LISTEN, FOCUS, CHANGE YOUR LIFE - Powerful Motivational Speech Compilation

Motivation Daily by Motiversity

This motivational podcast episode features powerful insights from multiple speakers on self-acceptance, personal growth, and the importance

Key takeaways

• Self-liking is not about perfection but about recognizing your efforts and giving yourself grace.
• Your daily habits—like hitting snooze or skipping workouts—are reflections of self-trust, which shapes your future success.

Main topics

• Self-acceptance and self-compassion
• The power of daily habits

Notable quotes

"If you die, no one can look after the pet."

"You are that friend to yourself." "How can you have faith that you're going to go and do all of the things that you want in life when you can't not hit the snooze button?"

Conclusion

The episode concludes with a powerful call to action: stop waiting for perfect conditions or past

Transcript preview

Speaker 4 (0:02) Arrogance is pride mixed with ignorance. All right, that's the definition of arrogance. I'm not talking arrogance. I'm talking about, look, as a human being, I've failed at this. I've succeeded at that. I've wrecked this, but I've built that. And all in all, you know, I've tried, but I like me. So I'm going to give me some grace. And how many people can say that? How many people say, I like me? Speaker 3 (0:29) They would give. Speaker 3 (0:32) more grace, more care, more attention, more love to somebody else than themselves. There's a statistic around, I think on average, the likelihood that you are going to complete a course of antibiotics yourself is about 50%. The likelihood of your dog completing it is 95%. So we're literally capable of caring for a pet. Right. Nearly double as well as we can for ourselves. Remembering that if you die, no one can look after the pet. Serving others from a cup which overflows around your own is important. Speaker 4 (1:13) Tell me, how do you like yourself? Find somebody that you like, that you genuinely like, and figure out what it is about them you like. Speaker 4 (1:23) I like that. That's something I like. That person is, they're understanding. They're gentle. They're hardworking. They're honest. This is what I like about them. And incorporate that stuff into your own life. If that's the stuff you like, then incorporate that stuff into who you are. And then you like yourself. It's not rocket science. But if we become the person that we like, I have come to the place in my life where when I meet somebody and they don't like me, and you can tell, I don't care. I like me. Speaker 3 (2:04) And it's enough. You know, this was a lesson that I realized toward the end of my 20s where I'd accumulated a lot of success and status in maybe the way that modern society tells a young man that he should with freedom and notoriety and women and stuff like that. And that was cool. And to look back on fun. But... It was beginning to get to the stage where I didn't like me all that much. I hadn't done anything bad, but I just felt like I was built for more. I was built for different, built for something else. And I realized that I wasn't keeping promises to myself. That if I said I was going to wake up at a certain time, the snooze button would be hit three times. If I said that I was going to stick to my diet or go to the gym or do this thing, Speaker 4 (3:00) Maybe it Speaker 3 (3:01) would happen, but it wouldn't happen quite the way that I'd meant it to, and there would be some negotiating and some cajoling and some falling short. Speaker 3 (3:11) You know, how can you have faith that you're going to go and do all of the things that you want in life when you can't not hit the snooze button? Right. Or you can't not cheat on your diet. You can't not do, you know, you are constructed by the tiny decisions that you make every single day. Speaker 4 (3:28) Well, I'll just say I came to a place in life where I just didn't like me anymore. I wasn't a very nice person. And I was just very on edge. very angry so i had to make some decisions i can't continue to live like this angry there's no There's no benefit to it. You know, it doesn't fix anything. You know, anger, it just turned out, I'm like, this is not profitable. And this is eating me up inside. And I'm making stupid decisions. And this has just got to end. So I had to make some decisions. What's making me like this? I need to get it out of my life. And slowly over time, got to handle on stuff. and kind of got some of my perspective back. Speaker 3 (4:17) So imagine that you had a friend, and every time that you invited this friend out for lunch, they showed up an hour late, or they didn't show up at all. After a while, you'd stop trusting them and stop inviting them out at all. You are that friend to yourself. Speaker 4 (4:32) And Speaker 3 (4:33) I think this is such an Speaker 4 (4:34) important Speaker 3 (4:34) lesson for people who want to be liked, who struggle socially, and want to become better. People like people that make them feel good. They don't care that much about how impressive the person is. Speaker 4 (4:52) I don't like the trend in this circle, men's motivation circle. I don't like the hustle culture as is being brought out and taught today. I don't agree with it Speaker 3 (5:05) because Speaker 4 (5:05) I think it's out of balance. I think young men need to know that, hey, it's okay for you to sit down and to chill and to think. Because I guarantee if you're in the weight room, pumping out all these reps and running on the machine. And then you're going into the cubicle and you flip open a computer and you're not thinking. You're learning, you're taking in, but you're not meditating on stuff and you're not thinking. But that can be taken so far that young men are made to feel guilty for just sitting down and thinking and relaxing. And I understand that there was a tendency in this country. We had a lot of young men that were not raised With dads, they weren't raised to work, you know, and so it's sitting on the couch playing the stupid Xbox, you know, not growing up learning to work. So that pendulum went too far this way. So now you've got guys who, in order to counteract that, they swung the pendulum too far this way. And a balanced man needs to be somewhere in the middle. He needs to be able to work, to do what needs to be done, to improve himself. And he also needs to sit around by the fire in the backyard and just stay Speaker 2 (6:27) balanced. If you want it all, life will give you nothing. We're willing to sacrifice everything that we have for the thing that we want. And then once we get the thing that we want, we want back the things that we sacrificed, which really just goes to the heart of the human condition, which is we want it all. And we're not willing to make trades. Speaker 2 (6:47) And so one of the reasons that I've actually, I would say, largely tossed out the deathbed regrets of most people is that what they do typically is they will have the bias of wanting the other path they could have taken without considering the cost of that path. So they say, hey, I was really successful and I did all these things, but I would give it all up today to have my family. It's like, well, yeah, but you didn't because you actually chose the path that you're on and you weren't willing to do that. But what you are saying right now is that you want it all. Sure. So does everyone. And so I've had a few moments of clarity over the last year or so. But we want everything without the cost. And everything has a price. And you will never be able to get the sufficient price tag paid on everything to achieve a modicum of success in any domain unless you are willing to trade from another. And I think that that has significantly minimized my regret. Speaker 3 (7:51) We give up our 20s for our 30s. We give up our 30s for our 40s, our 40s for our 50s. And we trade everything we achieved in our 30s, 40s and 50s to get back to our 20s. We give up the thing we have. Speaker 3 (8:05) Most of for the thing that we have least of. And we give up the thing that we want for the thing that's supposed to get it. I will become happy when I'm sufficiently successful and I will sacrifice my happiness in pursuit of success so that I can become sufficiently successful so I can finally be happy. We spend our 20s wanting to be richer and older and have a family. Then we start that in our 30s and we gain more wealth and do the family thing. And then we get back to get to our 40s and we've got more responsibilities. We've accumulated all of this stuff. And then we think, God, if only I could go back to my 20s. But you were fucking miserable in your 20s. You hated it. You had no idea whether you were going to be successful. You were constantly concerned about money. You were desperately needing validation from all of these people around you. You were permanently in dissatisfaction about this stuff. Speaker 2 (8:46) We already know how the movie ends when we go back and say we want to relive it. And you can't relive it in the same context because uncertainty is the largest part of the story. Speaker 3 (8:56) Perhaps golden years Speaker 2 (8:56) can only happen in our memory. Nobody believes that we're Speaker 3 (8:59) living through a golden era right now. We Speaker 2 (9:01) never think we're in the good old days, but the good old days are always now. I have spent a huge amount of mental resources accepting suffering. and not saying that there's something wrong with something bad. Like a huge amount of mental resources go into this because I've been better and faster at correcting the loop of like, oh, I am not happy with this particular thing and therefore there's something wrong. So fix the story that I tell myself is supposed to fix the thing. And that's been super helpful with the addition of everything that I remember will always be better than it was. Speaker 2 (9:40) And the nice thing is that there's tons of science that backs this up, which is that we learn through reward and punishment. Punishment fades with time, no matter how bad it was. Like you get drunk, you get hungover. You say, I'll never drink again. Seven days later, you're out drinking again. Why? The punishment of the hangover fades quickly. You are with somebody for a while. You're like, this is crazy or this guy is crazy. And then you break up. And then all of a sudden, what do you remember? The good times. because reward sticks and in some ways there's a little bit of a hopeful message there which is that when you look back on your life you will disproportionately remember the good times but it only becomes a problem if you limit the present which is the only thing you've ever actually lived in where's Speaker 1 (10:25) my focus going i can always be upset about something where do you tend to focus more your past your present your future we all spend all three but where do you spend more of your time Most of us who are achievers tend to focus on the future, but all the joy is in the present. The majority of people spend a lot of time in the past, and the problem is you can't change it. You're constantly focused on what's missing versus what you have. You're focused on what you can't control. And there's two worlds, right? The external world, the internal world. We can't control the external world. We can influence it. The part we can control is what's going on inside of us. And that we can control what we focus on. We can control the meaning. We can decide the meaning. We're the meaning makers and we can decide what to do. And when we can make those three decisions, we're in control of our life. And all the anxiety and bullshit tends to go away, especially if we're trying to do that to serve something more than ourselves. Because you can't serve something more than yourself and not benefit. When you want some self-esteem, do something worthwhile beyond just yourself. Speaker 1 (11:29) We all know the two emotions that destroy your relationship, your business, your life, it's fear and anger. Those are two extremes. You