1063. Q&AF: Competing Against Friends, Passion vs. Profit & Leadership at Scale

REAL AF with Andy Frisella

Andy Frisella addresses listener questions regarding business competition with friends, maintaining passion during financial struggles, and scaling

Key takeaways

Copying competitors puts you at a permanent disadvantage because you are reacting to information that is already outdated.
Successful business with friends requires mature communication and the ability to compartmentalize professional and social roles.

Main topics

Business Ethics and Competition
Entrepreneurial Motivation

Notable quotes

If you're always copying someone, then you're by default operating in conversations that happened two years ago.

Conclusion

The episode provides actionable advice for entrepreneurs on maintainin

Transcript preview

Speaker 1 (0:16) What Speaker 3 (0:16) is up guys? It's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. DJ is going to tell you how you can submit your questions. Speaker 4 (0:34) Guys, you can email your questions in to askandyatandyfrasella.com. You can also check the links in the description below and submit them there or just drop them in the comment section of this video right here on YouTube. Speaker 3 (0:45) If you're unfamiliar with Real AF, we have shows within the show. Tomorrow you're going to hear CTI. That's Cruise the Internet. Today we're going to talk about how to get better, how to build your business, how to make more money, how to kick ass in life. Tomorrow we're going to talk about what the fuck is going on in the world, right? That's what CTI is about. Other times you tune in, we're going to have 75 hard versus. That's where people come on the show. They talk about how they use 75 hard to improve their lives, how to become the best version of themselves. If you're unfamiliar with 75 hard, it is the initial phase of the live hard program, which is the world's most famous mental transformation program in history. All right, get that whole entire program for free at episode 208 on the audio feed. There's also a book. The book is called The Book on Mental Toughness. You can get that at andyfersella.com. It is not free, but if you want the ins and outs, the nuts and bolts, and the in-depth, you know, extra knowledge, that's how I'm wired anyway. I like to know everything. The book is the way to go. All right, now one thing about our show is we are the biggest show in the world that does not run ads, and we ask for a simple... trade. Okay. We're not going to bombard you with ads. We're not going to talk about a bunch of stuff that, you know, I don't use. And because someone pays me, I'm not going to give you my opinion because someone's telling me to tell you. And we ask in exchange for that, just to help us grow the show, man. That makes you think, that makes you laugh. It gives you new perspective. Do us a favor and don't be a hoe. Share the show. Speaker 4 (2:18) What's up? What's good gang, man. It's a beautiful Sunday. We've got cars and caffeine happening. This is the last one of the year, man, and it is fucking packed out there. We just took a break to come in here and make some people better. Speaker 3 (2:30) Yep, Speaker 4 (2:30) yep. Speaker 3 (2:31) Also, I wanted to mention this. A lot of you guys have been asking about the MFCEO. You listen to Q &AF, you want the personal development. MFCEO Project's been going for almost a year now. It's on the Operator Standard app, which you can get at OperatorStandard.com. And if you're unfamiliar with that entire project, dude, it is an amazing, an amazing project. It's not just a podcast. There's a massive community of like-minded people. There's no ads. There's no bullshit. There's no trolls. It's everybody wanting to get better. And that's not even really what it is. It has the most incredible. Speaker 3 (3:10) production system, human behavioral operating system that if you follow, it pretty much guarantees your result. That's what the product is, okay? It's not free, but it's less than what it would cost you to order pizza one night a month. And if you're not willing to give up pizza to get your life together, then you probably shouldn't be listening to the fucking show, all right? But if you want the MFCO project and you want to check out this amazing technology that we have built that... I believe is the closest thing to guaranteeing your success. Go to operatorstandard.com and check that out. Speaker 4 (3:46) Dude, let me actually, I know because I've been getting the DMs too, like people see the clips from the show and they're like, where the fuck is this show at, right? For those, because I'm like, dude, I know the base of people that, you know, listen to the first MFCEO. What do you, you know, for new listeners who maybe didn't listen to the first. What is the biggest difference? What are they getting out of it? Speaker 3 (4:06) So it's got Vaughn, the pastor of Disaster, who is my original co-host on MSCO Project. And basically what we do is every episode is an in-depth, hour-plus-long episode on personal development, how to build your life, how to build your business, how to make money, how to kick ass, how to become the problem that you need to become in society in order to not be dependent on... quote unquote, the matrix. Okay. And that project that we built, I'm very, very proud of. I think it's the best technology product that is out right now that really nobody knows about yet. Because what it does is it basically lets you. Speaker 3 (4:48) Figure out it helps you figure out what it is you want to do and then it backtracks the tasks to a day by day by day System that you are then you know scored upon so it's no there's no longer like oh I wonder how good I'm doing or I wonder I feel like I'm doing pretty good No, this thing will tell you exactly how you are doing and there's no way for you to bullshit it So it takes that Speaker 4 (5:12) guesswork out to you know, that's also people's biggest excuse. It's Speaker 2 (5:15) what I Speaker 3 (5:15) should be used for. Okay It's using AI to make people better versus using AI to make people shittier. Yeah. That's what it is. Speaker 4 (5:25) It's not going to make your fucking dog dance. No. That's not what it's for. No, Speaker 3 (5:28) it's fucking incredible. And from where it started back in December, January to where it is now, it's just. fucking Speaker 4 (5:35) night and day difference 100 absolutely guys check it out uh andyfusola.com man um well yeah it is q and a f it is a monday when you guys are listening i got three good ones for you let's make some people better guys andy question number one this is a write-in uh hi andy uh andy i know business is business but how do you or how would you keep doing business with friends without causing conflicts between the friendship I know you talk about the spirit of competition, how it is, not how you want it to be. But would you ever go into business against a friend? I've collabed with a friend on his products, but want to start producing and selling my own version. Speaker 4 (6:17) competing against friends got an unwritten rule no i don't you know i Speaker 3 (6:22) don't know i mean at the end of the day bro friends come and go and it depends like is it your fucking brother is it your is it someone you're attached to is it someone your friends would now uh quite honestly most of the people i compete with in all my businesses i know the other the other people that own the businesses i'm friends with them yeah Speaker 4 (6:43) okay Speaker 3 (6:44) so like I think this is another one of those, you know, tales that people tell that they hear about entrepreneurship. It's not actually true. You know, it goes along with never going to business with friends and family. You know, that's a fucking bullshit statement. I mean, I know plenty of people that have businesses with their friends and family. I'm one of them. In fact, I don't do business unless I'm like really friends with somebody. Yeah. Right. Yeah. You're not doing business with complete strangers. I don't do that. And I think there's a lot of misinformation that comes from people who have never built businesses or, you know, they they got in a little bit and then they got burned a little bit. They're not experienced. They don't really understand. And I just feel like it's another one of those fallacies, dude, that people put out there, you know, like the seven streams of income shit. You know, when you have a 20 year old kid who doesn't know his ass from his elbow and you're telling him. to go out and have seven streams of income in order to be wealthy, well, I mean, you're pretty much certifying that he's never going to win ever because, number one, he doesn't have the knowledge. Number two, he doesn't have the resources. Number three, even if he had the knowledge and the resources, other people have those things as well. And if you're spreading them thin across four, five, six different things, you can't win. It's the allocation of resources, right? It's no different than... you know, a country being in a war and trying to fight a war on seven fronts versus the country that's only fighting on the main front, you know, and, you know, it's an arrogant thought to think that you could do those things when you don't have the experience to do those things. And, you know, it's just another one of those lies. So this whole family thing. You know, and as far as like getting into competition with them, I mean, dude, look, yeah. If you're, if you have someone you're friends with and your family with, and they have a successful business and you just decide that you want to be in business. So you're going to do what they do. Yeah. I'd say you're a piece of shit. Okay. Speaker 4 (8:47) And Speaker 3 (8:47) I'll be real. I, if that were me and one of my friends or somebody that I was close to just said, I'm, and this has happened before. So, I mean, this has happened to me. Because everything's easy from the outside. Everybody, when they see wins, they see the wins from the outside, right? So when they see someone winning or doing big things or the things that they'd like to do, they typically look at that thing that that person does and they're like, oh, they got to do is this. And all they did is that. I can do that. Right. Exactly. And, you know, if you're one of those people that is just looking at someone with, you know, an envious eye. And then you decide that you're going to do what they do. Number one, you're probably going to lose. Number two, yeah, I'd say you're kind of a piece of shit. Come up with your own fucking thing, bro. You know, like you don't want people to fuck you. So why are you trying to fuck other people? And you might be saying, well, it's just competition.