FEELING THINGS - Boundaries, Bodies & Busting Out The Weights (Couch Talks)

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In this 'Couch Talks' Q&A episode, hosts Amy and Kat address a variety of listener-submitted dilemmas ranging from personal quirks to parent

Key takeaways

• Amy recommends investing in Bowflex adjustable dumbbells as a cost-effective alternative to gym memberships for home workouts.
• The Tabata app is highlighted as an effective tool for structured, high-intensity interval training without needing a personal trainer.

Main topics

• Parental nicknames and family dynamics
• Home weight training and fitness equipment

Notable quotes

I am obsessed with the adjustable dumbbells.

Conclusion

The episode serves as a blend of lighthearted social commentary and pr

Transcript preview

Speaker 5 (0:00) This is an iHeart Podcast. Guaranteed human. Lisa, tell them about our new show. We have a new podcast. It's called Don't Lie to Me. I'm Lexi Iwano. We're two best friends, 22 years apart, but so close at heart. And I'm Lisa DiGiulio, the old one, which means we have wildly different references, occasionally different opinions. And at this point in my 50s, I've lived it all. Now in my 30s, being the founder of New Shoes, good taste is my business. Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Speaker 8 (0:35) I'm Lacey Mosley, author, actor, stand-up comedian, creator, and host of Scam Goddess Podcast. The true crime comedy podcast all about robbery, fraud, and those who practice it. Each week I bring on an amazing guest. Speaker 3 (0:47) Ooh, I scammed him. What? I could talk to you for an hour. Speaker 8 (0:50) You're a generational yapper, like me. That's why I had to make yapping a job. And now you can catch full episodes of my show on YouTube. Start listening to Scam Goddess on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Speaker 5 (1:05) Hi, this is Kylie Brakeman, Angela Geratana, Speaker 3 (1:08) Jeremy Colhane, Patrick McDonald, and Speaker 5 (1:10) we're the hosts of the Artists on Artists on Artists on Artists podcast, the Speaker 3 (1:14) improvised character comedy podcast, where each week a new panel of artists discuss their craft. Speaker 4 (1:19) Join us Speaker 3 (1:20) for a panel of Eurovision participants. And we do a little Halloween sometimes. Does the Pope dress up? He winks on Halloween. He gets right up next to the microphone. Speaker 5 (1:30) I hear you can almost hear the eyelashes hit each other. Speaker 3 (1:33) You've never seen Italy so quiet as when the Pope gets up to wink on Halloween. Speaker 5 (1:38) Listen to Artists on Artists on Artists on Artists every Thursday on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. So Speaker 8 (1:46) like by age 11 or so, at least 70 % have Speaker 5 (1:50) a phone. Speaker 7 (1:50) I'm Dr. Joy, and this is Therapy for Black Girls. We spend our surviving middle school run getting into what's happening inside your kid's brain, the group chats, and their friendships, and what you can do about it. Speaker 4 (2:01) Your child is not doing this on purpose. Speaker 7 (2:04) That's the kind of perspective we've been pulling from the psychologists and psychiatrists who study this for a living. Listen to Therapy for Black Girls on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Speaker 1 (2:15) Self-care September is your reminder to slow down, check in with yourself, get off your phone, and maybe ask, why am I like this? I'm Gemma Speck, host of the Psychology of Your 20s podcast, and this month we're helping you make sense of the person that you are becoming, from setting boundaries and navigating friendships, to understanding anxiety, confidence, relationships, and attachment. Sometimes our biggest decisions, without us even realizing it, aren't driven by what we truly want, but by what will prevent us from feeling lonely or being alone. Listen to The Psychology of Your 20s on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Speaker 3 (2:57) You broke me. You do not deserve happiness. Speaker 5 (3:01) I'm Andrea Gunning. On this season of Betrayal, Carl thought he was living a normal, drama-free life until the messages started. Speaker 3 (3:10) Someone's not going to make it out of this alive. Speaker 5 (3:12) Every piece of evidence pointed to the wrong guy. He Speaker 3 (3:16) was not going to stop unless we stopped him. Speaker 5 (3:20) Listen to Betrayal Season 6 on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Speaker 8 (3:27) Is there an epidemic against literature? More specifically, Black literature. I'm Jacquees Peace Thomas, and on this season of the Black Lit Podcast, we're outside asking why. They don't want a whole bunch of little Ella Bakers, Malcolm Xs, and Martin Luther Kings running around. And when you look at a lot of different cultures, they're like, we need to know where you came from. And considering this is Black Reading Month, the only real question is, what are you reading next? Listen to Black Lit from the Black Effect Podcast Network on our iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. While Speaker 6 (3:59) we hope Couch Talks can be a tool that helps and supports wherever you are in life, Couch Talks does not serve as a replacement or substitute for therapy or any mental health services. Speaker 6 (4:29) Sometimes the best thing you can do is just stop and feel Speaker 7 (4:34) the pain. This is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat. Speaker 2 (4:39) Happy Thursday. Welcome to Couch Talks, our Q &A episode to the Feeling Things podcast. I'm Amy. And I'm Kat. And we're starting off with some voicemails. We got multiple, by the way, and I picked a couple to play regarding Kat's husband, Patrick, calling his dad, Daddy. Now, let me say, I was... I felt I was taken aback. I was left speechless when I learned he still says daddy. And I have cousins that say Diddy. Like my cousins from Alabama say mama, Diddy. But it's not Diddy. He says daddy. Like it's not that. So anyway, I feel like I wanted to be clear about that, that I know some people do the Diddy thing. Speaker 6 (5:31) We got a lot of comments on social media saying it's a Southern thing. It's a Southern thing. Right. The Southern thing is Diddy. Speaker 2 (5:40) Mama, Daddy. Patrick's just like, that's my daddy. Patrick's like, why'd you change the game? I call my dad Daddy. I call my daddy Daddy. So we got some voicemails, and they're really cute. This first one is from... And I wish we could read everybody's email and comment and play every voicemail regarding the daddy, but we just picked a few. Here's the first one. Speaker 5 (6:08) Hey, I just listened to the podcast. I think it was from yesterday where you discussed Patrick calling his dad, daddy. I just have to say, Kat, if that didn't cause you to have the ick, Patrick can do anything he wants because you'll never have the ick about Patrick. I guess that says you'll love him a lot. Speaker 2 (6:27) Bye. Yeah, that's how I feel. Anne-Marie, thank you for that voicemail. It's like Patrick can do. Speaker 6 (6:37) anything anything well i also don't know when i found that out in our relationship so i think i was already in you know oh you'd already fallen in love yeah and then you yeah i don't think he like told me that first couple dates i don't know i wish i could remember the moment i was like what you said you called him what Speaker 6 (6:58) So she's right. But I wonder if like I heard that on the first couple of dates, if I was like, this is odd, you Speaker 2 (7:05) know. This next one is from Nina, also about Nettie. Speaker 5 (7:14) Hey, Amy and Kat. My name is Nina. I'm 27. Huge fan of you guys. I live in Maryland. My feeling of the day is validated because I am in the middle of listening to your podcast about Patrick calling his dad daddy. And I am beside myself because as a... you know, pretty grown-ish adult woman, I too still call my dad Daddy and my mom Mommy. And so I just feel really seen. So thank you for sharing that because I hold a lot of, like, maybe insecurity, weird feelings about that that have come over, like, the past, like, five-ish years or so where I struggle to still call them Mommy and Daddy, but I feel like... I'm so far into it at this point that if I were to just randomly call them mom and dad, they would be distraught or heartbroken. So I have a suggestion for Patrick. And first of all, I love that he owns it. Good for him. He seems like an amazing man. At least with my mom, I haven't gotten around really how to get away from mommy other than calling her by her name. hairy, which I think is disrespectful, so I try not to do that. So I think I'm stuck with mommy forever. However, with my dad, I have kind of morphed daddy into daddy-o. So it's D-A-D-D-I-O. So I have daddy-o saved in my phone. If I am on the phone with him, I say, hey, daddy-o. Or if I'm out in public, I'll do daddy-o. So I just wanted to share that. Maybe that is a good compromise for Patrick, even though I don't even think he's seeking that, which I love that. So, yeah, I just wanted to share that. You guys are amazing. I love listening to you, too. I really feel like you're my besties that I listen in every week. And, yeah, I adore you. And you are just the best. Thanks for what you do. And I hope you have the day you need to have. Speaker 2 (9:27) Bye. Thank you, Nina, for that. I love that she gave us a feeling of the day as well. We do that at the top of every Feeling Things episode. So it's kind of fun to have a feeling brought into Couch Talks. And I love that Patrick helped her feel validated. And why doesn't she go mommy-o? Speaker 2 (9:49) Is that Speaker 6 (9:50) an option? I've never heard that before, but I think it's hilarious. She's like, here's a suggestion for Patrick. And then she's like, wait, actually, he's not asking for that. He's fine calling it. He is 100 % secure in Speaker 2 (10:03) his Speaker 6 (10:03) daddy. Yeah. She could try Mami-O. Speaker 2 (10:08) Try Mami-O, Daddy-O. That's cute, though. Hey, Daddy-O. And she has him saved in the phone as Daddy-O. So that is a good comment. But yeah, the mom part is hard. You definitely could never call my mom by her first name. That would feel weird. Speaker 6 (10:22) I don't call my mom by her first name anymore, but we've started calling. What Speaker 2 (10:26) do you Speaker 6 (10:26) mean anymore? Did you used to? Anymore. I don't know. I didn't mean to say that. Oh. Speaker 6 (10:32) I've given her other nicknames and now we all call her by her grandma nickname. So I rarely say mom. I call her Juju because that's what all the grandkids call her. Speaker 2 (10:43) That's a good point. When my mom became a grandma and my sister's kids were calling her Marmee. Did you start calling her that? I probably did call her Marmee a lot, especially if I was around my sister or the kids. But I guess in my phone I had her as mom. If I called her, I'd be like, hey, mom. Yeah. If we're Speaker 6 (11:04) in a group. Speaker 2 (11:05) If Speaker 6 (11:05) you Speaker 2 (11:05) had your Speaker 6 (11:05) kids at that point. Speaker 2 (11:07) Uh-huh. They would have called her Marmee. Then you might have started to call her. Marmee more. Yeah. That's probably true for sure. Like, yeah, this. It struck a chord. We had another voicemail from someone. I can't like she she was pretty adamant. She was in her 50s. She was like, and I'm going to say mom or I'm going to say daddy till I'm 80. Yeah. Speaker 6 (11:28) Well, Patrick's mom calls her dad who's in his 90s daddy. Speaker 2 (11:34) OK, so I feel like when you hit 90, it's cute again. Speaker 2 (11:41) Okay. So like, you know, like there is. And I did see Patrick's mom comment on the social posts and I thought, oh no. She goes, well, you can blame, you can blame me. Cause, and I thought, oh no, I didn't mean to offend anybody at all. I think she was playing. Okay. She didn't take it personally or anything. Uh, we do have an email from Jasmine who's 46 from Massachusetts. Love when we've got a good range. We had a 27-year-old voicemail into a 46-year-old email. Kat and I had a meeting about our podcast the other day, and they were like, so what's the range of people or the target audience? And we're like, well, our data shows we try to collect information in emails, and we can see emails from 20-year-olds to like... 70 year olds. So then in the deck, the slide presentation, it was like anyone from 20 to 70. And we're like, that just feels like a really wide range. And we probably could narrow it down to like, you know, 40s ish, something in between 20 and 70. But it's Speaker 6 (12:57) true. It was funny. The way she said it was like, I see your. uh, population is from 20 to 70. Is that correct? Speaker 2 (13:07) Yeah. We know what you're thinking. We are for everybody or in, we're also not for some people. That is for sure. Uh, Jasmine, who's 46. I wrote in from Massachusetts, uh, an email about my, my workouts. And I feel like that will be hard to explain, but. I'll read the email and then we can discuss. Hey, Amy, I was wondering if you could share more about your weight training. I'd love any tips, the type, brand, size of weights you bought, exercises you're following. Really anything would be so helpful as it feels super overwhelming and hard to find a starting point. So I just push it to another day. I know you're not a doctor or a personal trainer. Thank you for recognizing that. So I'm not sure how comfortable you are with talking about this on the podcast. I'd appreciate anything you're willing to share with me. In an email, if that's the case, thank you, your friend Jasmine. And then she goes, hi, Kat. Hi. Okay, Jasmine, because I'm not a personal trainer or anything, I do feel weird about sharing things. I can say. Speaker 2 (14:14) with a lot of certainty, and I don't need credentials to say this, that I am obsessed with the adjustable dumbbells. And I didn't know these really existed until like a month or a month and a half ago, whenever I got them. Did you? Yeah, they got Speaker 6 (14:32) really big during COVID because everybody was buying their own workout stuff. And that is a cheaper way to do it. Yeah, we have we have ones. I don't know if yours are like this, but you can add and take off the pieces. Is that what yours are? Oh, Speaker 2 (14:46) well, this is a Bowflex, I think is the brand. You drop it in. There's there's two dumbbells and they drop into this little case and then you can go. click on each side so you have to adjust each side and it puts the proper amount of weight and then you pick it up oh that's more we have to like unscrew take off well that i Speaker 6 (15:07) have Speaker 2 (15:07) heard of before okay this Speaker 6 (15:09) sounds Speaker 2 (15:09) yeah that i've heard of like adding this link we'll put it in the newsletter well i will when i will say it was an investment okay the click click click click kind maybe the if you add them yourself that would be a good but Speaker 6 (15:22) are expensive okay well Speaker 2 (15:23) i had a little bit of sticker shock like okay Dang. But then I thought, well, if I went out and bought dumbbells for 10, I can do 12.5, 15, 17.5, 20, 22.5, 25. But then after 25, there's, I don't think there's 27.5. I think after 25, it jumps 25, 30, 35, 40, 45, 50. So I can go up to 50. So if I were to have all those dumbbells, that would be hundreds and hundreds of dollars. And so. The Bowflex adjustable weight is what I got. And yeah, we can put it in an upcoming newsletter. But I just know, even for me, I almost was like, I'm not buying this. But now I'm so glad I did because I don't have a gym membership yet. But hear me out. I'm also thinking about getting a gym membership, which I haven't had in years. Well, Speaker 6 (16:20) like you. Go to Pilates, but you mean like a gym, like a big box kind of gym. Yes. That has free weights and stuff like that. Speaker 2 (16:28) You're correct. I've gone to yoga classes or Pilates classes. That is girl time. I'm talking like I might go to the gym to meet people. It's boy time. Right. Or something or any friends. I just think the more I talk to people, the more they're like, maybe at a gym. Cause I don't go anywhere else. Where do I go? And I have these new workouts that I need to do. And yes, I have my adjustable dumbbells, which those have been great. And I will say, Jasmine, it can be overwhelming. The week that I started, I felt like I was drinking from a. fire hose where like the water's just gushing out and I'm trying to keep up because I was trying to take it seriously and I wanted to lift four days a week. I realized for me, that's not going to happen. So now I do three and I've consistently done three days a week for several weeks now. And that's manageable for me. And I feel good about that. I do legs one day and the exercises are pretty basic. Like where are you getting like, um, well, I had someone that put, put the workout together, but they're not my trainer. And then they sent me YouTube, this is the thing, like they're not with me in person and they're not on FaceTime, but they put together a workout that they did link videos from YouTube on form. So then I go, but that was what was overwhelming because I'm on my own and I wanted to do it properly. So I felt like my workouts were taking me way longer, but then yesterday I did a workout and now I've got it down and the exercises aren't changing. It's not like I'm getting a new routine. They're the same exact workouts. All she wants me to do is those same exact ones. And the goal is every single week for me to go up on weight. So I'm getting stronger. So it's not. not overwhelming anymore. Like it was the first week. Cause I thought my, my exercises were going to be changing, but that's a plus in this type of working out.