4 (6:35) know. And Speaker 5 (6:36) the person feels obligated or feels guilty. I mean, when you're opening a gift, you have to put on a show. Speaker 4 (6:41) Well, and specifically for, like, kids' birthday parties too, right? So if you're in a certain age range, so let's say you're three years old. Well, there's only so many three-year-old gifts that are at Target, Walmart. Speaker 3 (6:55) back Speaker 4 (6:55) in the day, like Toys R Us and stuff like that. So if you get a duplicate gift and then you're opening all of that stuff and the kid's like, I already got this, you know, I'm like, we're just going to skip that whole part. And it made it so much fun because then when we got home, we got to like unwrap it and do all of that stuff with him privately. So it almost was like a second birthday. What is your favorite birthday memory that you've ever had? Speaker 5 (7:21) I don't know if I have one. I really don't. So I had a surprise party one time, but I caught on immediately. Speaker 4 (7:27) Wait, what? Speaker 5 (7:28) So it was like Dirty 30. So it wasn't a surprise. Death to my 30s. I just played like it was a surprise the whole time. But then after, like halfway through the night, I was like, I already knew. Speaker 4 (7:37) Oh my god. Speaker 5 (7:38) I was going through Khalil's phone. So it was like, not... Wait, are Speaker 4 (7:44) you a phone snooper? Not anymore. Speaker 5 (7:45) There was just a phase in our life where we were, yeah. Speaker 4 (7:48) Just like with each other or you've done it with other partners too? Speaker 5 (7:51) I've done it with other partners too. But with Khalil, it's like, no, I trust him implicitly. So I don't go through it. Speaker 4 (7:57) I don't, I'm trying to think. Favorite birthday that I've ever had. Like nothing sticks out. Speaker 5 (8:05) Exactly. Speaker 4 (8:06) Like probably my Barney and Baby Bop birthday party that was at McDonald's. Do you remember like when people used to have birthday parties at McDonald's all the time? Speaker 5 (8:15) No. Speaker 4 (8:16) Why are you acting like you don't know about that? I Speaker 5 (8:18) don't. Speaker 4 (8:19) Okay. So back in the day, they used to have playgrounds at like every McDonald's. And then for whatever reason, they took them out and it'll be like hit or miss that you'll see a McDonald's that has a playground now. But they used to have the ones that had like the ball pits and the slides and all of that. And it was so fun. And my parents... hired Barney and Baby Bop to come to my birthday and I thought it was the coolest thing ever and I still have my Baby Bop backpack upstairs. Speaker 5 (8:47) I'm screaming. So I know like of the like the play is it called like the playhouse? The Speaker 4 (8:52) play place? Maybe. Speaker 5 (8:53) Maybe. I don't know what they call Speaker 4 (8:55) it. Speaker 5 (8:55) I know about those but I didn't know they hosted like birthday parties there. Speaker 4 (8:57) I don't know if you were supposed to. Speaker 5 (8:59) Oh. I Speaker 4 (9:00) just know that we did. So Speaker 5 (9:01) that would have been fun though. Speaker 4 (9:02) I'll have to go on my phone and look at like old memories and stuff to see. The amount of photos and videos that are on my phone that I have stored in there, the fact that I know for a fact that I have a photo of my Barney and BabyBot party in this phone is alarming. Which Speaker 5 (9:18) is why we just got a hard drive. Speaker 4 (9:20) Oh my God. Okay, so ideal birthday now for me is a nice meal with a small select group of friends and bed by like 11. Speaker 5 (9:36) That sounds great. A Speaker 4 (9:37) bath and bed by 11. Correct. Right? Speaker 5 (9:38) Yeah. Or Speaker 4 (9:40) if we're going to like do the going out of town birthday thing, I could definitely use like a trip to Mexico. Speaker 5 (9:49) That could be fun. I don't know if we can pull that off. I don't think we can pull it off in a week, but. It would be fun though. Next year. But it would be. Speaker 4 (9:56) We could Speaker 5 (9:56) do that for 40. Speaker 4 (9:57) Don't age me like that. I'm Speaker 5 (9:58) just saying we could. That would be like a big, that's like a milestone birthday. Speaker 4 (10:02) I don't know. I feel like that's at the point where people like really, is that the midlife thing that people go through? Like, is it when you're, I Speaker 5 (10:09) think it would be like 50. Cause I think people expect to live to a hundred, right? Speaker 4 (10:12) I don't think anybody out here roaming this planet is like, I'm for sure going to live to a hundred. I Speaker 5 (10:17) don't think for sure, but I think like that midlife crisis probably happens. Let me look it up. Speaker 4 (10:21) What, how old are you when you do a midlife crisis? How old, how, what? Speaker 5 (10:28) Google's going to be like, you're joking, right? Speaker 4 (10:30) Not do when you have a mid-life crisis. Oh, evidently a lot of people look this up. Oh, we're both right, kind of. It says the general window, most psychological transitions and reflections happen during middle adulthood spanning from age 40 to 65. Speaker 5 (10:51) 65 is not midlife. Speaker 4 (10:54) I feel like that's late life. Speaker 5 (10:56) Yes, I agree. Speaker 4 (10:57) Like no offense to anybody that's in that age range, but I feel like if you have not had your midlife crisis by the time you're 65, you're probably not going to have one. It says, with many experts noting that peak stress and reevaluation often occurs at age 47 or 48. Speaker 5 (11:14) Okay. Speaker 4 (11:15) So, you know what? I think I've already gone through my midlife crisis actually at almost 37. Speaker 5 (11:20) I mean, 36 was a pivotal year for sure. Speaker 4 (11:24) No, I think like the last five years have been... pivotal years, but definitely 36 took the cake for sure. Pun intended. Um, okay. Do you feel like you enjoy getting older or do you think it's like sad? Speaker 5 (11:38) So I like the wisdom that I get with getting older, but the like looming feeling of being another year older and like another year closer to my end is looming. You know what I mean? It's like that. stresses me out a little bit. I Speaker 4 (11:57) used to think about it like that, but like anything, and I'm not trying to be morbid, but like anything could happen to anyone at any time at any age. Right. And so I don't, I don't think about that anymore. I'm not like, Oh, well now I'm going to turn 37. So that's one more, you know, notch until I get to knock it on death's door. Like, so Speaker 5 (12:17) maybe I'm just drama. I don't know. Speaker 4 (12:19) You are the drama. Um, what's the best birthday gift that you've ever received? Speaker 5 (12:25) I don't know. What's the best birthday gift you've ever received? Speaker 4 (12:28) Um, when I turned 18, I got a Gucci handbag and Gucci wallet for my dad. Speaker 5 (12:36) That was nice. My Speaker 4 (12:37) dad's a very good gift giver. I Speaker 5 (12:39) believe that. Speaker 4 (12:40) Very good. I Speaker 5 (12:41) would say a car probably. Speaker 4 (12:42) A car? Speaker 5 (12:43) Yeah, for like my 16th birthday. Oh, yeah, duh. Speaker 4 (12:45) Yeah, I got a car for my 16th birthday too. And honey, I drove the wheels off of that thing. I Speaker 5 (12:50) totaled it within six months. Speaker 4 (12:51) And then another really good gift that I got, which I was debating whether I was going to say this one. David got me a really good gift last year. I wanted running boards on my Bronco because it's so high. Speaker 1 (13:05) And Speaker 4 (13:06) he bought the running boards, but not only did he buy them, he installed them. Speaker 5 (13:10) That was a nice gift. Speaker 4 (13:11) Yeah, that was a nice one. Speaker 3 (13:14) For all of my fellow parents out there with teenagers, I know that you're already trying to keep a million different things under control. And if you're anything like me, the last three weeks have been absolutely insane with middle school. 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Savings provided by Cash App, a Block Inc. brand. Visit cash.app. for full disclosures. Speaker 4 (15:16) Okay, last question. Were you a birthday party kid? Like, were you always at people's birthday parties? Yeah. Same. But like, where around here for birthday parties did y'all go to? Like, was there like a specific place that like everybody wanted to have their birthday? So Speaker 5 (15:30) I feel like for a lot, we would do like bowling alley or skating rink. Speaker 4 (15:35) Yeah, that's what we did too. But Speaker 5 (15:36) then there were a bunch that were also just like house parties, yard parties, like jump houses, pools, stuff like that, depending on when the birthday fell. Speaker 4 (15:44) I don't ever remember like jump houses being a thing like back when we were growing up. You Speaker 5 (15:48) don't? Speaker 4 (15:49) No. Like I thought they just came out. I guess we're about to find out. What if I'm right? Speaker 5 (15:55) What if I'm an idiot and never jumped on a jump house as a kid and just imagined it? Speaker 4 (15:59) You've jumped on a jump house as an adult. Speaker 5 (16:02) Oh, absolutely. Speaker 4 (16:03) Like what the fuck? Speaker 5 (16:07) 1959. Speaker 4 (16:07) The first jump house was in 1959? What did it look like? The first bounce Speaker 5 (16:11) house was invented in 1959 by a mechanical engineer named John Sherlock. Or Skurlock. Speaker 4 (16:17) What does it look like? Speaker 5 (16:19) Probably like a hot air balloon. Yeah. The picture was from 1959. I don't know what you expect. It's not 4K. You know Speaker 4 (16:26) what those look like? You know like when you go to like a fall festival like where they have pumpkins and stuff? Yeah. And they have those blow-ups? No, not, that's at like car dealerships. True. No, like the places like where you go and they have pumpkins and they've got like hay rides and all of that stuff. They've still got. Speaker 5 (16:48) Things like that? Speaker 4 (16:49) Like things like that. It's Speaker 5 (16:50) like, for those of you watching, it is like a air mattress. Speaker 4 (16:56) Wait, do y'all remember waterbeds back in the day? Like, I wonder if people still have them. Speaker 5 (17:00) Yeah, they still sell them. Speaker 4 (17:02) Really? Yeah. Would you get one? Speaker 5 (17:04) No. Speaker 4 (17:04) I would totally get a waterbed. Speaker 5 (17:06) I mean, I'm not trying to get explicit, but have you ever on it? Speaker 4 (17:10) Absolutely not. Speaker 5 (17:11) Exactly. It's not fun. I Speaker 4 (17:13) think I've only like known people that were friends that had them and I sat on them. Speaker 5 (17:18) There's like no traction. Speaker 4 (17:20) So what are you doing? Just like Speaker 5 (17:22) rocking, swaying with the ocean, I guess. No, it's gross. Speaker 4 (17:26) I did it Speaker 5 (17:26) one time and I was like, never again. Speaker 4 (17:28) Okay. So I'm sure people are going to want us to talk about. last weekend and Karen coming to my house and the episode, which I felt really bad about the episode because we have never had an audio issue with these mics or the recording device that we use. Like literally there's never been an issue. I don't know what happened. The only thing that I can think of is there were like storms in the area. So maybe it was a interference, Speaker 5 (17:57) like an Speaker 4 (17:58) interference, like a technology issue or something like that. But No, it was like a crazy day. I feel like we prepared for quite some time to have her here. And I don't know. I feel like some of the reviews that I saw are like mixed reviews about having her on. And I thought that she was absolutely lovely in person. She Speaker 5 (18:20) was Speaker 4 (18:20) lovely. Speaker 5 (18:21) So was her husband. Speaker 4 (18:22) Like they were the nicest people. And I also feel like people are like, oh, well. you know, Lindsay was mean to her or, you know, she's a sellout or like a, what do they call them? Like a traitor, whatever. Like she was reporting on everything and now she's not going to report the same. I can tell you guys right now, that woman is no bullshit. Like if she wants to report on me, I guarantee you she will report on me if she disagrees with something I say. In Speaker 5 (18:54) fact, you told