Tay Lautner: The Realities of Pregnancy
Call Her Daddy
Tay Lautner opens up about her pregnancy journey on Call Her Daddy, sharing the emotional highs and lows of navigating a changing body, deal
Key takeaways
- Pregnancy is often glamorized but involves significant physical and mental challenges that are hard to anticipate.
- The emotional experience of pregnancy can be overwhelming, especially when unexpected, requiring mental preparation and self-compassion.
Main topics
- Pregnancy experience and emotional challenges
- Navigating body changes and medical interventions
Notable quotes
I was like, oh, I'm actually like sad that I'm not pregnant. I think I'm ready.
Conclusion
Tay Lautner's candid conversation reveals the raw, unfiltered reality of
Transcript preview
Speaker 1 (0:02) What is up, daddy gang? It is your founding father, Alex Cooper with Call Her Daddy. Taye Lautner, welcome to Call Her Daddy. Thank you. We both just start crying. Speaker 1 (0:16) No, no, no, guys. We just got in the room together and like the pregnancy hormones, we both were like, I feel so safe. Yeah. I know that if one of us has to pee during this. Yeah. Because right now, last time I was with my doctor, she was like, oh girl, like that baby is right on your bladder. And I was like, perfect. Yeah. So it's Speaker 2 (0:36) a Speaker 1 (0:36) safe space. Perfect. Whatever you need. I Speaker 2 (0:38) will Speaker 1 (0:38) let you know. I realized last time we were together, you and your husband came on. You guys were newlyweds. And Matt and I weren't even married. Speaker 2 (0:48) That's kind of crazy. Speaker 1 (0:49) And now we're pregnant. We were like in like completely different stages of life. Right? Yeah. And now look at us. I remember when you announced and I was obviously so excited for you and Taylor. And my first thought was, oh, my God, I'm so happy for them. And then my second thought was, oh, my God, are our kids going to be like friends at the lake together? She's crying. No, literally. Oh, Speaker 2 (1:13) stop. I know. They're going to be like little, in the little life, Speaker 1 (1:17) little vest jacket thing. Okay. Yep. Okay. Next point. Keep going. So I just was like, oh my God. So for anyone that doesn't know, Tay and I have lake houses like right basically next to each other. And I just couldn't help but think like, oh my God, it's going to be great. Summer, you're going to be by the lake. Talk to me about what an ideal lake day looks like for you as my pregnant friend. Speaker 2 (1:40) Oh my gosh. I mean, I feel like I'm kind of turning into more Speaker 1 (1:45) of a lake girl than a beach girl. 100%. Like I'm Speaker 2 (1:48) really enjoying the lake. I honestly think like a really nice, I love a sprite. So either like a crisp little sprite with lime or like a cute little mocktail. My mocktail game. I have been thriving. Speaker 1 (2:02) I said the other day to someone, I was like, I just miss a spicy margarita. And they're like, you can make it without the alcohol, Alex. And I was like, you're so right. What a faheen on the Speaker 2 (2:11) rim. No, Taylor just made, it's a lychee, I don't know. He looked it up, but it's literally like a lychee soda thing, like soda water. And then it's pineapple concentrate and frozen pineapples with a tahini rim. I also, and I don't know about you, I've been Speaker 1 (2:26) like loving not drinking. Yeah. I will say, though, being around people that are drinking, I'm a little bit more like, OK, this is going to remind me never to drink again in my life. Yeah, the tolerance is like to be around that. The whole thing. OK, if you're by the lake, is Taylor cooking? Are you cooking? Like, who's the chef? Oh, Taylor's definitely Speaker 2 (2:45) cooking. Honestly, Taylor, there's hot dogs on the grill because I've Speaker 1 (2:50) hot dog has been my new hot dogs and hamburgers. The hamburgers. Yeah. Okay. What are some like random cravings you've been having recently? Speaker 2 (2:58) Yeah. I think the most recent one has been Girl Scout cookies because I just got Girl Scout cookies. What kind? Speaker 1 (3:04) I can't even. The Samoas, the one with the peanut butter thing in them. Any Girl Scout cookie is going to hit right where we need it. Yeah. Another thing that Matt. said and I thought it was so cute is when I told him that you guys were pregnant he was like oh my god I feel like me and Taylor are really gonna bond because I feel like we're both gonna be really good with kids and activities and I was like why are they so giving like camp counselor like Taylor's out there getting the boat yeah like I feel like literally that's gonna be the vibe they I feel like they will will Speaker 2 (3:34) completely thrive in that what Speaker 1 (3:36) kind of dad do you think Taylor is gonna be we always say he's gonna be the parent that gives the kids Speaker 2 (3:42) what they want like I say no and he says yes really yeah so I'm really curious to Speaker 1 (3:47) see like how that plays Speaker 2 (3:48) out Speaker 1 (3:48) if that actually happens that's actually interesting because Matt and I've talked about that and I'm like I think in the younger years I'm going to say yes and Matt's going to say no. But then the minute they get into like socializing in terms of like middle school to high school, I'm going to be the one that's like psychologically analyzing. Like you're not going to the party because of this. And then Matt's like, I don't care. Do whatever you want. Yeah. So it Speaker 2 (4:10) will Speaker 1 (4:10) flip at one Speaker 2 (4:11) point. Speaker 1 (4:11) Yeah. But for now, you think you're going to be a little bit more Speaker 2 (4:14) of the hard out. I Speaker 1 (4:14) think so. Speaker 2 (4:15) Okay. Yeah, I think so. Why Speaker 1 (4:17) do I also feel like Taylor is going to teach my child how to do a backflip? Speaker 2 (4:21) Probably. Let's start with the cartwheel. I know. Okay. Tell me everything. Like when you found out, what was your reaction? Yeah. So we, it was honestly special because, so I guess before like rewinding to finding out I was pregnant, we weren't trying, I mean, we weren't doing anything to like prevent it and had it honestly for a while. And I was just like. I wasn't at the place where I was like, I'm ready. I wasn't tracking my ovulation or anything like that. And I have PCOS, which is now PMOS, but PCOS. And so my periods have been irregular for a long time. So my cycle before I got pregnant was 40 days long. So I literally went 40 days without a period. And then this next one happened and I was on day maybe like 36. So I wasn't technically like late and I wasn't really feeling anything. uh like weird uh but i had a microneedling appointment and you can't do that if you're pregnant you cannot and i was just like let me just take a test just to be sure i was like i'm not gonna tell taylor i'm not gonna like because i had a pregnancy scare last january like i fully thought i was pregnant and like cried to taylor after a podcast taping i was like holding it in for like two weeks i was like if i don't get my period by this date then i'm telling taylor and we had to go to cvs i ended up not being pregnant but that showed me that the next morning I woke up and I wasn't pregnant. I was like, oh, I'm actually like sad that I'm not pregnant. I think I'm ready. Took me a whole year. Fast forward to the following January. But anyways, I didn't tell him and he like went to go. He's the chef. So he went to the. our butcher shop to go pick up meats for dinner. And I took the test while he was gone, pee on the stick. I go do my whole like skincare routine of like the face, like just like very in-depth, like everything. I don't, I like forget that the test is there. Like I'm not thinking about it because I don't think I'm pregnant, but I'm like, let me just make sure. Right. Cause we got our micrometaling. Yeah. There can always be a chance. Um, and it said pregnant. And I was like, Speaker 2 (6:26) Interesting. Speaker 1 (6:26) No, I literally froze for like five seconds and I was Speaker 2 (6:29) like, okay. And then I Google, can you have a false positive? And it basically was like, no. And I was like, okay. So I took another one. And then it also said pregnant. This whole time Taylor's gone. I'm not texting him because I'm not going to text him and tell him. And so I'm just like standing there just kind of in shock and like obviously excited because I know that's, we're married and that's what we want. So. But I'm literally just like frozen. And he gets home. I literally, he brings like the groceries in. I throw everything in the fridge and I just pull the test out and hand it to him. And he's just standing there and he's like, what is this? And I was like, uh-huh. He goes, how did this happen? And I was like, okay, well, you know how that happened, honey. Speaker 1 (7:16) I'm such a man. He's Speaker 2 (7:17) like, Speaker 1 (7:17) wait, how did this happen? You're like, how do you think it happened, Taylor? Like, well, this one day. Speaker 2 (7:23) So we didn't get to experience finding out together, which like after the fact, you know, telling him it was like we still got to like celebrate and have like, you know, four days of us just kind of like being in shock and being like, OK, like we're doing this. So when it came to the gender reveal, I was so excited to get to like do that together. And it truly was like the most. like the most fun thing to get to do. I love going to gender reveal parties, but I literally could never like have one for me. That pressure is just like. Okay, so how did you do it? So we literally just looked online on the test. We got the test. We actually had it for probably like, probably Speaker 1 (8:07) like a week. When you didn't look? We did. We, why? The minute, the minute I got mine, I was like, I want to know. I think it was just because like. Speaker 2 (8:17) I don't even know. I feel like we were both kind of just like, not scared, but we were just like, oh my gosh, like it was just going to make it so much more real. That's so true. I think. But finding out and like seeing girl on there, Taylor really wants girls. Like he's like girl dad. He wants all girls. I was kind of, I didn't really care. But it was like truly the sweetest moment ever. Like it was like the most. like the coolest thing I think we're ever going to get to do. Obviously, when I birthed Speaker 1 (8:49) the Speaker 2 (8:49) baby, that's going to be very special and probably even more special. But it's the coolest thing. Speaker 1 (8:54) It makes me emo when you're talking about this because I agree with you. There's something so nerve wracking when you're going to find out the sex. And I. was similar to you i found out without matt and so i was in the bathroom same thing like took the test like wasn't really sure didn't think it was gonna end then when it happened i had that same thing where you're like it's a little bit of mix of shock yeah and i think it doesn't take it takes a second to like set in yeah um but the gender makes it so real. And I cannot believe you sat on that for a week. When I tell you my doctor was like somewhere that there wasn't good service. And she's like, Alex, I tried to call you to talk because I told her like, just call me. Yeah. And she's like, I feel bad. Like, I don't want to just text it to you. And I was like, text it. And she's like, no, Alex, like she's like texting back like, no, no, no. I can call you in about 20. I was like, text it. Like, no, do it. I was like, and so I'm laying there. And I remember I got the document. Yeah. And I'm like, OK, breathe, breathe, breathe, breathe, breathe. Click on the document. I see the sex. And Matt's in a meeting. And I text Matt. And I'm like, come home. And he's like, I've got a couple more meetings. And I was like, do you want to know the gender of your baby? And he calls me immediately. And he's like, what? I'm in the middle of a meeting. There's like 20 people in the room. And I was like, do you want to know the gender? You better get in the car. He leaves the meeting. Oh, my God. It's racing home because I was like, I'm not telling you over text. So the fact that you guys got to be together, that's so, oh, my God, I'm so happy for you. That's really exciting. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. After you and Taylor found out about the pregnancy, who did you tell first? Speaker 2 (10:36) We told, first we told two of our. like couple best friends um we were actually going on a birthday trip for taylor and i was like very much in first trimester trenches um so we kind of had to tell them we were also going somewhere where there was like wine so like i that i wouldn't be drinking so we kind of had to tell them but i also did want to tell them because i've walked through miscarriage with like multiple of my friends in both sides of like not knowing they were pregnant and them having to tell me that they lost they were pregnant and lost the baby and then the other side of finding out they were pregnant and then them like getting to like have that together and then them having to tell me so after kind of like walking through those both Taylor and I decided, I was like, I need to just tell like a couple of my close friends because God forbid, like, you know, anything does happen. I don't want to have to deliver like the happy and sad news at the same time. So we were going to tell them anyways, but that's who Speaker 1 (11:42) we told first. Isn't that so, it's so crazy. Just the emotional aspect. And I think. everyone has to do it at their own time. I think it's so crazy when people are like, you should not tell people before the X amount mark. And it's like, I think anyone should do whatever they want to do when it comes to that. Because I'm also similar to you. Like if something bad was going to happen, like I would want the people closest to me to know. So I'm not going to like hide it in case something does. But like just being open with the people you love, I think for me was also similar, like of just like a mindset. Yeah. Your pregnancy announcement back in April was beyond gorgeous. And you captioned it, what's better than two Taylor Lautners? I screamed when I read that caption. Who came up with that? Taylor. Speaker 1 (12:29) Like on day five of knowing we were pregnant, he was like, I Speaker 2 (12:32) have Speaker 1 (12:32) the best caption. And I was like, great. You obviously don't have to share, but do you have a name picked out? Speaker 2 (12:38) There are definitely some. You've got something that works. Yeah. Speaker 1 (12:41) Okay. And is it like you've got like 20 or are you like in that like 10 to 5 category? Like three. Yeah, Speaker 2 (12:48) like Speaker 1 (12:48) three to five. Okay. Yeah. Was there any consideration of naming your child Taylor? Speaker 2 (12:53) It may be in the mix. We will find out when the baby comes. It's also just like. so much pressure naming a human. Like this is like the name of this human's gonna have for the rest of their life. And there's like so much public like conversation already around it for you guys. It's like. No, I feel like if I don't name my baby Taylor, the internet's literally gonna cancel me. I'm gonna get canceled. Speaker 1 (13:17) Like Speaker 2 (13:17) you Speaker 1 (13:17) had the perfect opportunity. Speaker 2 (13:19) But I'm like, guys, are they really gonna want that Speaker 1 (13:22) name? Speaker 2 (13:23) I Speaker 1 (13:23) think it gets a little confusing. Because it's already confusing. Right. Like, we have Taylor and then we have Tay. Speaker 2 (13:32) Tay Jr. Maybe Tay. We used to always joke that if we were having a boy, we'd name him Taylor and call him TJ. Speaker 1 (13:40) I'm so stressed for you guys, honestly, in that. We'll see. What did it feel like finally announcing and sharing your pregnancy to the world? Because friends is one thing, girl. Yeah. And then hitting upload on that. Talk to me. Speaker 2 (13:53) It was truly like a weight lifted off my shoulders. I think I was just so stressed someone was going to leak it, honestly. I think I was a little scarred from our wedding because our first look. someone was like photographed us having our first look. No. Speaker 1 (14:10) And Speaker 2 (14:10) like, I didn't know that. Yeah. And it came out Speaker 1 (14:13) like Speaker 2 (14:13) the day after the wedding. And it was like, that was the first time I'd ever experienced, obviously, you know, paparazzi and stuff has followed us around before, but that was the first time it was really something that was so intimate and Speaker 1 (14:25) like so Speaker 2 (14:26) personal. So that was like, that was not fun for me. Speaker 2 (14:31) So I think that kind of was like, understand it. Right. It was making me nervous. Like every time I go see my OB, like I, you know, a tailor has come with me to every appointment. And I'm like, there's obviously like girls my age in the office. And Speaker 1 (14:45) so I'm so happy that you were able to control the narrative and do it that way, because I agree with you. Like you have having an experience that is. It's an invasion of privacy, right? That was like a moment between the two of you that you and also a first look like it's not even like a shot into like the after party. It's like your first look between the two of you. So pregnancy in that. Oh, my God. I'm so happy that it didn't get leaked for you. Let's talk about the first trimester because I don't know about you, but Speaker 2 (15:20) no one could have prepared me. Speaker 1 (15:21) No. And there's like almost – give me one word to describe your first trimester. Terrific. Trauma. Literally. Hell. Anything bad. Tough. Yeah. One symptom I know you have talked about on your podcast is your nausea. Speaker 2 (15:41) And Speaker 1 (15:42) I also had – I don't even like to talk about it almost because it just brings it back. Yeah. That nausea was so traumatizing, truly. Like it felt hard to live my life while experiencing that. Can you talk to me a little bit about how it impacted your day to day and just overall the first trimester? Oh, yeah. I think that and I honestly feel like since I've been pregnant, I've kind of been shitting Speaker 2 (16:04) on pregnancy. But I think that's just because. I had such a skewed view of pregnancy from what I saw online. Like, I just feel like it's supposed to be what I saw and what I was thinking it was going to be, you know, this most beautiful thing and I'm going to be glowing and I'm going to feel the best I've ever felt and be so confident and blah, blah, blah, like all that. I have not felt any of those things. And it took me a while to feel comfortable to say that, but I... really think because the internet is just so quick to be like oh you're not grateful you're pregnant do you know