In the Weeds: Bobby's Awkward Encounter with Someone from Dancing with the Stars

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Key takeaways

• Taylor Swift's advice to artist Sombr suggests viewing online hate as 'data' that proves one's relevance.
• Bobby advises men in the industry to avoid placing hands around women's waists during photos to maintain professional boundaries.

Main topics

• Social media negativity
• Industry etiquette

Notable quotes

If your star wasn't shooting, nobody would see it.

Conclusion

The episode provides a mix of lighthearted family anecdotes and profou

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Love it. Straight into the point. I don't know if you fix a hematoma. Like Speaker 3 (4:22) she's Speaker 2 (4:22) a handyman. The dryer is broken. A hematoma is a pocket of blood that is leaked out of a blood vessel and collected in nearby tissue. Think of it as a more concentrated bruise. Under the skin, it can feel tender, a swollen lump. A lump? Yeah. I've Speaker 3 (4:45) had that before. It's huge in his ear. Sounds like that's just kind of a drain thing. Drain it. My butt might Speaker 2 (4:52) have a hematoma. What on earth? So, like, I've torn my butthole before. Yes. Like, I've torn it on a Peloton. Then also, I got a hemorrhoid a long time ago whenever I was training to do triathlons. And that never really goes away. It comes back sometimes. But there's, like, whenever it... It's just hard to heal because you have to use it all the time. Your butthole? Like every day? Yeah. If you're healthy. Yeah. And so I have seasons where it just kills me. Like it's killing me right now. So my dog's got a hematoma and I have an injured butthole. But you've had that for a long time. I do. It's chronic butthole. People don't Speaker 3 (5:31) know what you go through every day. Speaker 2 (5:32) Yeah. Welcome to In the Weeds, everybody. That's how it is. Eddie's sitting in this In the Weeds. I'm a little worried, though. Like, how in the weeds do you get on this thing? Very as we just got. That's pretty in the weeds. Yeah, very as we got. So I was looking at some comments of people being upset at Taylor Swift, and I don't think they should be. But are you familiar with the artist Sombrer? S-O-M-B-R. It's like 21. So a new guy, really good. But Taylor Swift told him, hey, you're getting hate. like appreciate the hate because that means basically you matter. There'll be time when you don't get the same hate. That's because you don't matter as much. Yeah. You've said that before. I have. And people are mad at Taylor going, Oh, that's insensitive or that's, that's shallow or, but I don't think I've heard her say anything more. Right. Yeah. I've had to readjust myself because of all at times the negativity and hate that I get. If. Like my star wasn't shooting. Nobody would see it. And the only time people can get upset at a shooting star is if they see it. Okay. And there are seasons where I get no hate. I'm like, I'm not hitting right now. And I don't want to judge it by just the hate. I don't look at it and go, oh, I feel great because of the hate. But you really have to put into perspective that unless you're doing something to hurt people, that the reason more people are commenting in general is because more people are seeing what you're doing. And if more people are seeing what you're doing, you're just naturally going to have a percentage of people that are upset with it. And so also what they love you for will be what another group hates you for. So I saw that and actually thought. It was quite poignant advice. But seeing people get Speaker 3 (7:14) mad at her felt so weird. It's a hard one to understand when you're not in the business because it's not very natural. It's not a natural feeling to look at hate or comments or a negative comment and think like, oh, hey, this Speaker 2 (7:32) is good. Well, yeah, but it doesn't feel good and it's not good. But if you don't look at it as data, that's it, data. You can really get depressed. Yeah. Speaker 3 (7:42) And think that everybody hates you. And to you and Taylor coming from it, from the data point of view, like, Hey, it's data. Like that means you're moving the Speaker 2 (7:50) needle. Yeah. But you have to experience it to get it. And it sucks experiencing it to get it. It's one of those, you only get perspective from situations that are hard. Like nobody gets any sort of free perspective. Perspective always come from situations you've been through. And to have that. And her to say that, I thought this is right on. And I would just imagine that all the people that are upset at her have not been in that situation. Yeah, Speaker 3 (8:12) exactly. Speaker 2 (8:13) And not had to, it's not even mental gymnastics. It's kind of rationalize with data the reason it's happening. Yeah. And can you look at the data without diving into the comments? No, no, it's just a feel. You feel, because there are times on this show I've been like, man, it feels like everybody on the internet just hates me. And I know rationally that's not true because I can look at, how things are, are, are, uh, streams of things and, uh, downloads and, uh, ratings. And I can look at numbers and go, well, that, even though it feels that way. And even though I see that, that's not reality, but most people that are happy with something, they're not commenting. So yeah, I thought that was pretty good advice by her, even though everybody was upset with her. Speaker 3 (9:00) I don't know why people get upset with her. You know what I expect to with her? Is that now that she's married, people don't like it when people get married. People don't like it when people are happy. There we go. Yeah, I think that's what it is. You know, even like some of my friends, I remember like when I got serious with my wife and got married, they weren't happy. Like they're just like, bro, like what? Like you're just gonna get married now? Or even some of her friends are just like, wow, my best friends no longer gonna be here. You're gonna... Go get married. And so like, it's a weird thing. Like you should be happy for the person for finding love. And with Taylor, I think people are just like, so used to like, gimme, gimme, gimme, gimme. Taylor gives me all of these feelings. She gives me good music. She gives me so much to read about. And then now she's like married to Speaker 2 (9:50) some dude. I think unhappy people don't like it when people are happy. I think happy people understand and root for people to be happy, but unhappy people don't like it when people are happy because it makes them feel inferior. How come this person can have something and it isn't even just happiness. It could be anything. How come this person gets to have something and I don't? I think that's really why a lot of the hate just happens on the internet anyway. How come this person gets whatever platform they have and I don't? So I'm going to put something negative here. I don't think I've ever put a negative comment on anything ever in my life. No, I haven't either. I mean, I've done it for fun, right? Like being funny. Yeah. You're like, you know, it's a joke. If I just don't like something, I get off of it. Right. Swipe away. I get off or I go away or I talk about it with my friend. Like that was stupid. Don't comment publicly. Now, there are times where. I'll be upset at the entire Arkansas Razorbacks football program. Speaker 3 (10:45) Yes, there are those Speaker 2 (10:45) times. But I'm not a negative commenter. And to me, it's crazy when people are. Individually. I can see it as a whole because I see it all the time on my stuff. But individually, I think if you were to talk to any of those people. They'd kind of be normal people that are just so unhappy in one part of their life. They've got to take it somewhere and do something with it or try to show why your happiness isn't valid. Do you know negative commenters personally? No. Really? Mm-mm. Ooh, I know a couple. Speaker 2 (11:16) No. I don't know the comment patterns of a lot of my friends, but I would imagine that none – I've never seen them be negative commenters. I've Speaker 3 (11:25) seen cousins of mine be negative commenters and be like, dude, what are you – why? Like Facebook or what? Yeah, yeah, yeah, Speaker 1 (11:30) yeah. Speaker 3 (11:31) Just for no reason. No, Speaker 2 (11:33) but Speaker 3 (11:33) for a reason. It's a reason, but I mean – and even for them, it's like, oh, that checks out on the kind of person they are. overall it's just like just keep that comment to yourself it doesn't Speaker 2 (11:44) even have to be a bad person it can just be someone that feels inadequate I think there's a lot of inadequacy in hate online yeah because you don't have people that feel adequate just generally in life Speaker 2 (12:01) Being negative. Speaker 3 (12:02) And there's no consequence either. And like in person, you get punched. True. Online, what are you going to do? Speaker 2 (12:08) True. I've been seeing a lot of dudes in my industry put their hands around the waist of female artists. You got to stop that. Don't do that. Those days are over, man. You got to stop. It looks creepy too. Speaker 3 (12:20) And it doesn't. Speaking of, dude, I saw an old picture of mine with like Carrie Underwood or something. And I think I had my hand around her waist. Well, Speaker 2 (12:27) that's creepy. And I'm like, dude, what were you thinking? I know. And I'm seeing them as of two and three and four weeks ago of dudes that are podcasters or radio guys and like an artist goes in and they take the picture together and they put their arm and you see their hand around their waist. That's like they're using that one opportunity to touch them. Yes. It's so creepy. Yes. And I don't know. You may go back 15 years and find me. Like you said, you saw an old picture of Speaker 3 (12:52) you. Speaker 2 (12:52) I did, dude. And I cringed. But the past seven to 10 years. Speaker 2 (12:59) I and 80 % of my pictures don't touch anybody for any reason. I put my hands in my pockets or I put them in front of me. If I really know the person or if they grab me first, I'll go up. Or if I go behind, I don't really touch their back. If they dig into the side, because a lot of people just naturally want a picture being taken. It's like, okay, get in. You do it tight. And you'll see pictures now for the most part, my hands in my pockets or they're in front of me across the board. But if it is, I don't put my hand on their back either. It hovers. Speaker 3 (13:29) It's floating Speaker 2 (13:29) back there. It's like if you have to go into a public restroom, you don't sit all the way down. I Speaker 3 (13:33) hover over the back. Because the person feels it. Like the person knows that Speaker 2 (13:37) you're feeling their side. Just if you are watching this and we ended up clipping this, if you are in entertainment and. You're a dude and a female artist comes in and take a picture. Do not put your hand around their waist. You look like a creep. It looks like you're waiting for this opportunity to touch a woman. Yeah, stop doing that. Stop doing that. I made a note to talk about that. Good Speaker 3 (13:57) note. What about the, so you said if you're a man, so can the women still do it? Because like I have a picture, I think Dolly's holding my waist. Hey, have at it, ladies. Shania was holding my waist. Have at it, ladies. They're probably Speaker 2 (14:10) not waiting for that opportunity. I feel like creepy dudes are just like waiting. They're like five hours till she gets here. I can't wait to touch her waist in the picture. Weirdo. Bro. I don't want to say who. Okay. But I ran into some folks from Dancing with the Stars. Oh, locally? No. And it wasn't the warmest. Speaker 2 (14:36) Not for me. This whole me versus Dancing with the Stars is a work. Dude, Speaker 3 (14:40) it's such a work that my son, my 18-year-old was like, dang, dad, Bobby's feuding with Dancing with the Stars. No, it's wrestling. It's pure wrestling. Speaker 2 (14:49) And I say this. I love the show. I love the people that run the show. I love my time there, everything about it. It's the hardcore fans that attack me all the time. So instead of just hiding. I feud with the fans, but it's such a work. I give no real crap. My life is no different. And so I come on and in real life though, it's funny, goofy. I don't care. Uh, but I ran into, uh, and was awkward and not because of me. I went right up and said, what's up? And they kind of pariahed me. Do you think that Speaker 3 (15:27) you're a topic of conversation in those Speaker 2 (15:29) circles? Persona non grata? I don't know what that means. Person not welcomed? What's a non grata? Non grata? Is that a different language? I would assume it's Italian, but I don't know. I've just always heard that. It's Latin. Oh, it is? Dang, dude. This stands for what? Unwelcome person. Okay. Yeah. I feel like I thought they would think it was a work. And I'll say this. There was a couple on the show this season. Speaker 4 (15:57) Dang. One of Speaker 2 (15:58) them was a little warmer because I had actually met them. And they were like, hey. It's kind of forced, but the pro would hardly even look at me. No way. And I thought it was weird because I had a great experience. And the pro, I knew. Speaker 2 (16:14) Wow. So do you think that, did you think that they knew that it was all like, I don't think any of this stuff that I do in a camera on a microphone is