questions you MUST ask a man before marrying him + the songs that changed my life - Ep.16

Brand Safe

In this unstructured, stream-of-consciousness episode of 'Brand Safe,' the host reflects on personal moments of joy, music's profound impact on

Key takeaways

• Music serves as a foundational emotional anchor, shaping life chapters and memories through lyricism and pain.
• Live concerts offer transcendent experiences that surpass recorded music, especially when seeing beloved artists in intimate settings before they become mainstream.

Main topics

• The emotional power of live music
• Songs that changed the host's life

Notable quotes

I love a broken man with a folk instrument and a pen. I always will across all the generations and the decades.

You will never regret seeing an artist that you love when they're small—do it while you can.

Conclusion

The episode closes with a heartfelt appreciation for listeners, inviting

Transcript preview

Speaker 2 (0:00) This can't be a real job. This can't be a real job. It's not a real job. Today is one of those days where genuinely it's like make podcast equipment more expensive. I have nothing to say. We're just going to go off the brain. It's scary up here. It's like a prison up here. I have no idea what's going to come out of my mouth. But nonetheless, we are so brand safe. Speaker 2 (0:27) And it's all now what, right? Now what am I going to say? Hi guys, how are you? I was just in the shower, you know, trying to get ready for my little podcast, doing my manifestations. I actually just met a girl at Noah Khan. She came up to me and she was like, I do shower manifestations now because of you. And I had no idea that I'd rubbed off on anyone. I guess I thought that everyone was just like, Tana's doing her like weird writing on the shower wall. Like, wow. Speaker 1 (0:52) Like Speaker 2 (0:53) type. you know, I was surprised that anyone was influenced by that, I guess. And today's manifestations were, I am happy, I am silly, and I have clarity. And what was the other one? Something about not being overwhelmed. The clarity one is the one that we're trying the most for today. Just a clear mind, feeling happy, feeling silly, which is something that I never used to have to manifest or even think twice about feeling. I just... naturally was happy or did Speaker 1 (1:20) have clarity these days. I don't know. It's a little foggy. It's a little serious. Speaker 2 (1:23) And I'm just in a mood where I'm not trying to be too serious. And I just want to sit down and I want to talk. I Speaker 1 (1:27) am in San Diego right now and I'm staying at the Fairmont and it's my favorite hotel in the world. It's like they took, they took Italy and moved it to California. And it's so beautiful here. I love this hotel. Makoa and I just did a shoot for Finsel, Speaker 2 (1:42) Maureen Kelly's new company, their electrolyte powder. And it was so much fun. And then most importantly, we went and we got in the car to see Jesus himself, Noah Kahn at Petco Park. And it was a spiritual experience. I really owe Tara's world an apology, okay? I think across... and her finna-ing being in the pit, I didn't understand it fully. I didn't. And I regret, regret's the wrong word, but I just, I guess I didn't understand it, right? And she was like over there draining her account to see Harry Styles' pores. And I was like, what is this girl Speaker 1 (2:20) doing? And now I have never understood her more on a biblical level. Speaker 2 (2:25) I want to attach my little paws to the back of Noah Khan's tour bus and be dragged around the United States of America. The serotonin of seeing someone that you love so deeply that has changed your life in concert is the most beautiful thing. And I think right now in life, I'm definitely in a place where I'm hanging on to serotonin when and where I can get it. And God, Noah Khan has been the sole provider of that. There aren't very many people in the world where you're grateful that they're broken, right? You're grateful that someone hurt them. I am so... grateful. I love a broken man with a folk instrument and a pen. I always will across all the generations and the decades. Like there is nothing I love more. And God, is he just beautiful live. I also saw him at the Rose Bowl in Pasadena. And it was just such a levitational experience. Obviously, all concerts are in live music is one of those things that just keeps you going, like just sitting around with a bunch of people with a shared. common denominator and a shared pain or a shared feeling that this music has evoked and to see it live. And there's always something so special about seeing someone live that is better Speaker 1 (3:27) live than they are when they're everything you want them to be and more when you see them live in person. My Speaker 2 (3:33) only regret truly, when I was sitting in that Rose Bowl in Pasadena and watching him live, it was his biggest concert yet. I think it was 96,000 people. And it was so cool. I mean, it was so loud, everyone screaming and singing and just knowing every word like I feel like you could hear northern attitude in like Phoenix Arizona from the Rose Bowl it was so loud in the lights and it was beautiful I've loved him from the jump I feel like I sound so hipster I have my big glasses on and I'm sitting here and I'm like I've loved Noah Cohn since he was live on TikTok during COVID but it's true I keep seeing edits of like people seeing him live in rooms of like 25 people and I wished I had done that you will never regret seeing an artist that you love. Like I feel like you just assume they're going to keep going on tour. But like I had no idea that that little guy that my little Jesus guy would be doing massive arenas and I would never have the opportunity again to see him in a room of like 50 people. If you have the opportunity and you are willing and able and you can go see your favorite artists live when they're a small artist, like do it. You will never regret it. I always think about that with Billie Eilish. Like I saw her in a room of like 500 people at the beginning of her career. And that was like when we were having our little moment and I like was hanging out with her and I was just like, oh, this is my little up and coming artist. She's just my bestie. She's my pal. Like little did I know. Obviously I had the taste, but I had no idea she would end up being like as massive as she is now. And it's like, I always look back at that concert and I'm like, God, I wish I did that with more artists and I could have done that and I didn't do it. And I love him. And now he's so inaccessible. Not that I need to access him actually. Noah Khan. is significantly happier without me accessing him. But Speaker 1 (5:09) I've Speaker 2 (5:09) just been having one of those weeks where I've just been really appreciative of what music does for you, I guess. And I think that some people just listen to music through their life, right? They stream the people they like and it's just kind of whatever. And there are other people, like me, I guess, where music is the epicenter of their world, okay? It is the reason for their existence. It is like, I look at my life almost. In chapters of music, I can associate every single chapter of my life with certain music that I've listened to. I associate people in my life and the memories with them with certain albums and with certain songs. And I genuinely, I am so deeply, deeply moved by music. And it is like the one thing that is the constant in life. I've been just, I don't know, pondering over that. This past week and like all of the times in my life that music was the only thing I had to like keep me going. And I think that's why I gravitated towards people in the music space for a very long time because I've always just been so enamored by the power of music. But I found it very interesting. A long time ago, I was with Mario Selman. I was explaining to him. that lyrics are what get me going. Like someone can almost sound like shit, but if what they're saying, like I almost want all of my music to be poetry. I want to snort a line of sad music always, by the way. I am just a sad, that's why I love Noah Khan. That's why I love Adele. That's why I love sad Miley. That's why I love Bob Dylan. That's sad Justin Bieber. Like I. love sad music. Don't get me started on 2000s anything. Like if you can put that shit in Grey's Anatomy, the script and Coldplay and Chasing Cars, Snow Patrol, that came to mind just now. Like all of that type of music. Even on my happiest day, I want to listen to a Lewis Capaldi, a James Bay, a James Arthur. Like a sad, I love sad music. It literally makes me happy. Like even on my happiest, happiest day. I want to listen to something that is gut-wrenching, that makes the average person want to end their own life. It's just how I consume music because I love the lyricism. I love the pain. I love the yearn. I love people turning their blood, sweat, and motherfucking tears into a beautiful piece of music. That's what I love. And one day I was talking to Mario Selman about this. And he was like, that's so weird. Like when I listen to music, I don't even listen to the lyrics. I just listen to like if I like the melody or if I like the beat or if I like the sounds like and that's I was like, so you don't really listen to the words. And he's like, no, like he's drawn to music because of the melodies, because of the BPM, if you will. And Ashley's kind of like that, too. And it's so interesting to me because I live, breathe and die by a lyric. That's why I live for like a Noah Khan. I live for the broken person with the pen. I don't know where I would be without it. And I just feel like I'm having, I don't know, one of those weeks where I'm so appreciative Speaker 1 (7:49) of the music I love and the music I listen to. And Speaker 2 (7:52) I wanted to do an entire episode where I talk to you guys about the songs that changed my life, right? And why they changed my life and the artists that changed my life and just all of the music that I love and why I love it. But a part of me is like, call a friend. Like, does anybody give a fuck about that? I feel like it's same with movies and shows. I've wanted to do an episode like that, but I wonder if it's just too niche. Because it's like, if you haven't heard the song, if you haven't heard the thing, if you haven't watched the movie. It's like Speaker 1 (8:17) I might as well be speaking Mandarin. 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That's roe.co slash safety for boxed warning and full safety information about Speaker 1 (9:47) GLP-1 medications. We love you, Roe. Back to the episode. Speaker 2 (9:51) Okay, just kidding. The voices in my head are fighting. We're talking about music today. I went to look at my like docket of things to talk about and it's all just music and what's on my mind. So if you don't like it, click off. You probably will. Go listen to Giggly Squad. I'm sure they're talking about like Masseter Botox in Italy and it's Speaker 1 (10:04) a Speaker 2 (10:04) vibe, right? And I want to know if anyone else does this. Okay, before I get into talking about the music I love, this might be one of the biggest symptoms of my spectrum that other people are so aghast by. Everyone in my life is like, Tana Marie, how do you live like this? It's the only way to live for me. And it's the only thing that soothes whatever part of the spectrum that I'm on. And I'm like this with a lot of things. But music being the number one by a landslide. When I love a song, I have to repeat it. I have my phone always, like my music app always. is set to the setting that if I click a song to play it, it just repeats until I change it. I don't want to shuffle. I don't want to go to another song. I don't want to listen to more from the artist because I like the song. I don't want to listen to other songs like it in the genre. When I want to hear a song, I want to hear it nine times, at least, at minimum. And like whenever I'm flying on an airplane and I love a song, no matter the flight, no matter the distance, tarmac to fucking tarmac in my headphones is one song on repeat every single flight. God, that's autism. Even with Noah Kahn with stick season, I'll never forget. I was flying to Playlist Live Orlando, LAX to Orlando. That is a six hour flight. I discovered stick season and the entire flight there, tarmac to tarmac. I was sticking out. I was stick seasoning out both flights there and back. That is the way that I consume a song that I love. And it drives everyone insane in my life. And honestly, I'm an inconsiderate prick because I just do it in a room that other people are in. They're like, Tana, next song. Like if I'm in the car, no one wants me on the Hawks. And I try to like social cue, wake up and change it for other people. But in my dream world, I am just beating a song into the ground until I busted my nut and I can move on. Maybe that is also why. I associate music so heavily with certain eras of my life because when I hear a song, I can always go back to the like month of my life that I was just battering it, right? Even Iris by the Goo Goo Dolls. It's my favorite song of all time. It Speaker 1 (12:02) was my favorite song of all time before like every MAGA Speaker 2 (12:04) bitch ever walked down the aisle to the violin version of it. And it makes me sick. It really does because I really do think I'm going to walk down the aisle to it and then everyone's going to think that I'm like Stacey and like I'm not. I'm not like other Speaker 1 (12:17) girls. I love this Speaker 2 (12:19) song for so long. I'll give up forever to touch you. It's the best song in the world. And I actually found out recently that they like wrote it about, they wrote it about a movie, about a fallen angel. I just think that's so cool. I don't know. Whatever. I love the song. It's my favorite song. It also came out the year I was born. And I can think about every time that I ever beat it into the ground. Like there was this poor Paige and Ty, there was this trip that we went to Europe and the entire Europe trip, it's all, I wanted 10 Aperol spritzes and to listen to Iris from the moment that I opened my eyes until the moment that I closed my eyes. Speaker 1 (12:50) And the other day I was asking people too, I've really been on this like music kick. I've been asking everyone in my life Speaker 2 (12:54) what their favorite song of all time is. And certain people in my life could not answer the question. They were like, oh, like maybe it's like one of these 20. And I was like, no, no, no. You don't have to tell me now, but you have to go and you have to sit and you have to really think about what is your favorite song of all time because it says everything about who you are and what you feel. And just like there has to be the song that you want to walk down the aisle to or that encompasses your life or encompasses the way that you feel. You're saying I resonate with this the most. I resonate with this the most. You need to have a Speaker 1 (13:29) favorite song. I've had a little too much Celsius today. I'm passionate. Speaker 2 (13:34) So yeah, basically, I've been grilling everyone in my life, telling them that they need to come together on their favorite songs. It's funny, Amari told me his favorite song is The Man Who Can't Be Moved by The Script. Is Speaker 1 (13:45) that by The Script? Speaker 2 (13:46) Okay. Talking to the voices. I actually do think that is such a valid song to be your favorite song of all time because I mean, it's a beautiful way of saying like, I'll always be here. I'll always be waiting for you. Like no matter what it is and people may perceive it in another way. But like the truth is, is like I'm on the corner. I'm waiting for you, right? It's a beautiful song. The man who can't be moved. But at first he was trying to tell me that One Republic. What is this One Republic? Sorry, Amari, I'm cooking you. I don't dislike One Republic like at all. Is it smile? Smile or secrets? Secrets by One Republic. That can't be your favorite song of all time. Now I have to call him. What were you saying that One Republic song is? That's your favorite song of all time? Speaker 1 (14:28) You're such a bitch. What's it? Good Life? I'm gonna give all my secrets away. Speaker 2 (14:37) What's the other one? It's gotta be the good life. Speaker 1 (14:43) Oh, that one. Oh, this has gotta be the good life. Speaker 2 (14:49) Like what in the TJ Maxx checkout song playing? Speaker 1 (14:54) Okay, whatever. Like, let's not forget that your favorite song was... Oh Speaker 2 (15:00) my God, silly putty when that was an era. I was just telling the podcast about like how I repeat a song to oblivion. Speaker 1 (15:08) Yes, I'll never forget hearing driver's license before. I actually knew what the song was. Speaker 1 (15:22) Oh, Speaker 2 (15:22) I forgot how much I beat Olivia Rodrigo's debut album Into the Ground, but it was a bad time for me. I'm going to talk about that right now. I love you. This has got to be the good life. Speaker 1 (15:36) Olivia Rodrigo debut album. Oh Speaker 2 (15:41) my God. There has never, there probably has, but for me, there had never been a song like Driver's License. And obviously Driver's License hit home so heavily for me because I didn't fucking have one, right? Speaker 1 (15:52) I was trying to get it. She spoke to me and that song came out after the Speaker 2 (15:57) biggest, or that album, all of that music, like favorite crime, traitor. You Speaker 1 (16:02) didn't cheat, but you're still a traitor. Speaker 2 (16:05) Oh, twist the knife. Little girl. That came out after the biggest heartbreak of my life. And oh my God, we used to live in this house with just full surround sound. And Speaker 1 (16:12) the thing is, is I would make whatever the music Speaker 2 (16:14) was at the time, everybody else's problem. I was drunk as fuck at that time too. So there was no care to the wind about like how anyone else feel. Like we are listening to Little Miss Rodrigo today. It was also tickets to my downfall machine gun Kelly. I would go back and forth from like sad to angry and sad to angry and listening to both of those during the biggest heartbreak of my life. And good God. For me, like, I always want her to be scared of her guitar. I always want Olivia Rodrigo to be making the sad, sad thing. She's so good at the gut-wrenching. She has the voice for it. She's kind of my favorite of all of the girlies. Don't get me wrong, Sabrina, Gracie, Love, but, like, I'm picking Olivia every time. And that's, a lot of people are probably, they hate that take, but it's my truth. Like, I am, I'm a Rodrigonator. However, when she gets all, like, ah, like, teen angst with, like, plaid and, like, you know. Trying to smash a guitar. It's like, just sit down. Just go acoustic. Just give us the sad shit. Little Miss Rodrigo. There's nothing like Driver's License. I, oh my god. The heartbreak when that song came out. What's another album? Speaker 1 (17:16) Ooh, Divinely Uninspired to a hellish extent. Lewis Capaldi debut album. That is one Speaker 2 (17:22) front to back. Zero skips. Red cover. That was when my room was painted black. It's funny, the other day Hunter and I were talking about him and our friend Charlie Depew and they were just like the two partners in crime and they came over and they painted my walls black and I was only listening to that album and the sole reason that I wanted them to paint, ceiling included, air vents included, everything included, the sole reason I wanted a pitch black room was so I could sit in it and tell my Alexa. to play Divinely Uninspired to a hellish extent on shuffle and just sob. I didn't want to get better. And there is something about music and times of your life when you don't want to get better. Music hits harder Speaker 1 (17:57) when you don't want to get better. Speaker 2 (17:58) It's not that that's a good thing. Like get on the SSRI, you know, go do the things for your mental health, get better. But there is nothing like being like, God, I'm just going to be fucking miserable today and listen to Lewis Capaldi until I fucking knock out. So good. God, I love him. Both of his albums are great. I forget the name of the... The blue one. But the Pretender on that album is so good. And like hearing someone you loved for the first time, I felt like no one had ever, I don't know, encapsulated the feeling of getting used to being someone that someone else loved in such a simple but beautiful way. And there's nothing I love more either than Rasp. I feel like I, men and women, like even Miley