Is Your Stress From Resisting Where Life Is Going?
10 MINUTES TO LESS SUFFERING
This episode of '10 Minutes to Less Suffering' explores how resisting life's current circumstances intensifies stress and emotional pain, us
Key takeaways
- Resistance to current experiences amplifies suffering; acceptance doesn't mean approval but allows space for life's flow.
- Even in pain, life may be moving in our favor in ways we can't yet see.
Main topics
- The cost of resisting reality
- Acceptance as a tool for reducing stress
Notable quotes
Life is still flowing. That's the part we forget.
Everything is the way it's supposed to be because it is.
Conclusion
By letting go of resistance, embracing uncertainty with 'Maybe,' and stay
Transcript preview
Speaker 1 (0:11) Hello, my name is Alison Korman and welcome to my podcast, 10 Minutes to Less Suffering. And the name of today's podcast is Your Stress from Resisting Where Life is Going. And this has been on my mind the last couple of days. I've been thinking about the moments that I get stressed and they always have to do with a resistance to what's happening. And we all know that sometimes we're facing something that's so painful, that's so hard to be with, that to ask ourselves not to resist is almost impossible. But when we remember this idea, or at least hold the notion of it, even during difficult times, I find that there's a shorter period for us to get to that place of letting go. There's a shorter period that we hold our stress because we understand that We don't always know what's best. We don't always know where things are going. And sometimes life has this nature to it, this flow, and sometimes even a protective quality of what we actually need in the moment. One of the most profound stories that I always think back on when I'm trying to get back into the flow of life and stop resisting. Happened to me about eight months after my husband left me. We had to meet at a bank to sign some documents. And when we got there, it was the first time I had seen him since he left. He looked different. He was dressed in designer clothes. And he said to me during that meeting, I don't get a hug. And I remember in that moment, it was so heartbroken. I was still such a mess. And he was trying to normalize it. that we would hug each other. The documents that were signed were very beneficial to me. But I was so in shock. How could he say that? How could that happen? And I was holding the papers in my hand, which were so good, but I was overwhelmed by the stress of that moment. And for me, it was a very painful moment. And I called a friend of mine, and I was walking through the city streets. I was yelling and screaming and crying, and I fell. I was wearing these high heel boots. And when I fell, I twisted my ankle. And people helped me up. I don't even remember it that clearly. And I tried to walk on my ankle and was in so much pain. And I