Couple’s Therapy, Self-Care & Staying Together Ft. KevOnStage & Melissa Fredericks

Naked Beauty

In this second half of the Naked Beauty podcast episode, KevOnStage and Melissa Fredericks share their personal journeys in self-care, skincare routines, and marriage therapy. They discuss how individual and couples therapy have strengthened their relationship over time, emphasizing

Key takeaways

• Individual and couples therapy have been crucial to maintaining a healthy, thriving marriage over time.
• Simple skincare routines (like using Dial soap) can be effective when aligned with natural skin health.

Main topics

• Couples therapy and marital wellness
• Self-care and skincare routines

Notable quotes

"I don't spoil my skin and make it expect all this stuff. That's what he says."

Conclusion

KevOnStage and Melissa Fredericks demonstrate how intentional self-care, therapy, and authentic

Transcript preview

Speaker 3 (0:00) Hello, hello, this is Brooke DeVard and you are watching another episode of the Naked Beauty Podcast. And I am so excited for you all to get into part two of this conversation with Kev on stage and Melissa. You know them, you love them. They're all over your screens and feeds. Kev and Melissa have taken an untraditional path towards their success that they have found here in Hollywood. They are doing things on their own terms, with their own agenda, and they're loving their way through every portion of their marriage and partnership together. I was so excited on this part two of the conversation. to talk about their therapy journey, their self-care journey, and just hear how it all comes together for them. Let's get into part two. What's your beauty routine? We got to see some of Mel's products. Oh, okay. Speaker 1 (0:39) You have time? We're seated Speaker 3 (0:41) and we have time. I want to know your skincare routine specifically. Speaker 1 (0:45) Dial soap. Okay. Speaker 3 (0:47) Wash. Speaker 3 (0:50) I Speaker 1 (0:51) am done. That is so interesting to me. I literally do absolutely nothing. He has Speaker 2 (0:55) the most beautiful skin. And your skin is perfect. And your skin is perfect. Speaker 1 (0:59) How Speaker 2 (0:59) dare you? Speaker 1 (1:00) Every Speaker 2 (1:00) day, 365, for the 20 years I've met, known this man. His skin. Pores, nonexistent. Breakouts, what are those? Wrinkles, never heard of them. Speaker 1 (1:12) I sometimes get a stress pimple. Literally, that's it. At the beginning of a production, I almost always, for Church of Season 1. A Speaker 2 (1:18) single pimple. A single. Cystic. It's not cystic. Speaker 1 (1:22) I just heard that before. Speaker 3 (1:24) And all you're using is dial soap? Speaker 1 (1:26) Just my soap that I wash my body with, or Dove. Dove. I mean Dove. But the soap I wash my body with in the shower. And honestly, yes. Speaker 2 (1:33) And honestly, I feel like soap is overdoing it. I think I would just be in there using water. Good old Speaker 1 (1:38) H2O. I don't have my Korean skincare thing yet. I'm fascinated by Speaker 3 (1:43) this. Because I know that right next to you in the bathroom, you have all of her products that you could use. And I know she has no shortage of products. She's got all the things. My husband similarly washes his face with a bar of soap, much to my shock and horror. And I'm like, you don't want to get into some of these like exfoliants, these serums. So his theory is he's like, my skin is good because I don't spoil it. That's what he says. He's like, I don't spoil my skin and make it expect all this stuff. I Speaker 1 (2:08) love that. I'm like, this is your skin. Don't know no better. Don't know no different life. Speaker 3 (2:14) So maybe that maybe it works. I Speaker 1 (2:15) think God gives all of us one thing that we don't care about that a lot of people care about. And my skin is one. I think I just don't have I don't care about it. I don't think about it. And it behaves and it behaves. I think we all have something that somebody else would appreciate. Right. That we don't appreciate. And I don't appreciate my skin at all. I'm just like makeup artists. When I sit down and say they're just like, well, I have really great skin. I'm like, thank you. My wife says that all the time. Great pores. But no, I don't have a routine. No sunscreen. Speaker 3 (2:48) No moisturizer. No eye cream. Lotion. Cetaphil. Speaker 2 (2:53) But definitely not eye cream. My Speaker 1 (2:56) knees are actually right down. You think I'm putting on eye cream? Do you want to see? You're Speaker 2 (3:01) not going to be able to lift that pant leg. Yes, he is. Speaker 3 (3:03) Oh, wow. I'm seeing the ashes. I only put lotion Speaker 1 (3:07) on the parts that you see. So, no, I don't do any of those things on a daily basis. Now, in Speaker 3 (3:13) the Speaker 1 (3:13) summertime, if I have short time, I'll put a little lotion on. But on a regular day, I ain't going to do it. I ain't going to do it. Now, what Speaker 3 (3:20) about you? What's your morning? Speaker 2 (3:22) We got a different one for the morning and the evening. I'm Speaker 3 (3:25) here for a.m. and p.m. Okay, Speaker 2 (3:26) so I'm a gentle. A gentle wash girl. Doesn't have to be foamy necessarily. Actually, I prefer gel. And then I'm very much a hyaluronic acid girl. I love hyaluronic acid. This is my morning routine. I usually like a vitamin C in the morning. A vitamin C serum. Which vitamin C are you using? I have the, right now, I'm using the La Roche-Posay's bottle. Yep, that's very good. And then I also, and I just got the one from your ad that I'm testing out. And then I am, because I actually don't have the best skin. I do have, thank you. You have great skin. Thank you. Speaker 3 (4:05) This is hard work. Speaker 2 (4:06) Azelaic acid. Speaker 3 (4:07) Okay, azelaic acid. I think you Speaker 2 (4:09) always say incorrect. Thank you for that. That and then I do like a thicker moisturizer. All this is one time? Yes, correct. Yes. Speaker 1 (4:19) You're not just naming things? Speaker 2 (4:21) No. And the thing about it is I just gave you the title of the things. There's three options of washes. There's three options of vitamin C. There's three options of hyaluronic acid. There's three options of moisturizers. Yes. In the evening, same thing. Pull out the vitamin C. Pull out the azelaic acid. Add in the tretinoin. Speaker 1 (4:40) Right. Tretinoin. Yeah. But that's only like a couple Speaker 2 (4:44) times a week. Speaker 3 (4:45) Wow. And do you do any facials? Do you do any in-office treatment? Yes. Speaker 2 (4:50) A shout out to my esthetician. Her name is Lauren. Facials by Lauren or Skin by Lauren actually is her name on Instagram. I see her every four weeks. Oh, Speaker 3 (5:00) wow. Speaker 2 (5:00) Faithfully since probably 2020. Wow. We play no games. And what do you do when you go there? Speaker 3 (5:08) I get the hydro facials. Speaker 2 (5:10) I just did start at the microneedling. I've only done them twice. I have one more we're going to do. Actually, I think on my next appointment. Is Speaker 3 (5:18) it painful, the microneedling? Speaker 2 (5:20) No, they're a little bit uncomfortable, though. I wouldn't call them painful, but it's a little uncomfortable for sure. Speaker 3 (5:26) Yeah. Speaker 2 (5:27) But I do like the results. I also, listen, this whole thing, I like getting the IV treatments. Oh, man. And so I get the skin, like the beauty treatment. I actually really do feel like it gives you an inner glow. Speaker 3 (5:42) I mean, you are glowing. Thank Speaker 2 (5:43) you. You Speaker 3 (5:44) are glowing. Thank Speaker 2 (5:44) you. So Speaker 3 (5:45) you all talk about love and marriage on a lot of your platforms. Why is that important for you to share with people? Because a lot of people say like, okay, everything, I'll talk about anything, but I won't talk about my relationship. But you all have made a point to show us what your partnership looks like. Why has that been important? Speaker 1 (6:01) Hmm. That's a good question, Brooke. I don't think we've ever announced that. Yeah. I think for us, one of the reasons we want our... We wrote our New York Times bestselling book, Marriage Be Hard. That's what I thought you were going to say Speaker 2 (6:11) was one of the, I can't remember exactly how she phrased it, but the dream that wasn't a dream. Oh, for sure. Speaker 1 (6:16) I didn't think about that. She writes. When we were young and married, we needed a lot of practical advice and we didn't have it a lot. We had a lot of cliche advice, you know, happy wife, happy life, things like that. But like practical advice, we didn't have a lot of that. We're Speaker 3 (6:34) both of Speaker 1 (6:35) your. Speaker 3 (6:35) Parents married for a long time. Mm-hmm. Speaker 1 (6:37) Yeah, Speaker 3 (6:38) so you had that modeled which is we had that Speaker 1 (6:40) modeled but I don't think in Austin for my parents They they weren't like able to say okay. Here's what we did and here's why it worked They were just like happy wife happy life. Listen to your mother. That's my dad would be like you listen to you mother Speaker 2 (6:54) Brother Speaker 1 (6:55) that's okay, man. So Speaker 2 (6:59) we Speaker 1 (7:01) wanted to be able to help other people even before we did our podcast back when we lived in washington we did the love hour live we would do like little meetups there was uncle therm's barbecue spot at tacoma we had maybe 15 people come out we thought we was killing it it was like yeah you paid for the ticket you got free barbecue remember that yeah but it was always important for us to share because we wanted people to stay together i think it was a couple of singles and married people at that time That's what made the love hour so good. We definitely want people to stay married and give them as many tools as possible, but not so many tools that we're out here bleeding publicly onto people. What does that mean, bleeding publicly? Speaker 3 (7:42) We Speaker 1 (7:42) ain't talking about every single problem we have online for your content and your enjoyment, Speaker 3 (7:47) because then people will Speaker 1 (7:48) tear you up. You're in the comments looking at all that type of stuff. We talk about stuff, but not stuff that we're going through currently. Speaker 3 (7:55) Yes. Speaker 1 (7:56) We got to get over that thing. It might be two weeks that we've been over it. Right. Speaker 3 (7:59) But Speaker 1 (7:59) we're not like, Melissa upset me, I upset her. Here's a podcast episode about something we haven't figured out yet. Right. That we won't do. Do you remember Speaker 3 (8:06) that Red Table Talk episode that came