The Craziest Reveal In Financial Audit History

Financial Audit

This episode of Financial Audit features Remy and Jacob, a young couple from Pittsburgh navigating financial instability while raising a two-year-old. Remy works part-time as a cashier, waitress, and house cleaner, earning

Key takeaways

• Financial honesty is critical in relationships; hidden debt undermines trust and stability
• Part-time work combined with childcare responsibilities can lead to unsustainable income levels

Main topics

• Financial dishonesty in relationships
• Income disparity between partners

Notable quotes

I don't know why it would be his last straw. So there's the FaceTime.

You're making eight, spending six. You're netting. It's not great.

Conclusion

The episode concludes with a stark assessment of the couple's financial and emotional state, highlighting profound

Transcript preview

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He Speaker 6 (0:56) also said this episode was going to be his last straw, by the way. I Speaker 4 (0:59) don't know why it would be his last straw. So Speaker 6 (1:01) there's the FaceTime. Speaker 4 (1:02) Are Speaker 5 (1:02) you counting that? Yeah, Speaker 4 (1:03) the Speaker 5 (1:03) FaceTime, the military, AI, and then the other one. So what's the other one? Those are the guy. Speaker 6 (1:11) Dollar Wise is finally here, sending waves through the personal finance world. This is officially now the best budgeting app on the market. And I'm giving you a special deal to download. Get a free trial to test it out. And then you get the monthly plan at a 33 % discount for the first three months or the annual plan at an insane discount. And most people sign up for the annual version because it saves a lot of money and you get my detailed 30-day meal plan signed by me, mailed directly to you, plus the digital version of my cookbook for each recipe. Don't miss the opportunity of a lifetime. Download Dollar Wise and start your free trial. Go to dollarwise.com or click the link below. Speaker 6 (1:45) I want you to be on the next episode of Financial Audit right here in Austin, Texas. If you think you have interesting finances with an interesting personality or a story or a life or relationship, I will personally pay you to take time off of work, fly you down to Austin, get you personal transportation, a hotel, food, and we'll have a great time hanging out. Go to calebhammer.com slash apply or click that link in the description below. Speaker 4 (2:06) Hi, I'm Remy. I'm 25 years old. Speaker 5 (2:08) Hi, I'm Jacob. I'm 26 years old. We are from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. And Speaker 4 (2:12) this is Financial Audit. Speaker 6 (2:15) I'm here to get the truth because all he does is lie to me. That's what was at the top of the application to come on the show. I'm guessing he is you because you're the guy. That's interesting. I'm very curious to learn more. But first, Remy. Yes. Well, thanks for coming down, guys. What do you do for a living in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania? I Speaker 4 (2:35) cashier, waitress, and then on the side, I clean people's houses. Okay. Speaker 6 (2:40) Are you making money? It's hard to say. Are you? I mean, what are you getting paid? What's your hours? What's happening? Speaker 4 (2:46) So when I waitress, I make $2.83 plus tips. When I cashier, I make $13 an hour. And then I clean a house, I make an extra $100 a month. Speaker 6 (2:56) Rust Belt cities, Midwest, Megalopolis, not usually the most expensive areas in the country. Pittsburgh, I don't have the full data off the top of my head. I feel like that being half of the income, you could actually do halfway decently. What are you making normally a month net? Speaker 4 (3:14) Roughly $800. So like my paycheck from... What Speaker 6 (3:18) the f***? I Speaker 4 (3:21) only work three days a week. I'm part-time. We have a two-year-old. So I watch her and she's in daycare part-time. Speaker 6 (3:27) What is the cost difference between daycare and you going and just working? Speaker 4 (3:32) Daycare is $600 a month for three days a week. Speaker 6 (3:36) Okay. And what would it be for five? Speaker 4 (3:39) About $1,000 a month. Speaker 6 (3:41) Okay. You would net more. Probably. Based on your income. No, not probably. I mean, for three days, you're making eight. You're making eight, spending six. You're netting. It's not great. If you work five and have him watch for five. you would net and we'd probably be an extra 100 or 200 up. Probably. Your career is a joke. It is. Speaker 5 (4:06) We're not going to survive off of this. You're right, but that's why I'm in Speaker 6 (4:09) college. When we choose to bring a kid, okay, good. What are you studying? Engineering. Okay, what kind? I mean, that's Speaker 4 (4:15) good. Environmental. Well, right now it's just broad associate. And then from there, I'm going to go to... Associate? Speaker 6 (4:20) We're still in associate? Yeah. This is going to take forever. Speaker 4 (4:23) Yeah. I mean, if you're working and taking care of the kid, how much... How many credit hours are you taking? 12. So it's like... Okay, that actually is full time. Speaker 6 (4:31) So, Speaker 4 (4:31) okay. Speaker 6 (4:32) How long until you have a degree of which you might be able to make money from that degree? So Speaker 4 (4:37) I'm going on my second year this year. It'll probably take three years. Bro, his Speaker 6 (4:42) mom's paying for the daycare. Speaker 4 (4:43) Right now, yeah. Because we had to catch up. Don't Speaker 6 (4:45) f***ing tell me that, I mean, yes, it is expensive, but why are you making it sound like it's all on you? It's mom's paying for the daycare! At the moment, I have to pay her back. You lie all the time, you lied by omission. Speaker 4 (4:54) I have to pay her back. So like I... It's Speaker 6 (4:56) a Speaker 4 (4:56) debt? It's an accumulating debt? As of right now. So I wasn't working. What do you mean as of right now? What Speaker 6 (5:01) does the Speaker 4 (5:02) as of Speaker 6 (5:02) right now mean in Speaker 4 (5:03) this context? So I have to catch up what I owe her and then take over paying daycare Speaker 6 (5:07) because... Catch up what you owe her in what way? For her paying previous daycare or something different? Speaker 4 (5:11) Yeah. So I... There was a three-month period where I wasn't working. Why? Because I... Between school and taking care of our child. Why wasn't you working? I was working. And why weren't Speaker 6 (5:21) you Speaker 4 (5:21) working? Because we needed somebody to cover a child. How many hours a week Speaker 6 (5:25) were you working? 40. Why weren't you working when he got home? Speaker 4 (5:29) You know this is what people have done in the history of ever. During that time I was. You just said you weren't working. Well, during the three-month period. Yeah, why weren't you working? I was focusing on school. That was like my main. We had discussed it. But you were going into Speaker 6 (5:44) debt in the family. I didn't know at that time we were going into debt. To your family? Speaker 4 (5:50) Yeah, all together. What Speaker 6 (5:51) do you Speaker 4 (5:51) mean? He Speaker 6 (5:51) was Speaker 4 (5:51) doing it secretly behind your back? Yeah. I didn't know how much money was being sent. Okay, so Speaker 6 (5:55) great. $600? Is that what you said you make? $800? $800 a month. A month? Okay. It's not a household. What do you do? What do you possibly do? Speaker 5 (6:05) I'm a diesel mechanic. Make $24 an hour. Speaker 6 (6:08) Okay, there's something. There's a f***ing start. 40 hours a week. What do you net? Speaker 5 (6:15) My net is $3,200. Speaker 6 (6:17) Okay, we can pay bills on that in Cincinnati. I Speaker 5 (6:21) also have a second job that I'm... Really? Speaker 4 (6:23) Only recent. Yeah, Speaker 5 (6:24) only recent. Speaker 4 (6:26) He's doing... I made him go get it. I applied for him. Speaker 6 (6:29) Okay, why are you freaking out about the only recent? Speaker 4 (6:32) Because the... Speaker 4 (6:34) It's been a month and a half that I've Speaker 5 (6:36) been working at this new job. I Speaker 4 (6:37) had Speaker 5 (6:37) found out about Speaker 4 (6:38) an extra thousands and thousands of dollars of debt that I wasn't talked to about. Okay, Speaker 6 (6:44) well, Speaker 4 (6:44) we'll get into Speaker 5 (6:44) that. I need your income situation. What's the second job? So I'm a dishwasher slash cook. Speaker 6 (6:49) Okay, what do you make with that? $15,000. Speaker 5 (6:51) $12,000. Speaker 6 (6:52) Yeah. Okay, what extra comes in a month? Speaker 5 (6:56) Expected, Speaker 6 (6:56) since it's so recent. $1,000. Okay, good. I mean, listen, $4,200 or $5,000. 5,000 net. Very good. You have a disability, right? Mm Speaker 5 (7:05) -hmm. Speaker 6 (7:06) You're in the military. I was. Are you the first person in the history of the show in the military to not get disability? Well, I... Well, Speaker 5 (7:11) you Speaker 6 (7:11) were kicked out of the military. Speaker 5 (7:12) Yeah. How do you get kicked out? Speaker 6 (7:14) You have to do something. Why'd you get kicked out of the military? First, what were you serving? What was your service? Do I say thank you for the service? Did they get kicked out? What's the rule? I Speaker 5 (7:25) mean... I wouldn't. You can say whatever you want. Well, I usually do. I don't care. What Speaker 6 (7:29) were you Speaker 5 (7:29) doing? I was in the army. Speaker 6 (7:31) Sure, doing what? Speaker 5 (7:32) Diesel mechanic. 91 Sierra. Did you blow up a car? I wish. I mean, honestly, that would be more fun. Why were you kicked out? I was accused of doing something that I didn't actually do. And what were you accused of? Apparently having nudes and having a sex video on my phone. Nudes? From another person. He Speaker 4 (7:50) was cheating on me while I was pregnant. What Speaker 6 (7:57) is this show? I swear, this wasn't even... I scanned the notes and I didn't even see that. Speaker 4 (8:05) So originally, I had found out when he told me that he was getting Speaker 6 (8:10) kicked out. So this was Speaker 4 (8:10) two years ago Speaker 6 (8:11) because you're kids too. Sorry, go ahead. No, you're good. Speaker 4 (8:14) When he told me he was getting kicked out, he told me it was because they had caught him watching a racist TikTok. Think of anything Speaker 5 (8:22) that was racist that's black. Speaker 4 (8:24) I know that he was trying to stereotype. He was just like, oh, Kool-Aid and watermelon and fried chicken. And I laughed. Yeah. Speaker 6 (8:32) Bean rice is fun. I know. So. Speaker 4 (8:35) So. I was like, I know you don't get kicked out of the military for just watching a TikTok. They'll article 15 you. They'll take your paycheck, but they're not going to kick you out of the military. Speaker 6 (8:43) Okay. Speaker 4 (8:45) So like in the back of my mind, I can't figure it out. I have no clue. I'm not going to go into his first sergeant and his first sergeant is going to tell me. Okay. So I just believed that it was a racist video until two months. Stop your Speaker 6 (8:55) vocal fry. Talk like a normal person. Speaker 4 (8:57) Until two months after. Okay, she's not. How do I? Talk like a Speaker 6 (9:01) normal person. Speaker 4 (9:04) Am I not talking normal? Is that her normal? She's a vocal friar? Speaker 6 (9:08) Ugh, continue. Speaker 4 (9:09) Well, two months after we had our daughter, he was on FaceTime with his friend who was deployed into Poland. And his friend was, they were talking about why he got kicked out of the military. And he was like, oh, because some dumb bitch and turned all of the volume down. And his face got beet red and he stopped talking and left the room. And then wouldn't tell me or elaborate. His Speaker 6 (9:32) name is Jacob. Can we stop this? You know how many bleeps we're having to do right now? Woman, please. Speaker 5 (9:38) Jacob. I already told her. So what happened? Give me a piece of paper and a pen. I can write it down on the desk. Speaker 6 (9:43) What happened there in that moment? You got caught. You got exposed. Speaker 5 (9:48) Yeah, I got exposed. Buddy, Speaker 6 (9:49) you can't say you didn't cheat if you're lying about the reason you got kicked out anyway. Why would she believe you Speaker 2 (9:55) in Speaker 6 (9:55) any way? Why would she believe? Why'd you lie about the reason you got kicked out? Because he's ashamed. What? He's like Speaker 5 (10:00) actually Speaker 6 (10:01) still confused by that. You didn't have Speaker 5 (10:02) an answer for that prepared? No, not really, no. Speaker 6 (10:04) What? You haven't thought about the reason Speaker 5 (10:06) you lied Speaker 6 (10:07) in two years. Speaker 5 (10:08) I mean, I didn't really have to lie about it. I mean, I could have came out and said it. But you did lie. We're trying to figure out the why. Yeah, it was just easier to come up with something other than that. Why not just say you're cooning, dude? Because Speaker 1 (10:20) I Speaker 5 (10:20) was pregnant and Speaker 6 (10:21) I Speaker 5 (10:21) would have kicked him Speaker 6 (10:22) out. Speaker 5 (10:22) Because either way, it's stupid. Speaker 6 (10:23) Well, just say you're watching porn or something, right? Speaker 5 (10:27) I mean, that's closer to the reality. I mean, that's close. But Speaker 6 (10:29) what did you, you had images of another person that was serving? Supposedly, I had pictures. Speaker 5 (10:35) No, Speaker 4 (10:35) no, no, Speaker 5 (10:35) no, no. Speaker 4 (10:35) I'm sure they were Speaker 6 (10:36) going around the base. Speaker 4 (10:37) I'm sorry, but the MPs did a full investigation. No, they didn't. Yes, they did. They did a full investigation and kicked you out. They're not going to do a full investigation, deem you worthy of being kicked out if you didn't do something. If Speaker 5 (10:48) they Speaker 4 (10:48) did a Speaker 5 (10:48) full investigation, they would have asked for my phone and then I would have told them, here, here's my phone. Here's my shit. No, Speaker 4 (10:54) because Speaker 5 (10:54) she Speaker 4 (10:54) probably gave enough evidence to show, hey, yeah. has these. No. Speaker 5 (10:58) They still would have asked for my phone. But Speaker 6 (11:01) I can't even trust that they didn't. Okay, so sex... Speaker 5 (11:05) Well, Speaker 6 (11:05) for Speaker 5 (11:05) having nudes on your phone, they're still going to ask. And sex videos, apparently. Sex videos involving Speaker 6 (11:10) you? Speaker 5 (11:11) No. Her and her sergeant. Her Speaker 6 (11:13) and her sergeant? Speaker 5 (11:15) Yeah. What Speaker 6 (11:16) is happening over there? You Speaker 5 (11:18) get lonely apparently. I don't know. Speaker 6 (11:21) We were Speaker 5 (11:22) in California obviously which is gross because there's no showers and there's no nothing. You're in a clamshell basically smelling like fish. Speaker 4 (11:31) He's trying to say that he was on a mission or a training rotation. Speaker 5 (11:36) I Speaker 4 (11:36) was Speaker 5 (11:36) at NTC which is the National Training Center. In California. They advised you to get a lawyer, though, and you didn't even do that. Well, they asked me to get a lawyer, and I said no, because I asked the girl, I said, hey, am I going to, if I get a lawyer, am I going to be able to, you know, turn it over and win? And she goes, probably not. Probably not, Speaker 6 (11:54) but maybe find out. So dishonorably discharged? Speaker 5 (11:58) No. General with honorable conditions. Speaker 6 (12:01) What? Speaker 5 (12:01) Yep. I was told other than honorable. No. I got a general with honorable conditions. Why Speaker 6 (12:05) are you Speaker 5 (12:05) saying cheat? Speaker 4 (12:07) So, like, for this instance. For this instance? Yeah, for this instance. Speaker 6 (12:10) Sure, let's go with this instance and I guess we'll learn about more instances. Speaker 4 (12:14) So... Speaker 4 (12:17) I personally don't think having nudes or pictures or situations involving other people that you're not disclosing as loyal. Like, had he been like, hey, yeah, this girl sent me this. I just want to let you know. Like, that would have been different. But, like, you hid this stuff behind my back, got kicked out of the military, and then a year later. Speaker 6 (12:38) Yeah, you deleted Speaker 4 (12:38) someone else in the base. That's cheating to me. Speaker 6 (12:40) Which also just, like. I mean, I assume military bases, high school, small colleges. I mean, that shit happens more and more these days. Like, it just happens. Just own it. Like, people are treating it around. It's not a good thing, but, like, you were young. Everyone was stupid. Just own it. Move on. Speaker 5 (12:58) Right. But, I mean... Speaker 6 (13:01) You're not ready to own Speaker 5 (13:02) it? Like, I don't understand the point. He never owns Speaker 6 (13:04) anything. No, it's just... What is the point to not own it? I would own it. Like, I don't care. I own my mistakes from the past. I Speaker 5 (13:11) don't care. It Speaker 6 (13:11) was Speaker 5 (13:11) over it, and then it was just like, okay, I'm out. And then I'm with my kid, and I start working. But Speaker 6 (13:17) you had multiple witnesses against you. Speaker 5 (13:19) Yeah, multiple. Speaker 6 (13:20) Against you? Yes. Why would there be multiple witnesses against you? Speaker 5 (13:26) Because they didn't like... What's Speaker 6 (13:27) this grand plot? Speaker 5 (13:28) They didn't like me. Why? One, I had to go and work on their vehicle more times than none. And then I told them to fuck off, basically. Because I was tired of working on them. Because he didn't want to do his job. I was the only one doing my job because my sergeant wanted to be in the truck and just sleep and be on his phone all day and just basically fuck off and not worry about his soldier being out with... I was going out of sleep for 36 hours. Okay, so Speaker 6 (13:58) we're completely in line today, totally. At least had pictures at some point, Speaker 4 (14:02) maybe deleted them and checked Speaker 6 (14:03) off Speaker 4 (14:03) to the video Speaker 6 (14:03) a couple times. Yeah, Speaker 4 (14:04) something. Who Speaker 6 (14:05) cares? I mean, it's not good, but it's in the past. You can just apologize and move on. Speaker 4 (14:10) Or at least Speaker 6 (14:11) it Speaker 4 (14:11) came clean. That's the first time I've heard of it. I didn't find out that it was nudes in some girl until just now. That was the first time I've Speaker 6 (14:19) ever Speaker 4 (14:19) heard. Speaker 6 (14:20) Wait, really? Yeah. Why do you do this? I don't understand. How? This is two years ago. She knew that there was something more. Speaker 4 (14:27) I've been trying to get that information. He was like, it's nothing. It's literally nothing. That's the answer. Wait, Speaker 6 (14:32) why Speaker 4 (14:32) are Speaker 6 (14:32) you Speaker 4 (14:32) with him Speaker 6 (14:33) then? I couldn't be with someone like that. I'm codependent. Yeah, be codependent with someone who'll tell you that. Why hide that from Speaker 5 (14:39) her? I don't know, because I just thought it was dumb and I was like, it's over with. Speaker 6 (14:43) It is, but why not just own it and move on, dude? Again, I like- Because Speaker 5 (14:47) that's what I was doing. I was just trying to move on. I was just like, leave it in the past. But own it. Own the mistake. You learn from it. You move on. Yeah, Speaker 6 (14:54) I Speaker 5 (14:54) own the mistake of being kicked out of the military. No, but you didn't own Speaker 4 (14:57) the mistake of your act, like your mistake, your action. It wasn't a mistake you got kicked out of the military. You got kicked out of the military because you were- Speaker 6 (15:04) Right. Speaker 6 (15:08) So you said this instance, what's another instance? Speaker 4 (15:12) He fell asleep on FaceTime with another girl, had it screenshotted on his phone while we were together. I don't even know her name. He still hasn't even told me who she was. Speaker 6 (15:21) What? Wait, and you're still with him? Yeah. That's insane. I'm sorry that's Speaker 4 (15:24) bad Speaker 6 (15:24) shit to say. He's the bad person in that context, especially not telling you. But I'm done. Speaker 4 (15:31) Yeah. For staying. No, Speaker 6 (15:33) I just, Speaker 4 (15:33) I. Right? Two ladies in here? Like, that's insane, right? Like, why the f*** could you stay? You're Speaker 6 (15:40) choosing to stay at that point. I know. So, what Speaker 4 (15:42) happened? When? When? So, that was probably six months into our relationship. Oh, my f***. Like, prior to me even getting pregnant. So, I had an out and I still didn't take it. So, what Speaker 6 (15:51) happened there? Nothing. Speaker 5 (15:54) Just. Speaker 6 (15:55) Who Speaker 5 (15:56) were you FaceTiming? I don't know. It was from somebody from. You don't know who you're in... Someone from Costco? No, Alaska. Okay, Speaker 6 (16:05) how'd you meet her then? Speaker 5 (16:07) Snapchat. They just added me on a... Like people you may know or whatever. Uh-huh. Yeah. Who asked who for a call? She called me. She just went in and called. How'd she get Speaker 4 (16:20) your number? Because it was definitely on FaceTime. It was a FaceTime screenshot. Speaker 6 (16:24) Okay. So somehow she got your number, you called. What were the expectations of the phone call? Speaker 5 (16:30) There was no expectations. Okay, then what did you guys Speaker 6 (16:32) talk about? Speaker 5 (16:33) We just talked about life. You talked for a long time because you fell asleep. Me falling asleep was because I was on a 24-hour bender of no sleep. Speaker 6 (16:44) Bender? Speaker 5 (16:44) Yeah. Doing what? He Speaker 4 (16:47) was working. Speaker 5 (16:49) Oh, okay. Working's good. Okay, I got that. They had 24 Speaker 4 (16:52) -hour Speaker 6 (16:52) duty. Speaker 4 (16:53) And Speaker 6 (16:53) you saw this, and then what? Speaker 4 (16:55) I confronted him, but at that time I was kind of homeless, so I was just like, whatever. No, she was Speaker 5 (17:02) deeply homeless. I was deeply homeless, yeah. Her husband kicked her out of the house. Well, Speaker 4 (17:07) you Speaker 6 (17:07) had a husband while you were with him, while he was cheating on you. We were already in the process Speaker 4 (17:11) of a divorce before I ever met. Speaker 6 (17:13) Look at you, 26 with a baby, and already... One divorce? One divorce down. One divorce in. You guys are married now? Speaker 4 (17:19) No. No. No. Hard no. Hard Speaker 6 (17:22) no. Hard Speaker 4 (17:23) no. Speaker 6 (17:23) Go on. Speaker 4 (17:25) Why would I tie myself to somebody who can't even talk to me? I did. Yeah, that's automatically tied to him. But why would I like financially and for the rest of my life? You Speaker 6 (17:34) guys live together and you have finances. I'm not Speaker 4 (17:36) assuming his debts. Speaker 6 (17:38) Okay. I don't know. You guys might have some common law marriage as well, by the way. In Speaker 4 (17:43) seven years in Pennsylvania because we live in a commonwealth. Speaker 6 (17:46) Oh, geez. Okay. So why are you with him today then? Why not go work on your whole future relationship? Speaker 4 (17:57) It feels more like out of obligation. Like we have a child together. Yeah, that's literally the only reason. How does this Speaker 6 (18:04) make you feel hearing this? He's heard this before. Speaker 5 (18:08) I mean. You're Speaker 6 (18:08) chill with it? Like, you don't give a f***. Speaker 5 (18:09) I wake up, go to work, come home, go to my other job, come home. You don't get to use that as an Speaker 4 (18:15) excuse anymore. I'm not using it as an excuse. Because Speaker 5 (18:16) that's Speaker 4 (18:16) literally been the past month. Speaker 5 (18:18) Still, even then, even then, I would wake up, go to work, come Speaker 4 (18:22) home. Speaker 5 (18:22) And then you were home by Speaker 4 (18:22) 3 p.m. Right. Speaker 5 (18:24) And Speaker 4 (18:24) still did f***ing nothing. No, Speaker 5 (18:26) I stayed with the kid while you did other things because you were like, hey, I had the child for all day. Pushing off the child to you. It Speaker 4 (18:32) wasn't push off the child to you. It's, hey, I need to get some stuff done while you sit here and play video games or school TikTok. Speaker 5 (18:38) No, you would call me and be like, I'm overexerted. I can't be touched. I'm touched out. Like, you need to get here. Yeah, that is very true. And do it with your child. Speaker 4 (18:45) But there was also a list of things that needed done, and you're a dad. Like, you can be a parent too. Speaker 5 (18:50) Right, and I never said I didn't have to be. I'm just saying that, like, I came home. And had to be a Speaker 4 (18:56) dad. Speaker 5 (18:57) I just wanted like 30 minutes of my time just to relax from work. And then I could be like, I'll go in and be a dad. But it was an instant. You were not working on Ferris. He Speaker 4 (19:07) was working on a line assembly. Yeah, Speaker 6 (19:10) but it's okay to, when come home, have 30 minutes of like relaxation and then get back into it. He usually would get Speaker 4 (19:15) like, maybe not 30, but he'd have like 15 minutes, go upstairs, get changed, breathe, maybe shower, and then come back downstairs. That's a, I mean. But she's in bed by seven. Like we have, we have. Yeah, it's supposed to be later. But he's getting home at 3. Yeah. Speaker 6 (19:30) Okay, that was a lot of time if he has 30 minutes to relax. Speaker 4 (19:33) Yeah. So what's the, Speaker 6 (19:35) like, yeah, maybe step up more, but I think 30 minutes of relaxation when he gets home is not the end of the world. Speaker 4 (19:42) No, it's not the end of the world. Like, I never crashed out because... Speaker 3 (19:50) The Speaker 1 (19:51) city moves fast, but your vibe, that's different. Sharper, smoother, more alive. Speaker 2 (20:01) The new Speaker 1 (20:06) Honda City isn't just made to drive, it's made to feel. The new Honda City, all new vibe. Speaker 4 (20:14) He wanted 30 minutes. I crashed out. Why Speaker 6 (20:17) is this the topic then? She said she doesn't care if you have 30 minutes to yourself. Speaker 5 (20:23) I mean, granted, she's with her all day. Yeah. And so I get it that she gets overwhelmed and everything. No, Speaker 6 (20:31) of course. No, no, no. I'm not opposed to you wanting to break her or her wanting to help. No. She just said she doesn't care if you take 30 minutes. I mean. Is that even true though? Speaker 6 (20:42) I mean, the reality is in the pre-interview, she was calling you a lazy piece of shit multiple times. Oh. Yeah. Why? Speaker 5 (20:49) I am lazy. Speaker 4 (20:51) Because you don't do it. I Speaker 5 (20:53) mean. He Speaker 4 (20:53) doesn't do anything unless I nag him to do it. So we have an agreement. Speaker 5 (20:57) I don't take things into initiative. If I see something, I just leave it until I have to grab it. Speaker 4 (21:04) I don't Speaker 6 (21:05) get it. I don't know. It makes no sense. Yeah, Speaker 4 (21:07) I know. Why are you with Speaker 6 (21:09) her? She'll Speaker 4 (21:11) mother? Speaker 6 (21:13) She'll mother you and the baby? Yeah. Speaker 4 (21:15) Because I treat him like his mom. Did we have this Speaker 6 (21:18) kid intentionally? Speaker 4 (21:19) No. I love her. Like, I would never take that back. Oh, sure. Definitely didn't plan this child. Speaker 6 (21:25) Wasn't planned at all. Do you guys sleep in the same bed? Yes. Speaker 4 (21:29) For a little while, we didn't. But yeah, we are back in the same bed. Do Speaker 5 (21:32) you Speaker 6 (21:32) want something to work? I'm so confused. Speaker 4 (21:34) You guys sound Speaker 6 (21:35) like you're both like done with it, but we're just there out of obligation. I mean, we've honestly Speaker 5 (21:38) like, I mean, like, there Speaker 6 (21:39) was Speaker 5 (21:40) tensions between. Speaker 6 (21:42) Yeah, tensions, because I just read. You cheated on him. Speaker 4 (21:47) Yeah, yeah, I did. It'd Speaker 5 (21:49) go back and forth. I did Speaker 4 (21:50) do that once. No, it wasn't back and forth. It was once and I came clean to you within a month. Within a month? Speaker 6 (21:55) Yes. Speaker 4 (21:56) What happened? What Speaker 6 (21:57) is this show? Is everyone just cheating? I had a Speaker 4 (22:00) friend on Snapchat and he would, for the past years, would just randomly swipe up on my stories. My birthday last year. He had swiped up on my story, and then we just started talking. And then about a month into us just friendly talking, he invited me to go out to dinner with him. And I was like, I just want to let you know I have a kid and a boyfriend. And he was like, oh, that's fine. I don't really care. And then from there, it got spicy, and I started sending him nudes. No, what do you mean? No, no, no. You jumped a lot of steps. We would just start flirting. Speaker 6 (22:40) So he invited Speaker 4 (22:40) you to dinner? Yeah, yeah. I never went to dinner with him. Oh. So he lives in New York. So Speaker 6 (22:44) how did he get you to send flaps and holes? Speaker 4 (22:47) I didn't send flaps. Speaker 6 (22:49) Just titties? Okay. But how did he get you to do that? Speaker 4 (22:51) He, we just grew a rapport by like flirting with each other. And then. Speaker 4 (22:59) At one point, I had already been sending him nudes, but then he had sent me money to