We Never Thought We’d Speak Again | Part 2

The Ella Era

Friends Ella and Domenica reunite to share the story of their two-year fallout and eventual reconciliation. They discuss the emotional weigh

Key takeaways

• The pair reconnected after two years of being blocked by each other via a significant Mother's Day message.
• Both speakers discovered they were pregnant within days of each other, creating a shared milestone during their separation.

Main topics

• Reconciliation after a long fallout
• Simultaneous pregnancies

Notable quotes

I felt like I could breathe again or like I saw colour again.

Conclusion

A moving reflection on resilience and the restorative power of vulnera

Transcript preview

Speaker 2 (0:00) A Pivotal Connections Podcast. This is a Pivotal Connections Podcast. How did we get here? We should talk about that. Oh, Speaker 1 (0:11) how did we get here? Well, I mean, we're mums now. Mums. And I think that has a big thing to do with why we're here. Yeah. Really. Speaker 2 (0:20) And this is the first time I've like flown into state without my daughter and like been away. It's like really weird. Yeah. But I'm glad we didn't bring them because... Speaker 1 (0:29) It would have been so hectic. It just wouldn't work. No, it wouldn't work. No. And I can assume you're just all thinking about PR all at the same time as what you're trying to do right now. Yep. Because I'm just thinking about Dove, what's she doing? Is mum giving her lunch? Oh, yeah. You know, does Speaker 2 (0:44) she Speaker 1 (0:44) poo? Speaker 2 (0:45) But thank God for mother-in-laws and your mum. Yes. That we can Speaker 1 (0:48) actually. Speaker 2 (0:49) We can do this. Exactly. Juggle this next level. Yeah. So two years later we're sitting here. I remember. waking up i think it was like a friday morning i've woken up to all these dms and i was like this only ever happens if someone's like talking shit or like i'd only wake up with all these notifications if something's bad's happened and i got all these dms from people saying why haven't you replied you should reply like coming for me and i'm like what the fuck is everyone talking about What haven't I replied to? And then I asked my partner, I was like, has Dom done something about me? And then he's like, I don't know, babe, it doesn't matter. And I'm like, well, I feel like it does matter because people are telling me to reply to something. You just wanted to know what it was. Yeah. I didn't say anything bad. I didn't think it was going to be bad. No, I didn't think it was going to Speaker 1 (1:45) be Speaker 2 (1:45) bad. And I was just like, I'm curious. I need to know what's being said because I had you blocked. Yes. I had you blocked. Yes. Let's talk Speaker 1 (1:52) about that. We Speaker 2 (1:53) had Speaker 1 (1:53) each other blocked. Okay, everyone. We had each other blocked because look, and this is the same with me. Speaker 2 (2:00) Out of sight, out of mind. You know, it is what it is. It Speaker 1 (2:03) actually Speaker 2 (2:03) makes things easier. If you're trying to move on from an ex, which, look, we fucking broke up. We broke up really publicly. Yep. And that was going to help me move Speaker 1 (2:15) on and move forward. And it did. And it did. Like that's the reason that the block button is there. Speaker 2 (2:21) So Speaker 1 (2:22) did you Speaker 2 (2:22) go and see what? So then I used Guy's Instagram and I was like, give me the Instagram. Let's go on her page. Let's watch what's happened. And you put a story up. It was a Q &A. And I think the question was like, would you ever rekindle or like speak to Ella or something? I think it was like that. It was something to do with Speaker 1 (2:41) do you ever think of Ella or would you Speaker 2 (2:43) rekindle or something? Yes. And you'd said that you'd texted me or you've reached out. maybe a week or something prior. And I was like, no, she Speaker 1 (2:52) hasn't. I have not heard from her. Speaker 2 (2:55) And then I went into my contacts and was like, oh, she's blocked as well. Her number is blocked. I was in Speaker 1 (3:00) the freezer on the phone as well. Speaker 2 (3:03) In the freezer. So I unblocked your number and I remember sitting there thinking. Speaker 2 (3:13) The ball's in my court. But also I was like, how would she know if I've seen this? You know, is this a way that she's trying to get to me to reach out? Is this a way because, you know, our followers, we share the same followers, right? And I said to Guy, I was like, I think it was a Friday because I said to him, you know, it's Mother's Day on Sunday. I'm going to cry. Speaker 2 (3:42) I was like, it's Mother's Day on Sunday. I think I'm going to message her on Mother's Day. I Speaker 1 (3:48) know. Speaker 2 (3:52) And he was like, I think that you should. And I was like, really? You think I should? Like I needed validation. I needed to know that like I wasn't making the wrong decision. And then I just said to him, yeah, like I think that's what I want to do. And I think it was. Was it in the evening or the morning anyway? It was in the evening. It was the evening. It was Speaker 1 (4:17) like Speaker 2 (4:17) Sunday night. Speaker 1 (4:18) I was literally sitting on the couch. Nine News was on. Mum was over. Speaker 2 (4:23) Nothing changes. Speaker 1 (4:24) It was like I had just like fed Dove or I was literally breastfeeding her. I can't even remember. And I just remember your name came up, which also I just have to say, I still have you saved in my phone as an Ella with an explosion because, and I know I've told this story before, but. When we did maths and when we met at the Hens, we got each other's numbers but I didn't save you in my phone as Ella, I saved you as Explosion. Speaker 2 (4:48) So producers didn't know. Yes, Speaker 1 (4:50) and you're still in my phone as Ella Explosion, right? Yeah. And your fucking name came up and I was like, Mum, Ella messaged me back. Speaker 2 (5:00) Yeah, crazy. And I Speaker 1 (5:00) ran to like read this message. I just remember sitting there just like. Speaker 2 (5:06) Crazy. Speaker 1 (5:07) Like, and just I was so happy. Speaker 2 (5:10) Yeah. Speaker 1 (5:11) It was like I felt like I could breathe again or like I saw colour again. Like it was like. Speaker 1 (5:19) this feeling. And the fact that you messaged on Mother's Day Speaker 2 (5:26) was Speaker 1 (5:27) so beautiful and healing in a multitude of ways. Yeah. And, like, I'd already had a, like, it was already a very emotional day dealing with things out of my control. But just it being. Our first Mother's Day. Yeah. And that was Speaker 2 (5:47) really like my thought. Like I remember just thinking I know that she's doing this. Speaker 2 (5:54) Yeah. And I know what you're like, you know. I know that you're emotional and you're a deep thinker and I know you very well. So I just knew like sending that message on such a special day would have meant so much. Yeah, you Speaker 1 (6:07) knew the message but the symbolism of that day would have meant so much and it did. It was literally like. Speaker 2 (6:17) Yeah. I remember I was like, I think I said something like, I'm waving the white flag. Speaker 1 (6:27) God, we'd have to scroll back up here now. I feel like Speaker 2 (6:29) when I picture it, this is just my brain. Like I just picture like me going with a white flag. Speaker 1 (6:35) I mean but I think and I guess me even reaching out was a white flag in itself, you know, because it's like and I think I said in my message like there's been so many moments and milestones that I've just thought of you and I've wanted to share that with you and I haven't and I just wanted to. I just wanted to read. I remember the day I sent the message. Yeah. I was like, I'm going to fucking, I need to message her. Yeah. And so I was like, I just need to message Ella. And Speaker 2 (7:02) I never got that message. I never got that text. And God, I remember when you posted you were pregnant, I had found out three days prior. Speaker 2 (7:17) So when you posted it, I was like, oh, my God, I'm pregnant. I think I was like a day pregnant or two or three days pregnant. Like I'd just been told. I'd just peed on the stick. Wow. Yeah, and I was like, you're fucking kidding me. What are the chances? Is that not mental? I'm like, what are the chances of this happening? Like this is actually crazy. I could not believe it. Speaker 1 (7:46) I could not believe it. It is actually wild. When I posted my video, I think I was 14 weeks. So I was already so, yeah. I think Speaker 2 (7:57) I announced when I was four months. Speaker 2 (8:00) I kind of tried to not tell anyone, but then I got too fat. I gained 32. I couldn't hide it. And then you Speaker 1 (8:10) just felt better. Yeah, I was like, Speaker 2 (8:12) okay. Speaker 1 (8:13) For me. I wanted to hide it. I wanted to keep it a secret. I mean, how beautiful would that be to be able to do that? Private. But we can't. You can't. Speaker 2 (8:24) I'd Speaker 1 (8:24) go to the bloody shopping center. Speaker 2 (8:25) Oh, well. Dude, I mean, you, like, barely looked pregnant. Yeah, I mean, yes, Speaker 1 (8:29) realistically. Speaker 2 (8:30) I mean, I probably could have. You looked bloated. Yeah, I just looked kind of like, getting me? Like, I looked like not me. Like, it was wild. Yeah, I couldn't hide it. That's when I was like, okay, we've got to tell everyone because I look gigantic. And I stopped being active on socials. But I just remember being like, wow, like, this is crazy. Can't believe it. And then I heard that you were really sick. And I was like, fuck, that's. It sounds really hectic. I don't think you really knew or I didn't really know what it was at the time. Yeah. But I knew like it was pretty rough. Speaker 1 (9:04) When did you find out that I had broken up with the father? Speaker 2 (9:09) I didn't know that for a long time because I don't think, no, I don't think maybe, I actually don't know. I feel like it was after, closer to you giving birth. Okay. Okay, so for quite some time. Because I Speaker 1 (9:25) don't know if, like, people really knew. Well, I had said, well, I hadn't really said specifically. Yeah. But I kind of, like, he wasn't in the video and I'd made it pretty clear that. We weren't together or just like I don't know what the fuck we were doing at that time, which is the truth, everyone. Here's a little bit of tea for you if you want. But I just we didn't know what we were at that time. Speaker 2 (9:52) We Speaker 1 (9:53) were it was really, really hard when you were going through something so real and raw and you're trying to figure everything out. I didn't know, but I knew I had to say something. Yeah. You know, so that was my way of just being like, this is what's happening. Speaker 2 (10:13) Do you feel like we were ever going to, did you ever think like we would ever sit and do this again? Apart from like the last two weeks when we actually spoke about it, did you ever really imagine us sitting down and doing this? Because I didn't. No, no. I didn't. I Speaker 1 (10:28) think because