Bonus Episode - Advice with Karen and Georgia

My Favorite Murder with Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark

In this bonus advice episode of My Favorite Murder, Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark tackle a range of listener questions with their signature humor and candid

Key takeaways

• Turning 30 is less about having it figured out and more about setting long-term intentions for your future self in your 40s.
• Life paths are rarely linear—expect to reassess and rebuild goals every few years.

Main topics

• Advice on turning 30
• Encouraging elderly family members to seek medical care

Notable quotes

"You're still as dumb as you were when you were 18. But now you just have like a bunch of bills and a shitty job."

Conclusion

Karen and Georgia wrap up their advice episode with a mix of heartfelt wisdo

Transcript preview

Speaker 1 (0:01) This is exactly right. In February of 2024, celebrated illustrator and children's book author Petra Mathers and her husband Michael mailed letters to dozens of friends and family members to let them know they had died by suicide. Dear honeys, this is goodbye. By the time you get this letter, both Petra and I will be dead. Next stop, Wonderland. Why did they do it? And what did it do to the people they left behind? Listen to Death of an Artist wherever you get your podcasts. Speaker 1 (0:54) And welcome. To My Favorite Murder. That's Georgia Hardstark. That's Karen Kilgara. And this is our bonus advice episode where we solve all of your problems by answering the questions that you submitted to us. We call it Advice with Karen and Georgia brought to you by Cars.com. Because whether you're trying to find the right car or need life advice, having a trusted source makes it a whole lot easier. Just to be clear, we're the trusted source. That's us. In this situation. All right. This one's so hard. The first one's like the hardest question. I can't even imagine answering this. This is from Emily Jane McGinnis. What advice would you give someone turning 30? Give us the 30 era reel reel. 30. That's hard. 30. I'm almost double that. Speaker 1 (1:42) So let me think. I think 30 is like you start to believe you know a bunch of stuff. And we may have talked about this before. Yeah. This is my theory on when you're in your 30s. It's a real setup because you've got through your 20s, right? You know you're a dipshit when you're 18. Yes. When you go through your 20s, you get to the end of that and you think, now I know everything. Right. And then you become one of those insufferable people who thinks they know everything. Yeah. And you're actually just. Right. Where you actually start to realize that you don't know anything. Right. But you should know things. You should. Speaker 1 (2:19) But you won't till probably your early 40s. Right. You're still as dumb as you were when you were 18. But now you just have like a bunch of bills and a shitty job or maybe a great job. You think you're supposed to be doing things with your life, which you don't. You're not. No, it's still too early for all that. Now you're you just like solidified some stuff like now there's ground under your feet. Right. But you still don't know anything. I think the thing my thing would be to to not think about yourself in your 30s. Think about yourself. Speaker 1 (2:47) older, like in your 40s, and where do you want to be then? So everything you're doing in your 30s isn't as important as you think, except for the fact that whatever you're doing, you want it to be so that your 40s person will thank you, because that's the more important part. Perfect advice. Yes. It's just like be aiming in the direction of, but know that isn't one singular path. Right. So that you, like, if you get to the neighborhood of where you want to be. Yeah. Right? I thought I wanted to be a sitcom actress when I was 24 years old. Wow. And I moved here to do that. Yeah. Speaker 1 (3:22) And then I went and actually started auditioning for things. I was like, I want no part of any of this. But I sure did run my mouth about all my dreams and whatever. And it's like you get to step back and reassess and then go, okay, well, I tried that. It didn't work and or I didn't like it. So now I'm going to start again and do something. Like know that your five-year plan has to be broken down and rebuilt every three years. And don't judge your own life based on everyone else's life, even your best friend. Speaker 1 (3:51) totally different trajectories and it doesn't matter like what your trajectory is right now. It's not going to be what you think it is. It's going to be something totally different for everyone. Yeah. So just relax. And look at yourself from big picture outside of yourself through the eyes of your grandma or someone that really loved you and be nice about it. Yeah. And remember, you could die at any second. It's so dark. It's true, though. Okay. Do you think we did that one? I think so. Okay. Speaker 1 (4:19) Oh, this is hilarious. And I relate to it very much. This one's from at little engine that can't even on Instagram. It's good. And they wrote in asking, how do you convince a cantankerous older father to go to the doctor? Oh, I had to do that recently. Did you really? Yeah. What'd you do?