Carly Got A Nose Job… And She’s Finally Revealing Everything

Not As We Planned

The hosts return from a hiatus to share Carly's recent journey through rhinoplasty in Turkey and the emotional recovery process. The convers

Key takeaways

• Carly underwent rhinoplasty in Turkey to address lifelong facial insecurities and shared her surgical experience.
• Tash discussed the mental battle of being trolled by hundreds of users after posting a video of reuniting with her children.

Main topics

• Rhinoplasty recovery and insecurity
• Social media trolling and parenting

Notable quotes

It's your face at the end of the day and it's really important you make the right decision for you.

Conclusion

A raw and vulnerable exploration of navigating physical, financial, an

Transcript preview

Speaker 2 (0:00) Hey guys. Hi. You're listening to Not As We Planned. So get ready for honest, raw, unfiltered, unhinged story where we share our advice, opinion, and talk about all the shit that people avoid discussing. We want to point out we are not qualified professionals, although I feel like I am one. And what we say is the advice we would give to our besties. Speaker 2 (0:20) Hello! Speaker 1 (0:21) It doesn't feel like, like for you, you're just like, it's another Thursday. For us, we haven't been here since like the middle of July. Speaker 2 (0:28) Yeah. So we're very, very, very Speaker 1 (0:31) excited to be back here. I feel like it's Speaker 2 (0:32) a Speaker 1 (0:32) real Speaker 2 (0:33) overdue catch up. I need Speaker 1 (0:33) to Speaker 2 (0:33) do. This Speaker 1 (0:34) is the best I've felt in weeks. Really? Today. Speaker 2 (0:37) It's because you're with me. You might have noticed something Speaker 1 (0:40) if you're watching, guys. What could it be? We're debuting our first... episode with a little cute nose. Look at my sidebar. I'm going to keep turning to Tash now just so you can see it. No, yeah. Shall I start there? Yeah, let's Speaker 2 (0:55) do it. Speaker 1 (0:55) Because we can't. It's the elephant in the room. It's not because it's not a very big nose anymore. Let's delve into the update. The updates are I got a new nose. Yay! Welcome to the pod. Welcome to the pod. Please tell us what your story is. Where Speaker 2 (1:11) did Speaker 1 (1:11) you come Speaker 2 (1:11) from? Speaker 1 (1:12) Oh, well, I come from Turkey. So basically, I have been insecure about my nose my entire life, like literally as long as I can remember. I've hated it. It's a personal insecurity. And I think also like it was a big feature on my face. I think what I've realized now is I have quite a small face. I mean, you've got large features and they just become something you're aware of and conscious. Like I was, it's interesting because I've been like trying to look through my phone to like compare side angles as to it now. I never used to take pictures of my nose on a side angle because I hated it so much. So if the girls that get it, get it. Like when you've got an insecurity, it doesn't matter what other people tell you, you've got the most beautiful nose, this, that. When you're insecure about something, you dislike something about yourself that much and you have an opportunity to change it. Speaker 1 (2:00) Yeah, it's, you know, like I remember being on my hen do and a guy coming up to me being like, you would be so beautiful if you didn't have a massive nose. Speaker 2 (2:08) Yeah. Speaker 1 (2:09) Every bride wants a fucking hair, right? What do the Speaker 2 (2:11) actual fuck? And I've had it my whole life. Like some people have said Speaker 1 (2:15) it like to be nasty. I've had it with trolls on the internet. I've had it with clips of the podcast. Like, oh my God, like the nose on her and stuff like that. And it's nasty. And look, I'm not doing this because of that. But I think when you've got an insecurity and other people feed into that insecurity, it does make it worse. And look, I know the girls will get it. It was something I was looking into. It's something I couldn't really afford to do. But I think when you know you want it done at some point, you start. I've been looking for years. I've followed surgeons for years. It wasn't a case of if I'd ever get it. It was like when. And I wasn't really in the position to do it anyway. And inquired into this company. I was actually, I'd rather be transparent about it because I'm a single mum at the end of the day. And they said to me, we would actually be happy if you're happy to share your journey of getting it done. We're happy to collaborate on it. And I just thought I actually felt like I manifested it because it's on my vision board. But I knew like financially, it's not something I would justify like when I've got the kids and whatever. So I do. And look, some people get triggered by that and annoyed. I get it. But for me, in my line of work, it made sense. It was a company I genuinely was looking at going through anyway. And I also thought getting your nose done isn't something you can really just like do and hide. I feel like I got my boobs done. It might not have been something I would necessarily have shared. But you can't just rock up one day and like look a bit different. So I just thought, OK, we'll do it. I flew to Turkey on my own, which in my head when I booked it, I was going to have a boyfriend who was going to come and look after me. So cute. Didn't happen. No. And I won't lie, like the week leading up to it, I had proper meltdown. Like, what am I doing? I said to you, like, and I think that's really not, I think with any surgery, even if it was in the UK, I think I would have been like questioning my life decisions. I think that's very normal. I had done my own research and I really encourage you not to base your decisions of what anyone else is doing. who anyone else has chosen, what's right for one person might not be right for someone else. So I encourage you to go and do your own research. That's massive. It's your face at the end of the day and it's really important you make the right decision for you. For me, I felt like this was right for me. So I got on the plane and then my biggest worry was being put to sleep and whether I would wake up. I was sending you voice notes, wasn't I? She was like, what if I don't wake up? She won't know. But you do. And again, I posted some of my stories. And again, I think as a mum, I've never had surgery being put to sleep as a mum. Yeah. And suddenly you have all these other worries. And then I remember even being wheeled into surgery laying there thinking, you're a fucking selfish bitch for doing this. What if you're dying? Your kids are without a mum because you just wanted a nicer... Like the mental battles you go through. But we are also very entitled to do things that make us feel good. Anyway, I remember waking up from surgery and I was like, oh, thank fuck I'm alive. Like genuinely, that was like my feeling. I was like, you made it. The actual like whole process was unreal. Like got picked up from the airport, stayed in the most amazing hotel. It was all part of like your package. The care in the hospital was amazing. Like the surgeon looked at my nose and he. actually told me my nostril had been dislocated, which I didn't know. And he was like, yeah, you've got a curve and all these things. I was like, well, God, like you need to fix that, babe. And I just remember just about to be put to sleep. And I was like, please just don't give me a piggy nose. I just don't want it to look fake. And he was like, I've got you. And yeah, so the first week was really, really hard. I've definitely had some meltdowns to Tash. Like, I think it's, I was, let's put it in perspective. I was alone. I had cabin fever because you can't really go out. You've just had an operation. My face was swollen. I looked like Elephant Man. I was black. I was every colour of the rainbow, wasn't I? I was in a really bad way. And I was, like you do, people don't talk about the mental battles after surgery enough. Like I hadn't. prepared myself enough for that but like I was like questioning why the fuck have you done this all these things and like you're so small and you're like oh my god I'm botched and this and that and then anyway you get through I'd say day four five was when I was like swelling's going down bruising's going okay you're gonna be all right and then I went to get my cast off and I was shitting it because all over the internet it's like I've seen so many girls like you need to prepare yourself that you might not like it when your cast is taken off because A, you look really different and Speaker 2 (6:51) seeing Speaker 1 (6:52) your face that you don't recognize is really weird. But also it's really swollen still. It's like a week post surgery. I remember keep looking every day. I got sent a picture of my nose fresh off the table. And when I first saw it, I didn't like it because I just looked so, I was like, that's not me. And I made myself look at it every day. And I actually found it quite hard to look at. But by the time I got to my cast coming off, I'd looked at it so much, I was really happy. Anyway, nothing could prepare me for having my cast taken off. I literally, I did post a video online, but I burst out crying. Like the fact I love it so much when it's swollen, I thought it takes a full year to fully heal. And yeah, this morning is the first time I've taken my tapes off since I had the cast off. So it's been in it for 10 days. It's still very, very swollen around here. If you can see the close up, which hopefully you can't. I've still got stitches here. So it might look like I've got bogeys there. It's not. It's stitches. I just don't want to pull them. They dissolve. So it's still really swollen, but I am so happy. But even like today, I was walking around, like the confidence change in me. It's just beyond anything. Yeah, we were joking Speaker 2 (7:59) about the fact that now I feel like I'm getting replaced on the pod by her nose. There's three people here now. Absolutely, address her nicely. She's Speaker 1 (8:08) been a long time coming. So, yeah, look, I'm really, really happy. It's not me being like, everyone should go and change things or things like that. But I genuinely believe if there's something about yourself that you have an opportunity to change and it... means that much to you. You know it will change the way you feel about yourself, the way you show up. Like for me, genuinely, I feel like the confidence, even just like doing the school run this morning, I just feel so different. Speaker 1 (8:37) I'm just really happy. I mean, I Speaker 2 (8:39) get it. I had surgery when I was 19. I had a breast reduction. And even at that age, I mean, I hated them. I was a G. That is wild. That's like two heads. They were two heads. I could fit one cup of my bra on my head. My younger Speaker 1 (8:59) sister's like that. Speaker 2 (9:00) Yeah. And I think at that age, a lot of people, you know, 19 is very young. wouldn't ever be suggesting to, you know, people like make sure you get surgery when you're really young. But I think that from the moment I had them until the moment I didn't have them, like it was very, very clear. Like I didn't like them. It attracted a lot of unwanted attention. And it's the, it is the best thing I ever did. So I think when you're so fixated on something that you don't like for yourself, not about. other people but genuinely yourself and you don't actually even care about people's opinions about whether you should or shouldn't do something it is okay to make those changes as long as they're for the right reason. Yeah. I Speaker 1 (9:48) don't think we've ever really spoken about cosmetic surgery before, but I remember like even leading up to the operation, I had family who of course like love you the way you are. And it's only like in your best interest, but I had like messaged off my grandma, like, please don't do this. Please reconsider. And people being like, you're beautiful the way you are. And it's like valid. Like you see me like that. For me, this is massive. And I think it's just really important. And for me, like those messages I did get before did make me start to question my own decisions because you're like, oh, oh, this, this, this. But it's like, no, no, I know I want this. And that's also OK. And I think we need to stop like shaming people for cosmetic surgery, because I think there is some judgment from people who would never get it done or think a certain way. Like, I think if something makes someone feel more confident and better about themselves, then. I Speaker 2 (10:40) also Speaker 1 (10:40) think that people that have a really strong Speaker 2 (10:42) opinion against it, that's completely valid. But I think unless you really have experienced what something about yourself can make you feel like really insecure, I don't think you can really give like a really strong opinion to someone else when you don't know how it makes them feel on a daily basis. Speaker 1 (11:01) I Speaker 2 (11:02) feel like it's how I feel about my stomach. Like I won't ever be doing anything. in regards to my stomach for anyone else. Everyone can tell me it's... Same Speaker 1 (11:12) with my teeth. And I'm about to start aligners Speaker 2 (11:14) because that is something else. And I Speaker 1 (11:17) think it's really hard as well, like particularly our job, like we're on camera for like our social clips. Like I remember every single clip since I've been in the studio, as much as I love you, Matthew, but I feel like the clips I'm just like fixated on my nose the whole time because it's like... these high definition cameras. Yeah, like we cannot hide in Speaker 2 (11:37) the Speaker 1 (11:37) studio. You Speaker 2 (11:38) cannot hide Speaker 1 (11:38) and lighting and everything. Like for me, it's just like, wow, these are the things and it's not for anyone else other than, I've made it very clear, I think on social media for the last few years about what my two biggest insecurities are. And whilst I'm given opportunities to, I don't want to say fix them, but improve them. adjust them then I'm absolutely going to take it Speaker 2 (12:00) so 100 % and sometimes I also think the negative comments are just jealous oh Speaker 1 (12:04) yeah it is because we should get a real job apparently Speaker 2 (12:08) yeah well anyway about our real job so I'm trying to think what update to give it's been so many weeks since we've been here me and Tash did meet up on holiday actually in Spain for a Speaker 1 (12:21) day Speaker 2 (12:21) which was really cute really really cute yeah Do you know what, actually? Something that I want to touch on. Obviously, Carly and I, everyone's over it. Summer holidays have been and gone. Everyone's back to school. Fabulous, whatever. But I think that something that I really struggled with the other week, which doesn't usually bother me, like in our line of work, there's always going to be trolls. Like I'm aware that some people get there more than others, whatever. I am very thick skinned. It takes a lot to break me down even remotely. Speaker 1 (12:57) Like really don't give a shit what people think. You Speaker 2 (13:00) have Speaker 1 (13:00) to be thick skinned Speaker 2 (13:00) in Speaker 1 (13:00) this industry. Speaker 2 (13:01) Yeah. And something that really took me by surprise, I think also because what I posted and received a lot of trolling from wasn't remotely controversial. No. Speaker 1 (13:13) I've posted similar Speaker 2 (13:14) videos. Yeah. So I wasn't expecting it at all. Speaker 2 (13:18) When I'm maybe going, not out my way to be controversial, but when I'm talking about a subject that I know is going to maybe like, you know. Ruffle some Speaker 1 (13:27) feathers. Yeah. Speaker 2 (13:28) Then I'm a bit like, it's cool. I'm expecting it. It doesn't bother me because I really like feel strongly about what I'm talking about. I posted a video of like being reunited with my kids after they'd been at their dad for 10 days. Valid. 10 days. is a really, really long time. I'm only away from my kids for a maximum of two days for the whole year, other than the summer. And I really, really struggled with, especially saying goodbye to them. I was an absolute broken mess. Yes, that doesn't mean I don't enjoy my time away from them. I feel like those two things can exist at the same time. Speaker 2 (14:07) But when I got them back, it was just like the best feeling ever. And I know that any single parent that like gets that like moment of being reunited with your children is just not something that you can explain. Like it is just the best feeling ever. It's almost like your half of you has been like traveling outside of your body Speaker 1 (14:24) and then you like feel whole again. And it was... Just like your nervous system re-regulates. Yeah. It was just like the best feeling Speaker 2 (14:32) ever. And I filmed it and... To be completely honest, even if I wasn't an influencer, genuinely feel like that would be something I would film. I've always been that person growing up, even before social media was even a thing. I was always the one with a digital camera. I was always the one taking all the photos, taking all the videos. I had a video camera from like a really young age. I love capturing moments. That doesn't mean I'm also not in it. Like me having a camera. on a tripod that is far away from what is actually going on, I'm soaking it all up. I'm taking it all in. And my children are also very used to noticing that Speaker 1 (15:13) there is a... Speaker 2 (15:13) I Speaker 1 (15:13) don't Speaker 2 (15:13) even think you need to justify that. I know, but knowing that there is a camera there, they love looking back at videos of themselves and us together and us laughing. Also, single Speaker 1 (15:23) parents, if we don't do things like that, you're never in it. You look back and, like, where are their memories with your parent? Like, I really... Push for anyone who is a single parent who thinks, I've got all these lovely pictures of my kids. I'm never in it. Who cares what people think? Set up the tripod. You're never going to see these people again. For me, having those memories to look back on, it's not to post anywhere. It is for me and my memories. And you're absolutely allowed to do that without having to justify to anyone. Yeah, there's a Speaker 2 (15:49) lot of things that I video of me and