#134: The Psychology of Women Who Get Everything They Want

Ready For Love with Hilary Silver

This episode explores the psychological mindset of women who effortlessly achieve their goals, revealing seven core beliefs and behaviors th

Key takeaways

• Self-worth precedes external success; believing you deserve good things is the first step toward receiving them.
• Trust in oneself comes before proof of success—certainty drives action, not results.

Main topics

• Self-worth and self-acceptance
• Self-trust and decision-making confidence

Notable quotes

You have to believe it first. And that's when it finally walks through the door.

No one is going to give you an opportunity if you don't believe that you are capable.

Conclusion

True abundance starts not with external actions but with internal transformation.

Transcript preview

Speaker 1 (0:00) Over the years, I've had the privilege of being in rooms with some of the most extraordinary women, self-made millionaires, high-performing entrepreneurs, women who seem to get everything they want with ease. And I've been paying very close attention. These women aren't just lucky, they think differently, and they show up differently. And today, I'm going to share the seven things they all have in common. Because for them, anything is possible. And when you practice the shifts that I'm sharing with you today, the whole world will open up for you too. And trust me, I started doing them and it works. So if you're ready to stop waiting and start becoming the woman who gets everything she wants, this is the episode for you. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Ready for Love podcast. Speaker 1 (0:48) Hey friends, welcome back. And if you're new here, I'm Hillary Silver, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I am here to help you look, feel, and be your very best, live life on your own terms, and get everything you want. So if that sounds good, please subscribe to the podcast and to our YouTube channel. It is the best way to help me grow the show. You've probably tried to get something that you want in the conventional way. So you set a goal, you follow the blueprint, and you work hard and do all the right things. And sometimes it works, but sometimes it feels like no matter what you do, the thing that you really want just stays out of reach. It is so damn frustrating, and you can't figure out why. Because on paper, you're doing everything right. You're doing everything you're supposed to, everything they told you to do. But here's what you are missing. It's not what you're doing so much that matters. It's who you are being that matters, who you are when you're doing it all. So what you're believing about yourself that makes all the difference. And until that shifts, nothing on the outside will either. So here are the seven ways that women who get everything they want, think, believe, and show up differently. Number one, they come first and they don't apologize for it. These women always make time for themselves. They always make themselves a priority. They always put their needs first and they listen very closely and don't feel bad about it. As women, we were taught to always put others first and to ignore our own needs. But I'm here to tell you right now that is complete bullshit. No one is going to advocate for your own needs more than you. It is your job to make sure that your needs are met. It is your job to take care of yourself. It is your job to decide that you are worth showing up for. No one else is going to do that for you. So it's time to make you a priority. You may not be aware of it, but here's what putting yourself last actually communicates to everyone around you, including yourself, that you don't matter as much as everyone else. The world will take you at your word every single time. And if the message that you're sending out into the universe is, my needs don't matter, your needs are never going to be met. So start acting like you matter because you do. The next one builds perfectly on this one. Because once you start meeting your own needs, you start to realize you deserve so much more. So number two is these women know they deserve good things and they aren't afraid to receive them. These women have high self-worth. They know they deserve amazing things. And when those things come into their life, they don't sabotage or get scared or feel bad about it at all. They just welcome it right in like they were expecting it to arrive. Here's what you need to understand. If you're afraid to receive good things, you will push them away every time, every single time. and you won't even realize that you're doing it. In order to stop subconsciously doing that, you have to believe you are deserving of everything that you want. And this part has to come first because your beliefs are broadcasting on a frequency and what you put out is exactly what you get back. No one is going to give you an opportunity if you don't believe that you are capable. No one is going